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Posted: Sunday, June 3, 2012 12:11:48 PM

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Posted: Sunday, June 3, 2012 8:05:09 PM

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For me even tho mine was a consideration collar, it meant full trust and by having it no matter what i believed in it till i had no reason to believe anymore.

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Posted: Tuesday, June 5, 2012 8:04:13 AM

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A collar is the ultimate show of a bond between a slave and their Master or Mistress it means the they both trust each other implicitly

Posted: Tuesday, June 5, 2012 12:05:14 PM

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My collar was a sign of devotion and love for my Mistress/Wife. I wore it proudly, It gave me opportunity to share with any who asked the nature of my relationship with my Mistress/Wife and to express my unyielding love for her
Posted: Friday, June 8, 2012 11:48:49 PM

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being collard .. its such a beautiful sacrad act of love... the way you and your Master are becomeing one together. it is priceless. its the most amazing thing one sub can hope for, experience .. and cherrish. i love my master and i cant wait for the day where i am fully obedient to him and. he provides me with my necklace... something i think of daily. :D im my masters and im fully devoted to him no one can come between me and him and when the time is right .. he wil know.. and that is when it will be presented.. ive had a collar with my previous master and the time i had with him was alright but with my Master now.. i know its right.i know i can be good for him.. and our love will grow even more when im collard....

Posted: Saturday, June 9, 2012 1:08:34 AM

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I will be able to say if and when I am lucky enough to experience it.........

Posted: Saturday, June 9, 2012 3:29:58 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
I like wearing a collar and leash sometimes for dirty sex and role-play but for me it's just a moment in time, not a lifestyle.

So I have a question for the collard and cuffed people: Is this similar to an 'engagement ring' or 'marriage' of sorts. I'm not in the BDSM lifestyle, so I'm really just trying to understand the dynamics behind this concept. Also, how serious is this commitment viewed? Knowing that many/most relationships and marriages meet their eventual demise, I'm just wondering how difficult it would be for a sub/master relationship to end and what the "uncollaring" ritual entails? Also.. would a sub seek out another master to collar them or is this considered a 'once in a lifetime' commitment only? And lastly... can you be in a relationship or marriage to one person and be collared/cuffed to a different "master" or is this prohibited?

Dancing Doll I will be happy to answer your questions. First let me say that just in any lifestyle there are many views on collars and they vary from person to person and relationship to relationship.

A collar is usually given once a contract has been signed and is an outward sign to others in the BDSM lifestyle that the submissive/slave/bottom is owned and is not available without consent of their Master/Mistress/Dom/Tops permission. The commitment for most that do this is pretty serious. Or it can be just for a predetermined amount of time that the collar is worn, such as during a BDSM scene. It truly depends on the agreement between the parties involved.

It is not difficult at all to end a BDSM relationship. Just as in a vanilla relationship either party can walk at anytime. There is nothing legal and binding about a collar. Typically there are no rituals for the ending of this type of relationship. I mean i through my last Master's collar at his head as i walked out the door.

Being married to one person and collared to another is not prohibited in BDSM. It all depends on the agreements and preferences of those involved in the D/s relationship. I know a few people that are collared to some one other than the person they are married to.
Posted: Tuesday, June 12, 2012 8:49:25 AM

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I'll just copy my answer from MistressS thread -

Mine represents my love and my Master's love to each other, as well as my submission to Him and belonging to Him and Him only. My training collar (the one I'm currently in) has to be taken off when I go into a shower and if I'm at Master's then the rush of emotions I get when He puts it on me is just indescribable, if I had to sum it up I would have to say it's a very intense happiness and a sense of belonging. That's what it means to me. And on the off chance were I'm in the position of which I cannot wear my collar and Master is no-where around I feel so naked.

Since that post I have gotten a more permanant collar that I don't have to take off and it always means the same to me. It gives me hope when I'm down and a sense of belonging when I feel like I don't belong.

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Posted: Saturday, June 23, 2012 7:33:01 AM

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Being collard depends on the D/s relationship you're in. Sometimes your collar could be a bracelet or ring, it doesn't have to actually be a collar. When a sub is collared its very special an I don't believe it should happen right away, but that's just me. I think the sub should have to earn their collar. The collar isn't just something pretty we get to wear but something with meaning. It shows that a sub is owned and that the sub is proud to be owned and loyal to their owner. It also shows the love between the Dom and sub, which has more meaning than anything. In my case yes I actually have a collar an it took some time for me to earn it. And when a sub is collared it should be permanent unless the relationship comes to an end. It's an amazing feelin to be collared and to wear that special something your Dom gave to you.

Posted: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 11:28:08 AM

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Dudealicious wrote:

It's a very special commitment in a D/s relationship and something not to be considered lightly.

Dude finally someone on here that knows that being collared in our lifestyle is not a joke

Posted: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 11:32:34 AM

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I will give the perspective from a Master's point of view I collar my slave when she has earned it when she has proven beyond a doubt total submission to me

Posted: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 4:32:23 PM

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When a Master or Mistress makes the decision to collar their slave that is a huge commitment on the slave and the Master or Mistresses part.

1) That is a mark of ownership from that Master or Mistress for the slave. That means that all actions of that slave that are taken in the public eye reflect back on the Master or Mistress whether that is actually the known case or not. This means that the reputation and respect of the Master and Mistress is on the line.

2) It is a sign of commitment that speaks to an extremely deep love and passion that is held for the slave. It means that the slave is now the most precious possession of the Master and Mistress.

3) It is a sign of total commitment of the slave to said Master or Mistress.

I can think of no higher complement that I could pay my slave then to offer her or him my collar.

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Posted: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 6:15:12 PM

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The collared is giving themselves fully to there master, mind and body, they are putting there trust in the master not to abuse this commitment, and in turn they must not break it.
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