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ArtMan
Posted: Monday, December 05, 2011 8:44:42 PM

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It feels odd when some Lush member that you like just disappears.

One that has not logged in for 3 months is abygaleturner69. I really enjoyed her stories and she always left great comments on mine. Her page is still there but who knows.

I am sure that this will happen every so often it just feels strange when it does. Maybe kind of a sad feeling.

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Guest
Posted: Saturday, December 10, 2011 10:34:00 PM

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Yes a friend of mine turned me onto this site because we both love to write stories. One day logged in and he had deleted his account. I get down about it because if I was to leave I would put a comment in. Just how I am....
Guest
Posted: Saturday, December 10, 2011 11:46:05 PM

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honestly pisses me off so much!! more so hurts me especially if they were a person i talked to on a regular basis!
Alphamagus
Posted: Sunday, December 11, 2011 2:21:20 AM

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Swollen
Posted: Sunday, December 11, 2011 9:46:22 AM

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Some of my closest internet friends were founded on Lush, but have now moved on and away to maybe 'safer ground' away from the overtly sexual environment here. Good friends will stay in your life a long time , fickle friends - well who really cares anyway!
poizenivy
Posted: Sunday, December 11, 2011 8:47:17 PM

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I have recently had this happen to me and I do feel a sense of loss. We communicated several times a day everyday then suddenly nothing. I do pray that my friend is safe and well. I am now being careful not to allow anyone on lush to become that much a part of my daily life because it hurts. I get that life happens and we all have our priorities. Still friends are not supposed to just disappear. Ok I am done belly aching.

Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X

overmykneenow
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 10:38:28 AM

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People move on, they change or their circumstances change - it's tough but we have to accept it.

Not everyone is about tearful goodbyes, some prefer to slip out the back-door.

But of course sometime you get the ones like this... http://www.lushstories.com/stories/love-poems/it-has-to-stop.aspx





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Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 2:16:11 PM

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overmykneenow wrote:
People move on, they change or their circumstances change - it's tough but we have to accept it.

Not everyone is about tearful goodbyes, some prefer to slip out the back-door.

But of course sometime you get the ones like this... http://www.lushstories.com/stories/love-poems/it-has-to-stop.aspx





Oh man....just love seeing some shameless self promotion evil4
Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 2:31:05 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:

Oh man....just love seeing some shameless self promotion evil4


I think I need to write about the last best friend who just deleted his account (sad, sad, sad) ... I'll post the creative results!
naughtyannie
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 2:34:40 PM

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I remember being quite shocked when someone I chatted to regularly just disappeared from the top of my friends list.

Luckily, it was a temporary thing, and she was soon back, but it made me realise how much it meant, just knowing she was there for a chat when we were both on together.

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fannietuesday
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 2:57:36 PM

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one of the saddest things i've personally had to deal with--in a long time--was seeing that my oldest and best friend was gone. luckily we shared an e-mail about his departure, but there isn't a day that goes by that i don't miss seeing his stupid name and generic avatar at the top of my list.
Boombabong
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 3:30:49 PM

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Best thing to do... keep the contact outside Lush!
Catnip
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 3:46:19 PM

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Usually the people I get to be close friends with have a certain way of leaving that wont be unnoticed.

I think I'm one of the ones who leave a note on the kitchentable, slip out the back door. Forget something very many times and my escape gets noticed. Then I escape quietly for a while come back without keys and press myself down the chimney like ST Nick and sit me down by the dinner table, assuming that my plate is still there.



Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 4:44:04 PM

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I have been here a long time. Online life is more intensive than most friendships or flirtations. People leave because they get bored or their other half finds out or their online lives start taking over their real one. I don't mean to sound cynical but how much can you really know from someone's online persona? How much is real and how much is bullshit? You once fufilled a need and they don't need you anymore so they leave in the most painless way(for them). They don't then have to deal with the fall out that their cowardice created.
Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:02:16 PM

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Loislane wrote:
I have been here a long time. Online life is more intensive than most friendships or flirtations. People leave because they get bored or their other half finds out or their online lives start taking over their real one. I don't mean to sound cynical but how much can you really know from someone's online persona? How much is real and how much is bullshit? You once fufilled a need and they don't need you anymore so they leave in the most painless way(for them). They don't then have to deal with the fall out that their cowardice created.


Well put Lois...

I compare Lush time vs RL time to dog years/human years. It can be super intense.


I've lost a few - some came back, some never.

It's nature of the beast I guess...
Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:25:12 PM

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That's the thing about the Internet, you never know what's going to happen.
I get scared that it might happen to one of my friends that I talk to, I'll log
in one day and Omg they're MIA!! Boo hoo!
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:35:40 PM

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If you have a meaningful connection with someone, it should go beyond Lush.

For the more casual 'online friends', it's just the way life evolves... and not that different than real life in some ways. People's lives cross and uncross as life changes over time. It's natural.

Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:38:28 PM

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It is a strange feeling that the people you connect with on Lush are no longer on the site. It does not feel right! I really do miss talking to CokeheadBarbie and Contessa…
Jezziebelle
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:54:58 PM

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I know I connect with my Lushie friends and they definitely pick me up when I'm down, but when I'm dating someone seriously I don't generally use the site, I feel sort of guilty about it. If they're into it too, then that's cool, but a lot of times it just makes people uncomfortable or jealous and the emotional connection with my real life love life is more important to me so I try to avoid drama or hurt feelings. Plus it just makes ME uncomfortable. If I'm in love with someone and they are filling all my needs, I feel no need to use the site other than to just monitor my page/stories. To me,, when people disappear I always think they have something going right in their real life, and I try to be happy for them.

Right there. Oh yeah baby. Right there.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 5:55:15 PM

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heheh, I just hum this ~ at a time like that.



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ArtMan
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 7:56:31 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
heheh, I just hum this ~ at a time like that.



A most excellent observation!

You are invited to read Passionate Danger, Part II, a story collaboration by Kim and ArtMan.
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/straight-sex/passionate-danger-part-ii.aspx

Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 9:59:03 PM

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I had a few friends who i talked to everytime they were on here, the first one ended up randomly deleting his account one day and I was kind of sad. then this guy i had talked to on both Lush and yahoo, he deleted his account and never signed on yahoo anymore, but then not too long ago, he showed up again on Lush.

Most recently, one of my friends who i was talking to everyday (and with him, I NEVER talked dirty, I had actual conversations with him and found out a lot about him) sadly I came on to find his account was deleted....however, his roommate sent messages to his friends, sadly he had been killed. I cried a bit, he was a really cool and interesting person to talk to.
mike711
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 11:52:17 PM

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Jezziebelle wrote:
I know I connect with my Lushie friends and they definitely pick me up when I'm down, but when I'm dating someone seriously I don't generally use the site, I feel sort of guilty about it. If they're into it too, then that's cool, but a lot of times it just makes people uncomfortable or jealous and the emotional connection with my real life love life is more important to me so I try to avoid drama or hurt feelings. Plus it just makes ME uncomfortable. If I'm in love with someone and they are filling all my needs, I feel no need to use the site other than to just monitor my page/stories. To me,, when people disappear I always think they have something going right in their real life, and I try to be happy for them.

yeah i think you said it best
Guest
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 11:57:23 PM

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Just logged on tonight and realized one of my top friends is gone. Deleted with no goodbye message and no reason. Leaves me shaking my head that she would be gone with out even saying goodbye.
Dani
Posted: Monday, December 12, 2011 11:59:11 PM

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What it comes down to is that some people come to be apart of the community for the long run, and others just pass through. Sure some connections may be made and some take them more seriously than others. I also agree with Jezziebelle...sometimes "real life" gets in the way. However, does that make what happens online unreal? I suppose the answer for some is "yes" which is why people disappear...


overmykneenow
Posted: Tuesday, December 13, 2011 2:11:06 AM

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LittleBambi wrote:


Oh man....just love seeing some shameless self promotion evil4


A.B.C. sweetie... Always Be Closing

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Guest
Posted: Tuesday, December 20, 2011 7:52:27 PM

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I am missing missdelicious. I talked to her everyday and she deleted her account with no warning. Even after she talked me into keeping mine:(
DirtyMartini
Posted: Tuesday, December 20, 2011 8:12:38 PM

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ArtMan wrote:


One that has not logged in for 3 months is abygaleturner69. I really enjoyed her stories and she always left great comments on mine. Her page is still there but who knows.



Let me say, be glad her page is still there...that's always a good sign...

Funny, I just noticed one of my first friends here actually just logged back on today after about 22 months, I would guess...

I realize people come and go for different reasons here, and sometimes it just suits them and it has nothing whatsoever to do with you...but, like I said...be glad her page is still there...that's a plus, let me tell you...


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Buz
Posted: Wednesday, December 21, 2011 6:06:57 AM

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I had a message this morning from a very good Lush friend that she had deleted her account. I was shocked and very saddening, actually just sick about it. She even had a competition story entered. I will really miss her being here very much. And I also noticed that all of her great comments on my stories had vanished as well as votes my stories had received from her.

1curiouscat
Posted: Wednesday, December 21, 2011 7:16:44 AM

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Buz wrote:
I had a message this morning from a very good Lush friend that she had deleted her account. I was shocked and very saddening, actually just sick about it. She even had a competition story entered. I will really miss her being here very much. And I also noticed that all of her great comments on my stories had vanished as well as votes my stories had received from her.


i feel you buz!!!



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