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Fireballsteve
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 12:20:45 PM

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I thought this was interesting. I meet this gal online and we message back and forth for about three weeks. It develops into pretty hot chat. I mean, everything from straight sex to oral, anal, even rimming. We send pictures back and forth. I even sent her a video of me white water rafting (that another girl took from land, but that's a different story). After three weeks I ask her if she wants to meet. She asked me to send her another picture, which I do. She tells me she's been burned many times by guys who say they are younger and better looking than they are or send pictures of people not themselves. I've heard many stories like this.

We meet at a Starbucks and it's instantly apparent to me that her photos were doctored or done by one of those glamor photography studios. She' way different looking and heavier and older than her pictures make her out to be. I, on the other hand, send her casula pictures (and video) of me from the last three months. I decide to stay and see how it goes and crtainly don't mention my observations.

The evening goes well (no sex, but I wasn't expecting it).

The next day she writes me and says she will not be seeing me anymore because I was 20 - 30 lbs heavier than my photo and 5 years younger in my photo. I'm 6-foot-2 and weight 220. not skinny by any means but certainly not overweight looking. And she so obviously doctored her pics and I didn't. I had to read it twice because I thought at first she was acknowledging SHE looked 5 years younger and 30 lbs lighter in her photos but it was her accusing me of that... which I didn't do. How could she be so hypocritical?

I have not responded to her yet. Interested to see what you think the response should be... thank you
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 12:37:53 PM

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Honestly - I say, have at her. Tell her what you think (the observations you mention here). Just state it more factually and neutrally rather than emotionally so it doesn't appear that you're just saying this because she insulted you first. Then tell her that clearly this was a mismatch and good luck with life etc.

In my opinion, she opened the door to "honest opinion giving" with her note to you. If it was me, I would have just done a 'there was no chemistry, I'm not looking for anything further' or just do a fade away. There's a way to keep it classy if the attraction isn't there.

Sounds like she has a misguided impression of what she looks like. Photoshop can be a reality-crusher.

PS. a good option before meeting people is to each take a pic in the mirror with the date written on the mirror or a piece of paper and holding it up. At least you both get to know that it's a current pic etc. or do a cam-chat first.

1ball
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 1:58:28 PM

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I know that you asked the gals this, but I love this kind of 'honesty' stuff.

Tell her that you thank her for the challenge and ask to meet her again so that you can both take photos of each other and compare them right there to what was previously sent.

Yep, I can be a real asshole with a smile on my face. :D

To your question, "How could she be so hypocritical?", many people cling to delusions of excessive worth. She may have sensed the chemistry wasn't there and wanted to preserve her inflated self-image by striking first.

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TheDevilsWeakness
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 2:11:33 PM

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Pictures can lie. They're only two dimensional. Sounds like her personality is as well.
I'd chalk it up as experience. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of a reply.
Although its too bad you didn't snap a picture of her when you met.
You could've sent it back to her with a picture she sent to you as a comparison so she could see the hypocrisy staring her in the face.

But then again... she probably wouldn't have noticed.

Dani
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 2:57:05 PM

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1ball wrote:
To your question, "How could she be so hypocritical?", many people cling to delusions of excessive worth. She may have sensed the chemistry wasn't there and wanted to preserve her inflated self-image by striking first.


You hit the nail right on the head with this one. It's a psychological phenomenon. Clearly the lack of chemistry was HER fault because she wasn't as attractive as she presented herself to be, but she struck below the belt before you had a chance to.


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Hautie
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 3:07:36 PM

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I have a tendency to be a little too honest about what I look like and what I am. I don't see any point in lying to someone (wheter I hope to meet them or not) and tell them I am a size 2 and look like Kate Beckinsale, when its not the truth. Any woman who would not only lie to you like that but then to turn the tables on you as well and state that you are the one lying, doesn't belong in your life.

I would say she has some issues of her own and she might have been upset to see that you actually matched the pics and she knew she didn't therefore its easy to blame someone else than to take the responsiblity to say "those pics of me were a few years old and I know I look different now I hope you weren't disappointed and that we can continue to talk." Thats one of the classier responses but people today are more interested in being "right" than doing whats right.

I wouldn't loose any sleep over this little girl parading herself as a woman. A real woman wouldn't have acted in such a juvinile manner.

Good Luck finding someone worthy of your time.

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Fireballsteve
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 3:07:58 PM

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I love the suggestion of asking them to take a picture of themselves in the mirror with the date on it... that's funny but would work. In all honestly I was prepared to deal with the differences and if I liked her, I wasn't going to make a thing of it. I think a couple of you were right. I remember getting pictures made at my friend's wedding and I looked about as good as I could get in a tux. That was three years ago and I look at those pictures now and there's no way I'd send those to a woman who might meet me. I'll bet she just sees herself that way, the way she looked in those photoshopped pix.

VanGogh
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 3:42:06 PM

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there is something to be said about being classy and ignoring (deleting) her - as it doesn't change the facts - no chemistry and she sounds like a bitch. It is obvious, as DD said

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Sounds like she has a misguided impression of what she looks like.

Lots of people seem to think they look better than they really do.

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Shylass
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 4:03:41 PM

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I have one self portrait that I am happy (okay, not really, but partly willing) to share with a very select few friends. I am open and honest about the fact that I angled my head so you can't see my extra chins. evil4 If I was going to meet somebody, I would have to send them a photo of me looking my worst, too, to see if they were scared. If they still wanted to meet after that, then I would consider it. But no WAY could I pretend to be something I am not with tricks and photo-editing without showing the true story, and I would certainly not be as mean and down-right ugly in attitude as that person was to you!

I hate how so many people on here are always asking me what I look like. It doesn't matter! They won't ever see me anyway, but I won't lie and tell them I'm whatever-they-want-to-see.. One lad kept going on about how he wanted to see me, and he betted I didn't look as I said I did (honesty is always my policy). So I showed him, because I was fed up of him going on, and I feel too mean to block people. He didn't say anything for a few minutes, and then came back with, "I see what you mean". I never heard from him again. evil4

That's why I'm very select in who I show myself to, and then only when I feel they have shared sufficient of their own character I am fairly sure that they won't be cruel, and will simply see my outer shell as just that - an outer shell that houses Me.

I suppose in the same position as the OP, I would have to say, "You weren't as I was expecting either, you know. In fact, you're a completely different person, and I don't just mean physically. Good luck with your life." Of course, I would add on quite a few expletives in my head.


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Nikki703
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 4:03:45 PM

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If you want to have at her for being such a delusional hypocrite, who could really blame you. But in my opinion, that really isnt going to get you anywhere now is it? The girl is in her own world. She doctors her pics and after a while they are real to her. Its like the guy/girl who tells a lie so often they actually begin to believe it. Just let it go. You know you were being honest, what else do you need.

I once met this guy online and we became good friends. We exchanged pics just so we would know who we were chatting with. I really had no interest in meeting him but he put me through the ringer about my pics being real. He asked me to send him a pic wearing certain color clothes which I did and still he questioned me. This went on for a good while. It was a game to me so I went a long but once he asked me to hold up a piece of paper with the words "Four Score and Seven Years Ago" written on it. Well I said sure. So I sent him a pic of myself in a bikini holding a sign that said "Four Score and Seven Days Ago, I met a guy online who was such a loser, even his own hand rejected him. FUCK YOU ASSHOLE!" Needless to say I never heard from him again. No, it wasnt on Lush, LOL!!

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Bunny12
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 4:07:49 PM

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She's totally wasting your time I wouldn't give her another thought and on to the next. That is one reason I want pics on demand via text or see them live on cam as most people you meet online are totally full of shit!

Bunny12


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VanGogh
Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 4:44:54 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
I once met this guy online and we became good friends. We exchanged pics just so we would know who we were chatting with. I really had no interest in meeting him but he put me through the ringer about my pics being real. He asked me to send him a pic wearing certain color clothes which I did and still he questioned me. This went on for a good while. It was a game to me so I went a long but once he asked me to hold up a piece of paper with the words "Four Score and Seven Years Ago" written on it. Well I said sure. So I sent him a pic of myself in a bikini holding a sign that said "Four Score and Seven Days Ago, I met a guy online who was such a loser, even his own hand rejected him. FUCK YOU ASSHOLE!" Needless to say I never heard from him again. No, it wasnt on Lush, LOL!!

You Cant Make This Shit Up!!HAHA


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Posted: Sunday, July 29, 2012 5:11:03 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
If you want to have at her for being such a delusional hypocrite, who could really blame you. But in my opinion, that really isnt going to get you anywhere now is it? The girl is in her own world. She doctors her pics and after a while they are real to her. Its like the guy/girl who tells a lie so often they actually begin to believe it. Just let it go. You know you were being honest, what else do you need.

I once met this guy online and we became good friends. We exchanged pics just so we would know who we were chatting with. I really had no interest in meeting him but he put me through the ringer about my pics being real. He asked me to send him a pic wearing certain color clothes which I did and still he questioned me. This went on for a good while. It was a game to me so I went a long but once he asked me to hold up a piece of paper with the words "Four Score and Seven Years Ago" written on it. Well I said sure. So I sent him a pic of myself in a bikini holding a sign that said "Four Score and Seven Days Ago, I met a guy online who was such a loser, even his own hand rejected him. FUCK YOU ASSHOLE!" Needless to say I never heard from him again. No, it wasnt on Lush, LOL!!

You Cant Make This Shit Up!!HAHA


Well played! Hilarious :)
Fireballsteve
Posted: Monday, July 30, 2012 11:14:31 PM

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So I wrote her back and she responded. I have to share it with you that were advising me on this thread.

Jessica, I have to say I'm a little surprised. I'm certainly ok that you don't feel you and I were a good match but >>>>
I was really shocked that you would say you felt I misrepresented myself in the digital pix I sent >>>>
when the ones you sent me were so obviously doctored. My pix were taken within the last three months and >>>
were not doctored. Can you say the same? I find your comments fairly insulting when you seem to hold >>
yourself to a different standard. At any rate, I do wish you the best of luck. Take care.

...and then her response.

it's called yuen lui and very woman i know takes a few liberties like this. its different for a man than it is a woman. you should know that. men lie all the time. its in theyre nature. i just feel like i deserve the best and im not ashamed to believe it. i wish you well too.
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Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 12:09:43 AM

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Well played Nikki, well played.

Steve, you dodged a bullet. If I had been communicating with that woman, my first clue that she was someone I'd not get along with would've been her complete disregard for punctuation, capitalization and spelling. I wouldn't even have agreed to meet her.

Unless I was really drunk (okay, some of you know I've met worse before) drunken

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TheDevilsWeakness
Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 6:11:47 AM

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Oh WOW! Be thankful you got away. WMM said you dodged a bullet... more like a tank.

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