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WellMadeMale
Posted: Sunday, June 6, 2010 1:16:14 PM

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Loislane wrote:
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.


There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.

Obscenity is the last refuge of an inarticulate motherfucker.
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Posted: Sunday, June 6, 2010 1:21:51 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
Loislane wrote:
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.


There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.


ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol
DamonX
Posted: Sunday, June 6, 2010 7:33:25 PM

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Loislane wrote:
WellMadeMale wrote:
Loislane wrote:
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.


There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.


ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol


I actually love to share stories. It doesn't bother me at all. I think it helps find out what both partners are into. It's hard to convince girls that I will enjoy the fact that they've done some dirty stuff though. They always seem to be afraid that I'll think of them as "slut".
Guest
Posted: Monday, June 7, 2010 11:31:50 AM

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DamonX wrote:
Loislane wrote:
WellMadeMale wrote:
Loislane wrote:
I don't care how many people a guy has slept with in the past.All of his past sexual encounters have made him a better lover in most cases. I've told men how many men I've fucked in the past and they haven't reacted well.They got all prudish like we hadn't been doing depraved things already.I'm a woman for freaksakes who has a healthy appetite for sex. This whole asking the number thing seems to be part of the game playing/falling into relationship cliches things that happens in relationships that I try to avoid.


There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.


ha ha yes definately...it needs to be put in a self help book somewhere lol


I actually love to share stories. It doesn't bother me at all. I think it helps find out what both partners are into. It's hard to convince girls that I will enjoy the fact that they've done some dirty stuff though. They always seem to be afraid that I'll think of them as "slut".


You my dear are enlightened,most guys pretend to be enlightened and open about sex as long as it is someone else's girlfriend or wife's past they are asking about. I like all the baggage and sexual prowess and experience that comes with someone with a high number
WellMadeMale
Posted: Monday, June 7, 2010 12:06:42 PM

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Seven years before I launched the NNB to Mrs Socked With Steel Washers, I had a similar conversation with my new partner, a just turned 24 year old.

I found this young woman to have much more possibility and hence fudged by several dozen and said, "I'm 32, and I surrendered my virginity half way through my 17th year on this planet...I've been parked on 19 for the last few years and I was hoping that 20 would be my last."

She looked at me and replied, "I got my cherry smashed at 19, right before I left for college. You're number 62. I went a little wild in college, when I slept with 56 men."

"You only spent two years at college your first go around, is what you told me yesterday?"

"Ok, so I went pretty wild."

Laughing my ass off, I said, "Did you ever go to class?"

"I fucked a few guys in classrooms."

That woman was a lot of fun. geek

For the first three years. happy8

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rxtales
Posted: Monday, June 7, 2010 6:50:47 PM

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I don't really care how many people a guy has slept with, but I usually avoid the question. I don't really care and I don't really want to put a number on my sexual partners. But if I were in a relationship with someone and they asked I would say, if they can't accept me for me then we have no business being in a relationship.
Revolution
Posted: Monday, June 7, 2010 10:41:58 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
DamonX wrote:
Best...story...ever!! hello1 What's a Cincinati Bowtie though??


http://www.urbandictionary.com/ icon_smile


Haha. Reading that brought this to mind.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWWxk_uhpE

As for the original question.

I dunno. It shouldn't matter. But I can't say that it won't. I've never really been with anyone who I cared for enough (yet) for it to bother me, but I can't say for certain that it wouldn't. I do know that hearing kinky stories from the past is hot and I'm perfectly cool with that. But I don't know If I can handle knowing the exact amount of previous partners, in fact, I don't even know why I would want to know.

"Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it you can either run from it...or, learn from it." - Rafiki, The Lion King
SixtyMinuteMan
Posted: Thursday, June 10, 2010 1:25:29 AM

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Like others have said in this thread: If it's a point of amused or titillating curiosity between a couple of sluts, I'll answer as honestly as I can. If it's that insecure comparison thing, I'll happily say that I don't remember the exact number, which is true. And I prefer my partners to have a history. Sluts are far more interesting than virgins, you know?

One of the many great things about my current relationship is that we have a unique history together. We were each other's college sweethearts and a couple of polyamorous sluts the entire while, then split up for about seven years. Since we were promiscuous together, there's no need to pretend that during our years apart we were chaste. Telling each other dirty stories is very frequent foreplay around here. And while neither of us is completely sure of our number, she now keeps a tally in a little notebook in hope of figuring hers out. It's cute, in a filthy slut kind of way.
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 11, 2010 11:38:36 AM

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my number is.... 5,834,287,275,198,258,175,139,947.... or somewhere around there
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 11, 2010 7:16:58 PM

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Damn, Dude beat me by 2 women.
WellMadeMale
Posted: Saturday, June 12, 2010 5:16:37 AM

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Revolution wrote:


Haha. Reading that brought this to mind.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvWWxk_uhpE



That is about the funniest 90 seconds on film, I've ever tried to watch, without laughing.

Obscenity is the last refuge of an inarticulate motherfucker.
Catnip
Posted: Thursday, June 17, 2010 2:39:34 PM

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I find myself asking out of curiosity.
I've yet to find someone who's got a higher number than I do. (that I've been with)
His number doesn't matter to me, usually Im surprised about how "few" they've had.

Guest
Posted: Tuesday, July 20, 2010 2:45:34 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
I think as a woman's number gets higher, she starts to 'black out' certain experiences in her own mind to keep her number lower and see what she can avoid counting as something that increases her number (ie. Clinton's "I did not have sex with that woman" philosophy). And, even on a personal level, in so far as being bisexual, I don't even count female sex partners (those are freebies to me! LOL).

I think in the end, for those who keep track, you just end up with women lying to keep her numbers low, and men inflating to make themselves look like a stud. I'm not sure how meaningful these numbers end up being after the official stats have been rearranged.

Even among my female friends who have nothing to hide from me, many of them don't really count new partners anymore, they just have a broader range ie. under 20, under 50, over 50, or over 100.

I'm not even sure what's considered 'low mileage' vs 'high mileage' anymore... dontknow

I used to ask in my younger years (and no guy would ever agree to tell me once they hit their university years).

I'm not so concerned about numbers (provided they've led a 'safe sex' kind of lifestyle), but I do like hearing about sexual adventures and crazy sex stories from my partner's past because I find it hot to listen to those 'tales from the vault'... Quality over quantity has always been what's interested me. And that philosophy can be applied to my own 'number' as well.



Dancing Doll

How does one get on your Freebies List?
Whitney
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, July 20, 2010 3:41:49 PM

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Why does anyone care? In one of the Sex and the City series Samantha was asked this question and with a puzzled look responded "This year?"

I know many of you guys want to be a girls first. Why is that I do not understand. It is a very important threshold for a woman, but the first time may not cause the band to play music that only she can hear. Most of us were not very good the first few times. So would you want to be the one who needs to teach of neophyte? I was not a good partner in my early years, but I promise you that you would have much more fun with me now than you did all those years ago.

Is there a rumor going around that there is a usage clause in a woman/mans sexual warranty? Please share with us what that number is? Would less than 10 make a partner acceptable and more than 50 throw a person into the reject bin.

Seems to this woman that the question should be not the quantity but the quality? flower
belle02026
Posted: Saturday, September 11, 2010 6:14:28 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
I think as a woman's number gets higher, she starts to 'black out' certain experiences in her own mind to keep her number lower and see what she can avoid counting as something that increases her number (ie. Clinton's "I did not have sex with that woman" philosophy). And, even on a personal level, in so far as being bisexual, I don't even count female sex partners (those are freebies to me! LOL).

I think in the end, for those who keep track, you just end up with women lying to keep her numbers low, and men inflating to make themselves look like a stud. I'm not sure how meaningful these numbers end up being after the official stats have been rearranged.

I'm not even sure what's considered 'low mileage' vs 'high mileage' anymore... dontknow

I'm not so concerned about numbers (provided they've led a 'safe sex' kind of lifestyle), but I do like hearing about sexual adventures and crazy sex stories from my partner's past because I find it hot to listen to those 'tales from the vault'... Quality over quantity has always been what's interested me. And that philosophy can be applied to my own 'number' as well.


I agree 100%.
Phantomrose
Posted: Saturday, September 11, 2010 1:56:29 PM

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I don't care about numbers, however, I do get curious about the sexual experiences my partner has had, and would like to hear them. Numbers does not effect what I think about my partner. I agree with Dancing_Doll, that it is the quality that matters, not the quantity.
SweetPenny
Posted: Saturday, September 11, 2010 7:59:09 PM

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I think the "rule" is that you're supposed to take a guy's number and divide it by 3 and take a girl's number and multiply it by 3.
NoahBody
Posted: Sunday, September 12, 2010 7:41:52 AM

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Personally, I don't want nor need to know my wife's number.
Love is about feelings and emotions NOT numbers.
That's for high school boys, who have to try and promote their manhood
Why would you even care?
LOVE conquers all...well, at least most, LOL
Guest
Posted: Sunday, September 12, 2010 9:04:49 AM

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When I was younger it did used to bother me, if I knew a guy had slept around I would avoid him I used to think it was un-cool and think that I couldn't handle that so stayed away. Now that I've had kids and been divorced, I couldn't care less how many women he's had as long as he's stayed healthy along the way. It is not something I even ask men these days, as long as he can make love to me and make me orgasm that's enough for me oh yeah and not to inhibited please - no shy guys that are shocked at what I used to get up to haha I like to learn new moves from you guys icon_smile
Ian
Posted: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 6:32:21 AM

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The bigger the list the bigger the competition, if you're the competitive type. If i really need more than two hands to count it then she can just show me those test results and we're good lol
Guest
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HoneyBee000 wrote:
When I was younger it did used to bother me, if I knew a guy had slept around I would avoid him I used to think it was un-cool and think that I couldn't handle that so stayed away. Now that I've had kids and been divorced, I couldn't care less how many women he's had as long as he's stayed healthy along the way. It is not something I even ask men these days, as long as he can make love to me and make me orgasm that's enough for me oh yeah and not to inhibited please - no shy guys that are shocked at what I used to get up to haha I like to learn new moves from you guys icon_smile



Agree! I don't ask about how many partners. I think for me the higher the number of partners would make me wonder how long will the guy want to be with me before he moves on to greener pastures. So I would rather not know and enjoy whatever time I have with him while he is with me. I do like to talk about different experiences to discover likes and dislikes though.
SweetPenny
Posted: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 9:17:04 AM

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I don't even know what my number is. I can estimate, but I'm not exactly sure.

How about my fellow Lushers... Do you all know what your number is? I'm curious if there's a difference between the male and female responses.
LadyX
Posted: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 9:26:51 AM

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I tried to think back and figure this out. I know within ten or so- I think.
mercianknight
Posted: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 1:13:34 PM

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I agree that the number shouldn't matter. Just stay healthy.

When my wife (then girlfriend) really pressed this issue I truthfully confessed my number as best as I could recall and was assailed with all sorts of unflattering comments as to my virtue (then why the f*ck did she ask???!!). Obviously, my wife's stated number was significantly lower thus giving her the moral high ground in her eyes. Then, over the years she would again interrogate me and I would again answer truthfully...which is another reason I am so glad I never lied because it is easier to recall the truth ***smug grin spreads across face***

So.......

....why the f*ck, on our 21st wedding anniversary, did my wife feel the need to confess that her number was actually higher? Silly cow. Yes, I was pissed for about 2 minutes, then figured I could give a shit. She originally 'lied' because she didn't want to think she was a slut, then cornered herself in a lie for 20+ years as she tried to determine if I had originally lied.

The moral? If it's love, we don't give a hoot about how 'used' you might be. It's just a number.

"Whoa, lady, I only speak two languages, English and bad English." - Korben Dallas, from The Fifth Element

"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw
quietmoans
Posted: Tuesday, September 14, 2010 3:43:23 PM

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There is also the 'rule of three' to apply too... should your bf/gf give you a number.

Divide the man's number by 3.... and multiply the woman's number by 3. Not scientific I admit... but there may be just a little of truth behind it, though I'm sure no man or woman would ever admit it!
Guest
Posted: Sunday, September 19, 2010 1:11:56 AM

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SweetPenny wrote:
I don't even know what my number is. I can estimate, but I'm not exactly sure.

How about my fellow Lushers... Do you all know what your number is? I'm curious if there's a difference between the male and female responses.


OMG Penny I have no idea what my number is and please do not ask me to reconcile that history!
Nikki703
Posted: Monday, September 20, 2010 1:51:20 PM

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WHR43 wrote:
SweetPenny wrote:
I don't even know what my number is. I can estimate, but I'm not exactly sure.

How about my fellow Lushers... Do you all know what your number is? I'm curious if there's a difference between the male and female responses.


OMG Penny I have no idea what my number is and please do not ask me to reconcile that history!



I have no idea what my number is. Far more than I thought I would ever have when I was 20yo and far less than I plan to have before it is all over. Lets just leave it at that, LOL.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Friday, September 24, 2010 12:08:50 PM

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WellMadeMale wrote:

There is no better way to ruin a budding relationship...than to discuss The Number -or- The Kinkiest Things You've Ever Done/Seen...within the first month of hooking up. It's almost guaranteed to be a neutron neuron bomb (henceforth referred to as NNB) to one party or the other.







WellMadeMale
Posted: Friday, September 24, 2010 12:39:39 PM

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Posted: Tuesday, September 28, 2010 5:10:26 AM

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Never really been in a position to ask this question since I was as certain as I could reasonably be that I was my wife's first lover. However, I really think the question should never be asked, surely the only important number is the last one, ie. you?

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