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cprivate
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 6:41:32 AM

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OK, in your valued opinions... is looking cheating? Maybe the thoughts behind the looks are but whats wrong with looking?
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 6:59:36 AM

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No, it's not cheating. Everyone looks. Both guys and girls.

The key is - when you're with your significant other - to not blatantly ogle other women or men to the point that your significant other knows what you're doing, since that can be seen as rude.

Also not cool, if you're doing it *constantly* when you're around them because if the level of paranoia about looking increases, it's often anticipated ahead of time. For example - I've had situations, whether passing a couple walking down the street or in a bar, where pre-emptively his girlfriend turns to look at him to see where his eye contact is going almost before he even notices me. It's kind of funny actually. And yeah, I do think that's taking it too far - a passing appreciative glance is nothing to get stressed about. On the other hand if you have a guy with a non-stop roving eye when he's with you, it can get annoying.

It's still not qualified as cheating though. It's more of a 'respect' issue when you're with your girlfriend/boyfriend - to not make them feel like a third wheel in your visual fantasy adventures.

Keep it discreet and you should be fine.

blazestcyr
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 7:40:25 AM

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absolutely not!

well unless u were like my husband who would point out hot ladies

but that is not cheating...just being an asshole!

be discreet and look then take your lovely lust out on your partner :)
1lush
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 7:52:20 AM

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I don't think so, if it's done in the right way. If you point them out to your mate and comment about something to compare how she looks.
crazydiamond
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 8:11:35 AM

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cprivate wrote:
OK, in your valued opinions... is looking cheating? Maybe the thoughts behind the looks are but whats wrong with looking?


Yes, yes it is, and only the sight impaired are innocent to this adulterous act. bs

(god no, just be discreet and respectful)

Guest
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 8:27:01 AM

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Nothing wrong with window shopping, it is when you dabble with the goods that is often the problem!
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 8:45:44 AM

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Yes if it becomes more than a quick look. Staring or turning your head to look at their butt it would not only be like cheating but right down rude to the person you are with.
Nikki703
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 9:19:29 AM

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Looking isnt cheating but if you are with your partner and you are constantly leering at others it is very disrespectful to him/her. But a casual admiring glance is harmless and pretty natural
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 2:18:50 PM

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You can look, but you can't touch.
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Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 2:20:54 PM

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Speak for yourself choco ;0P
cprivate
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 2:22:23 PM

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So if everyone does it why is it us men get crapped on...
I did once have a girlfriend who pointed out the hot girls I would otherwise have missed. I really liked that. Katy you were the best... And yes the sex was off the scale as well. Pity you took that job and left Africa.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 2:40:22 PM

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chgolf wrote:
Speak for yourself choco ;0P


I do lots of looking in real life, but I don't touch
AngelHeart01
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 2:56:23 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
Looking isnt cheating but if you are with your partner and you are constantly leering at others it is very disrespectful to him/her. But a casual admiring glance is harmless and pretty natural



I reckon I'm very disrespectful when you're around. Embarassed

crazydiamond
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 3:01:01 PM

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cprivate wrote:
So if everyone does it why is it us men get crapped on...


DISCREET DUDE!!!

Because you obviously get caught!!

Nikki703
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 3:25:27 PM

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AngelHeart01 wrote:



I reckon I'm very disrespectful when you're around. Embarassed



You better be!!!HAHA
HotWifeToni1
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 5:10:14 PM

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When I'm with a man I'll casually look but never stare. Because I have an understanding with my hubby (he's my cuckold) I will definitely look and sometimes catch.
Poppet
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 5:45:18 PM

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When I'm with someone my eyes are only on them ever..
Yes It's cheating.


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SpicyDew
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 7:03:16 PM

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Not for me....but please, be kindly discreet.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 7:45:38 PM

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cprivate wrote:
So if everyone does it why is it us men get crapped on...


'Us' men? lmao

You, man.

Don't lump yourself in with the rest of 'us men' who have figured things out a long time ago.

Most intelligent people are introspective and doubt themselves while many fucktards are proudly over-confident. - a tip of the hat to Charles Bukowski
doctorlove
Posted: Tuesday, October 23, 2012 8:20:07 PM

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No its not cheating. Its not disrespectful to look while with your girl/guy. Its very disrespectful to look when out without your guy/girl. Be honest and don't hide anything.
scooter
Posted: Wednesday, October 24, 2012 7:28:10 AM

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cprivate wrote:
So if everyone does it why is it us men get crapped on...
I did once have a girlfriend who pointed out the hot girls I would otherwise have missed. I really liked that. Katy you were the best... And yes the sex was off the scale as well. Pity you took that job and left Africa.


I'd jump a plane and follow that gal private.
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, October 24, 2012 8:24:14 AM

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chocolategirl wrote:


I do lots of looking in real life, but I don't touch


Really.............good to know chocoholic Embarassed
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, October 08, 2014 11:00:06 PM

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Not at all. I do know some girls who freak out if they catch their guy looking. He looks, I look. It's all good.
suziegurl
Posted: Friday, October 31, 2014 8:15:04 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:
Looking isnt cheating but if you are with your partner and you are constantly leering at others it is very disrespectful to him/her. But a casual admiring glance is harmless and pretty natural
I so agree
1nympholes
Posted: Friday, October 31, 2014 8:23:45 PM

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Nikki703 wrote:


You better be!!!HAHA


Nicole Darling if we are in a restaurant and you were there also and Robb does not really check you out. I know he has lost interest in Hot Girls and I am about the get my ass thrown out in the street.

Just Normal and expected behavior for both Men and Women.

Lets be concerned about real issues.

One condition I get to check you out first






The girl who started early at this game of sexual pleasure, This girl that never seems to get as much as she wants, at least from the right people. But now certainly the woman that will test all the paths of pleasure with you.
Musigal
Posted: Friday, October 31, 2014 8:54:52 PM

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IMO no. No it's not cheating. I guess some people may think it is, but if your happy and both committed then it shouldn't be an issue. My man can look as much as he likes, just no touching!
JuliaS
Posted: Monday, November 24, 2014 3:47:01 AM

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if you're my partner, you can look, what ever part of you touch the other... will be cutted away :D

joking. Yes, looking is not cheating, but skype chat, webcams and so on... are not just looking, is just sexchatting ;)
oohlala74
Posted: Monday, November 24, 2014 3:53:19 AM

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Admiring people you find attractive isn't cheating, leering when your partner is there is rude and disrespectful, but a glance or discreetly looking is ok. I don't mind my husband checking out other women as long as it remains just looking, but acting on those desires is a no no.
PoisonIvory
Posted: Monday, November 24, 2014 4:16:27 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
No, it's not cheating. Everyone looks. Both guys and girls.

The key is - when you're with your significant other - to not blatantly ogle other women or men to the point that your significant other knows what you're doing, since that can be seen as rude.

Also not cool, if you're doing it *constantly* when you're around them because if the level of paranoia about looking increases, it's often anticipated ahead of time. For example - I've had situations, whether passing a couple walking down the street or in a bar, where pre-emptively his girlfriend turns to look at him to see where his eye contact is going almost before he even notices me. It's kind of funny actually. And yeah, I do think that's taking it too far - a passing appreciative glance is nothing to get stressed about. On the other hand if you have a guy with a non-stop roving eye when he's with you, it can get annoying.

It's still not qualified as cheating though. It's more of a 'respect' issue when you're with your girlfriend/boyfriend - to not make them feel like a third wheel in your visual fantasy adventures.

Keep it discreet and you should be fine
.


This.

jmic3
Posted: Monday, November 24, 2014 12:13:58 PM

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In my (and the hubby's) opinion, anything that both parties do not consent to within the relationship is considered cheating.

If you are in a relationship with someone and they tell you that they consider looking as cheating, then if you look you are knowingly cheating. If they consider touching, talking, having sex...or whatever it is to be cheating, then that is what is cheating in your relationship.

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