What do you expect, after you agree to swinging?
well, this a can of worms, in my humble opinion.
When I started to read the post - it seemed like your wife confessed her sins, to be granted forgiveness, and continue on her way; therefore removing her guilt onto you.
then - I read Rocco's comment, which also seems in line that you as a couple will participate in swinging - but was the guideline explained that swinging was to be as a "couple" or not?
You may want to revisit what you want out of your relationship and find out what your wife wants. Then ask ... are you both on the same page or not?
Good luck!
Van
Are we back to the old thing about Sex and Love, now in this time each couple must decide where they stand on the subject.
Apparently you have stepped over the line to attend a swap party, but now you seem to find yourself in a place where you are not comfortable. And you know your wife has been with others and it seems likely to continuing to have sex with others.
What do you guys want to be one on one or to share the joys of others? Could you go back to where you were at one time and forgive and not use it as a weapon during every disagreement.
Could you live the Open Lifestyle? Many could not. We do and have always shared others.
I Could not think of any other way to live.
You have a difficult road where every you decide to travel!
You could always say
I guess we all make mistakes sometimes But you were my biggest.
It seems to me that your wife feels that you have consented to an open relationship. Which I think is an understandable assumption given the situation. My advice is if it bothers you then its time for a sit down and try to establish some boundrys. When you approach the situation it should not be with anger, she is being open with you about it, which is her way of trying to involve you. Good luck to the both of you and I hope you find some middle ground.
Oooooo tough one!
My ex nailed the lid on our relationship when he said it would be okay for me to go and find fun elsewhere..
I personally could never be with someone that thinks it's okay to share me but that's just my opinion..
Swinging always comes with a warning sign.. and it should read "Is your relationship "Strong" or weak" enough for this?
I'm waffling now.. Good luck..
A Professional Writer is an amateur who didn't quit"
well are u ok with an open sexual marriage?
what are YOUR limits...i mean just with you only or can she do what she wants
me..if she sleeps with anything..all of the sudden
i would be worried about diseases and perhaps depression
lack of control in choosing partners..could lead to very difficult situations
i mean...even 100 percent bc fails...are u prepared to raise another's baby? if she can have them
but if YOU are ok with it..who are..WE..to say yes or no
it is UP to you and your wife
but i agree with veronika...always tell the truth....
so if she lied to u...she WILL lie..about other things...
When you got to the house and noticed his wife was gone, what did you do or say?
Did you watch your wife fuck him or sit outside in the car?
You should go back to his house and tell his wife she owes you a fuck.
A friend of mine, who is a swinger, and I, not a swinger, had a talk about swinging and open relationships. He told me the only way for it to with is both individuals have to be completely open and honest with each other. You have to clearly define your rules. From what I read, you need to talk to your wife. It seems as tho you have different expectations from your open relationship. Communication is key.
"I'd much rather be a woman than a man. Women can cry, they can wear cute clothes, and they are the first to be rescued off of sinking ships."
— Gilda Radner
I'd flat out tell her all bets are off. No more swinging. It causes to big of a rift in your relationship. If she wants to continue and you do not, you need to ask yourself how important is this woman to you. She may now hold you in a lesser degree of value since you opened things up. I lay the cards on the table....If she isn't willing to stop then you know where you stand...Now you will have a very difficult time trusting after all of this blows over. Should have set guidelines before you all included others in your sex life. Just sayin'
Irish
