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cokeheadbarbie
Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:17:07 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:
cokeheadbarbie wrote:

Okay then. Have fun buying your man's drinks at the club. Giggles.

How cud it be materialistic to expect some bloke to shell out a few quid to buy me a martini if hes making intros?

You surely need to set your sights higher. Its only the broke men will tell you its shallow and materialistic cos what else can they say right? Thats how they suck you in and next thing you are going dutch on meals and "lending" money for rent on their flat to try to prove you arent materialistic or shallow. Hah Those deadbeats got game so you got to watch for their tricks otherwise you are playin' and payin' right into it.

xx B.


I think you're not quite getting the gist of what I'm saying.... I don't, at this point in my life, need the stable and providing kind of man. I don't see it as a man's place to buy me a drink, or anything else for that matter unless we're sharing our finances so to speak. If I happen to be out at a bar, chances are I've got enough money on me to buy my own drinks and a taxi home...

If a guy wants to buy me a drink, that's very kind of him. But if he wants to have a chat with me without buying me a drink.. well then that's also fine. I'm not going to say 'no freaking way' to a guy just because he doesn't buy me a drink or whatever, the only time I'll say 'no freaking way' is when I've spent enough time with the guy to judge his character and decide that I, quite simply, don't like it.


When you said "I'm not going to say 'no freaking way' to a guy just because he doesn't buy me a drink or whatever," it surprise me cos I've never heard of a girl give time to a guy if he say sorry baby buy your own bevvie. It's so rude! I don't get it.

Men know that if a girl is really hot then he needs to treat her like a princess and no princess is buying her own Cosmo at the bar!!
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:17:39 PM

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WellMadeMale -

Without going into too much detail.... it's getting rather late and my brain is beginning to turn to mush (more so than it usually is anyway!)

I simply meant that I don't need someone with money, I understand money playing more of a part in one's choice of a partner if you are looking to build a life with someone - but, and forgive me for sounding immature and naive about it, I'm 18....I'm not looking to settle down, I don't need someone who I can rely on to pay the bills, all I want is nice, easy going company with a bit of bedroom skills.

I guess I find it a bit...I don't know exactly what the word is...but us women seem to spend an awful lot of time complaining about how the world is biased towards men, how we're seen as the weaker sex....and indeed, women in the recent past have put a hell of a lot of work in to try and balance the scales with regards to the equality of sexes.. of course, they have separate sport events for men and women - I don't mean on that sort of level..

But I mean, for instance, where cokeheadbarbie describes how she feels it would be 'embarrassing' to be seen reaching for her own purse....I wouldn't personally see it that way, I wouldn't find anything embarrassing about being with a guy for his personality and being successful enough (financially) to be able to dip into my own purse in the first place.

I don't like it when you have men that are 'stingey'....ie, they have money but won't spend a bit of it - no, not on presents and the likes...but on things like I mentioned earlier: splitting the travelling costs of seeing each other, etc etc. That's the sort of thing I won't stand for.

An ex of mine wasn't particularly well off, newly moved out of home, finding it a little bit difficult to juggle all the bills and responsibilities...there were times when I'd done a fair bit of work and had enough money to buy us both dinner when he was a bit skint, and times when I was a bit skint that he'd have enough to buy us both dinner (or whatever).

...Personally I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't consider myself to have 'low standards' for choosing to be with a guy I really get on with who isn't rolling in money.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:25:18 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:
WellMadeMale -

Without going into too much detail.... it's getting rather late and my brain is beginning to turn to mush (more so than it usually is anyway!)

I simply meant that I don't need someone with money, I understand money playing more of a part in one's choice of a partner if you are looking to build a life with someone - but, and forgive me for sounding immature and naive about it, I'm 18....I'm not looking to settle down, I don't need someone who I can rely on to pay the bills, all I want is nice, easy going company with a bit of bedroom skills.

...Personally I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't consider myself to have 'low standards' for choosing to be with a guy I really get on with who isn't rolling in money.


You GET it, Bambi. And I don't consider you to be young nor naive at 18. As a matter of fact, you seem refreshingly open, honest and apparently quite mature! Cheers and goodnight ~

If ya can't beat 'em... pay someone to do it for you.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:28:56 PM

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cokeheadbarbie wrote:
latinfoxy wrote:
cokeheadbarbie wrote:
Omifuck that story racked me into hysterics!!!! Any bloke who doesn't know its his job to buy girls drinks at a bar has got to be a right virgin or scared of girls. Theres no girl on the globe thats going to be talking intros with a guy at a club and then go buy and pay for her own drink while hes just standing there chatting her. Giggles. How embarassing! I guess its good for those types to spend their time online then because in the real world everyone knows that buying drinks is social and a way to buy a girls attention to have a chat with her. Its not being a whore its called being a normal person in a bar! I will chat until the drink is finished and if I like him we'll keep it up and he can buy me another.

Its not just because you give someone something it makes you a whore. I dont get the warped logic in this thread-posting at all.

Cash for a shag is a clear transaction. I have some male friendz in different parts of the world that help me out with rent sometimes or give me a little loan but it doesnt mean I absolutely have to have sex with them but if I'm staying at their place or on their boat and were partying and wrecked then sometimes things happen and so if I flash a little nipp to put a smile on his face or we party so much we end up having a bit of a shag then big deal no? My friendz tend to be loaded and nice to me if I need it but its not the same as a stranger paying you right out for a BJ.

IMO anyways.

xx B.


WOW the name Barbie defenitely suits you! I dont know about you but i wasnt raise to be just another hot girl waiting for a guy to pay my drinks bills or materials things, i need or just want. I was raise to be a smart, financially independent woman not a trophy wife that looks good but cant think or talk because no man would pay attention other than her boobs.

Yes is always apreciated to have a guy buying you a drink, not because of how much that drink cost but because of the gesture itself. Im not saying i want a deadbeat guy by my side because i want from the man i choose to be with to be as driven in live as i am and that implies material things and a comfortable life, but sometimes when you meet someone he/she might not be on the best financial situation of his life for an endless types of reasons and that doesnt mean that he is gonna be like that the rest of his life or that he doesnt deserve me talking to him long enough so i can decide if his PERSONALITY is worth of my time or not.

But getting back to the subject, i havent done it, have had some propositions but didnt feel the need or desire to do it. About the people that have get paid for sex one time or regularly im sure they have a reason why to do it and i see it must of the times as a win win situation, someone needed the money someone needed the sex so good for them.



Guys don't want it either its too emasculating btw

xx B.


Well because neither you or i are guys why dont we let them decide about that shall we? i just put the question on the ask the guys forum and just lets see what they think of that
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:38:14 PM

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Plain old growing pains or plain survival, be it emotional or physically important is whoring?

For me, the word whore describes a person who chooses to get through whatever without scruples and who is immoral without concern for anything but themselves. Whore does not describe a man stuck in a dead end job to take care of his own or a woman selling the only thing she believes is of worth to do ultimately the same.

It's important for me to know that I am not a whore even though I've made a lot of mistakes in my life to survive and because I was ignorant. The things that I and others have learned in this struggle are precious to me and not whoredom.

Some are not born with nobility but earn this and die with it. I believe LadyX and I and most are those people.

For the subject, I've thought about selling my body more times than I'd like to admit but could not bring myself to do it even though I was desperate. I did not do it I'm sure because I was selfish and couldn't bring myself to it even to feed my children. I did beg, steal and lie.

Torture the data long enough and they will confess to anything.
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Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 12:45:10 AM

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WellMadeMale wrote:


You GET it, Bambi. And I don't consider you to be young nor naive at 18. As a matter of fact, you seem refreshingly open, honest and apparently quite mature! Cheers and goodnight ~


Nice of you to say so.... icon_smile
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Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 1:45:04 AM

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If I might weigh in on the original question briefly, I think most people who have a negative opinion of people who accept money for sex tend to be those who wish they could, but can't. Or perhaps those whose husbands are paying evil4

Sex can just be an action, we sell other "actions" every day, like talking, writing, lifting, carrying etc depending on your job. So I could never hold it against someone.

That said, I can think of nothing more degrading and hurtful than being offered money for sex that I thought meant more. For it to work (i.e. for no one to get hurt), both parties have to enter the arrangement with an understanding of the terms.

On the subject of dates and drinks, after 9years with my guy I've forgotten what it was like to care about something so trivial. How much is a drink? If all you notice about a guy is how quick he whips his wallet out then I can't see it lasting. Just my My 2 cents

realz
Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 4:38:37 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:
I....

But I do believe if a woman wants to have sex for money, it is her business and it does not make her a bad person. If no one is getting hurt and it is consentual, it should be here right. It is just not something I would do. JMO!


Agreed. so much seems to be made of this, but I suspect it's a cultural thing to try to keep women from 'taking advantage' of their sex appeal.

Ladies, it's your choice and your business. Nothing to apologize for.
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Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 1:06:20 PM

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I haven't done it nor been in a situation to be offered. But I think that it should be legalized here in the USA. In fact escorts, etc. should pay taxes, have to get a business license, be zoned and be required to get regular medical check ups. It would just make good sense. Enough with the religious prudishness. And good heavens, our government, being in enormous debt, needs the tax revenue!!!! It would be much safer that way for all involved also!
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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 1:12:46 PM

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I do, and if anyone wants to judge then so be it...i need the money and sex does not bother me at all
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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 5:01:37 PM

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I never have and no way I ever could. What people do is their business but I just would not be able to do something like that.
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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 7:31:10 PM

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I do, and if anyone wants to judge then so be it...i need the money and sex does not bother me at all


It's really not necessarily different from any other personal service (that is, if it's honestly done... not pretending to like someone to fool them into giving material things). I have argued that one of the most honest relationships is between escort and client. They both know what they're there for. It's simple. Why is it any different from doing someone's laundry for pay, or cooking for pay, or giving a massage for pay? It's a fundamental, natural human service.




[It's not that far from our evolutionary heritage. Unlike most mammals, human females are sexually responsive even when not immediately fertile. This adjustment in our behavior kept the male around which meant more resources for her during the extended times when the young were vulnerable. Non reproductive sex in humans is all about resources.]
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Posted: Friday, May 20, 2011 11:51:12 PM

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i let a guy rub my boobs for 100
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Posted: Saturday, May 21, 2011 8:48:06 PM

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shawnababy wrote:
Ok this will take some honesty. Have you ever had sex with a guy and got paid for it? I'm not talking about a new outfit or jewelry from hubby or a boyfriend. I am talking about a cash deal from a stranger or a guy that wanted it so bad he was willing to pay.


Ive never been paid, but have felt like I should have they way the sex was....remember, guys, us women like to be pleasured too!
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Posted: Saturday, May 21, 2011 10:02:18 PM

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I remember one girl in my live that was what one would call a true gold digger. Putting a lot of value on being paid for, having a man that would have significant sources of money. Making very materialistic choices when choosing a partner etc.

Most judged her as a bad character some called her a whore. When I started knowing her a little better, I found out that she was the daughter of a South American woman that had 7 kids from 7 men. None of all those guys had any funds and instead of providing for their kids they came by occasionally when they needed money themselves. 4 of the kids where girls - as gorgeous as they get. And I guess this mom made sure her girls would look for a true provider and - missing any inheritance or education would bargain on their beauty as much as they could.
After I knew the whole story I looked at her differently. So I guess you get the point I am trying to make – what choices someone makes always needs to be seen in context of where they are coming from.
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Posted: Sunday, May 22, 2011 10:08:04 AM

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I have had sex for money, at a time when I really needed. I crossed a lot of boundaries that I shouldn´t have; personal limits I have set for myself and never would have crossed if I wasn´t getting paid a large sum of money. When I look back on it all, that is the only part I am ashamed of. It is something I am ashamed of. I don´t think I will ever tell my boyfriend about it, mostly because I am afraid of how he will react to it.
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Posted: Sunday, May 22, 2011 1:30:28 PM

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I have been offered money for sex, by someone on lush. I didn't accept as it was very little money for what he wanted. If i was offered a decent amount of money and spending on how my boyfriend felt about it I would probably accept!
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Yes, I have been offered money and gifts on Lush, especially an ex-friend who wanted the gifts featured in my pics. WTF? Never in real life money for sex, tho. No I would NEVER fucking accept money for sex!! NEVER!!! Let me repeat NEVER FUCKING EVER!!!
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Posted: Wednesday, May 25, 2011 2:55:24 AM

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i dont think i could pay for sex it just (in my opinion) takes the intimatcy out of sex and i think it would just give it a weird vibe that i wouldent be okay with. I want a girl to want me not for my money but for me. i think it turns me on more that they want to have sex with me then the actually having sex.
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I have been offered, and backed out at the last minute...would be willing to entertain the idea in the future. Everyody pays for sex, some in cash some in other ways.

As to men buying drinks. If I am going to a bar and some guy is hitting on me I want him to buy my drinks, at least some of them. Not because I expect to have things given to me but it shows an appriciation of me. Additionally, I am SOOOOO tired of the first comment people make when they hear I am a RN is "o i bet u make lots of $".
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Yes I have had sex for money..
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Well, I have been propositioned many times to have sex or other things with a guy for cash, but I have never accepted.

However, one of the things that attracted me to my boyfriend was that he was a very generous stranger who was always wanting sex with me and afterwards would offer to give me money to help me out.... like one time, we were seeing each other very casually, I barely knew him, it wasn't even serious, and we had sex, like random and I barely knew him but it had been like a really long time since I had sex, and I thought what the hell... anyhow, afterwards I told him I was going on a trip and he flat out handed me $400 and said "Here's some money to have fun with while you're on your trip!" After that, I started thinking, wow this guy is generous, I'm gonna go back and have sex with him again, and sure enough, afterwards he'd stuff money into my purse or hands or whatever. I one time asked him if he was my "Sugar Daddy" and he got hurt, the look in his eye was so telling. He was in love with me! He wanted to give me presents, and money because he loved me and wanted to take care of me, and I was blind!
We've been together almost 3 years now, and every time he is around me, he's giving me money or buying me gifts, still to this day... whether we have sex or not... he's just a generous man and loves to take care of his baby. :) I'm very lucky, and I'm not talking about just the money.... I'm talking about him loving me so much. :)

P.S. I should explain "Stranger" in this post.

He was a stranger in the sense that I met him in a public place and we chatted and kinda traded numbers, we never really texted each other though. We kept running into each other for many months all over town, and then we did start texting and talking and becoming friends. I knew him for about 4 months or so before we really 'hung out' and talked, and it was within 6 months that we started to become sexually curious about one another, while both highly attracted to each other. So, my idea of stranger is a man I became friends with who I had not known in any way, any shape, or form over the years.

When I say I hadn't had sex in a long time, I am talking about only having sex a few times in 8 years.... I was starting to feel like I was going to turn back into a Virgin.... I was in a very long distance relationship with a man in another country and we barely got to meet up so when we broke up it had been like forever since I had sex.... thank goodness I remembered how!

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Hihi, it's getting an interesting conversation here...

About getting drink and meals etc from a guy; over here that's not common, it's quite cheap to ask that from a guy we think.
Here you mostly pay BOTH, your going out BOTH, so it's not sayd that a guy HAS to pay everything.
Of course some scenes/ girls think they should pay, but that's always a certain type of girls....the material girls....

I wouldn't accept it and never let a guy pay everything for my a whole evening; I would feel that I taka advantage of a guy. I gain my own money...
And it also gives expectations, if you share the costs, you never have to feel guilty or whatever if you don't want to have sex with him....

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naughtynurse wrote:
I have been offered, and backed out at the last minute...would be willing to entertain the idea in the future. Everyody pays for sex, some in cash some in other ways.

As to men buying drinks. If I am going to a bar and some guy is hitting on me I want him to buy my drinks, at least some of them. Not because I expect to have things given to me but it shows an appriciation of me. Additionally, I am SOOOOO tired of the first comment people make when they hear I am a RN is "o i bet u make lots of $".



The first thing I think of and say when I meet an RN is, "Wow. Your shift schedules suck. How do you make that work with your family/personal life?" The second thing, as the mom of six kids, is THANK YOU.

I agree everyone pays for sex in one way or another. What sucks is when you have to still pay for sex after the relationship is over. LOL
Humor aside, if I am at a bar alone and I see an attractive man I want to speak to, I send a drink over. The same with an attractive woman. If I am with my husband, we talk about it first and mutually determine whether or not to send the drink over. (He has never told me no. I have told him no. I am pickier than him.) We don't have any expectations when we send the drink over but we have made some good friends that way.
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not really an answer to this thread but I have to admit more and more I think about maybe paying for a house call for some fun. Where I live there are definately such services available but the prices .. woah !!

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I have never told a guy/couple or been offered so much money for this sexual pleasure and not sure I ever would.

I have been referred a new friend by other friends and have accepted cash to show their appreciation. More than once or twice.

In my mind, this is different than money for sex. However, I know there are many who would disagree.

Xuani, says "Think long and hard before you cross this line, because once crossed there is no returning. I would agree, however at the same time I have no regrets and would do the same thing again the next time through life.






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