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Posted: Saturday, April 23, 2011 1:03:13 PM

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It's the most attractive personality trait there is, especially if it goes hand in hand with independance. The 'little girl act' can be really offputting (although has it's place occasionally). Intelligence is sexy.
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Posted: Saturday, April 23, 2011 1:17:19 PM

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I agree with the immediately previous post....though I would add self-confidence (doesn't have to be saucy or brash - quiet confidence is very nice) right up there. An intelligent woman poses a challenge, and I prefer to spend most of my awake hours on my toes....'cept when she says we can move to bed....

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Posted: Saturday, April 23, 2011 6:45:47 PM

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I work in a company with a diverse range of men. All have a similar trait. If their conversation is met with interest, responded to confidently, I always perceive a change in the conversation. It's almost like they're thinking "Oh, this one can actually hold her own." They talk more freely, and also listen attentively. I've also noticed it's the women at work that do have a brain are the ones most sought after to chat to. A sexy pout and giggles will get a woman only so far. I think it works both ways though, Give me an intelligent man any day.
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Posted: Sunday, April 24, 2011 10:31:23 PM

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Personally I find intelligence incredibly attractive. The ability to have a thought provoking discussion on any topic is a welcome and rare occurrence in society in general with anybody now a days. I also like to be challenged in life at all levels and a woman of high intelligence especially women that embrace it are even more attractive. Coming from a technical background (engineering) I am fully aware of some of the stereotypes that exist about highly intelligent women from the east german shot putter to the ice queen to the chick that thinks that she is the hard ass assertive not knowing her place bitch place.

Also as stated by a previous poster the brain is indeed the largest sex organ. But it is the largest sex organ for both people involved. And an intelligent woman can more creatively and subtly convey her wants and needs and desires. To me this leads to the best partners and lovers because as the mind goes the body will always follow. Doll is a great example of an intelligent woman that I am drawn to even on this site, because our conversations were thought provoking, as are all of the woman that I am friends with here. In fact to those that question that I encourage them to contact some of my friends and engage them in a conversation.

So no for me intelligence is not intimidating it is actually highly attracting.

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Posted: Monday, April 25, 2011 11:36:48 AM

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I recently met a woman that has a much higher education than I. Her job is a demanding one and probably has much more responsibility (translated-power/influence) than I do at mine. I find her very interesting to talk with and incredibly sexy.
It's not her job or education that makes her sexy, it's her intelligence.
The bedroom eyes and a killer smile just cap off the package. ;)
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Posted: Monday, April 25, 2011 3:06:03 PM

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Hell no
nothing more sexy then having someone to have an intelligent conversation with

You'll know it when you see it
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Posted: Tuesday, April 26, 2011 9:34:42 PM

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I'm going to see your intelligence and raise with the a ability to discuss and debate.

I love a good discussion on pretty much any subject and enjoy the interplay when we get to discuss the merits of different points of view best of all. Being a know-it-all isn't the same thing but being able to follow a conversation at a college level is pretty much a minimum.

Men are raised/wired/whatever to want to impress the women they are with and so are more comfortable being the smarter, stronger, more successful one. I've been with women who were very smart and educated, and with strong-willed and even strong-bodied women. In no case did I find it intimidating, but found it very attractive. Now, if she wants to go around showing off that she's 'better' than me, well, she's just a bully. ;)

Men are also programmed to be drawn to help the 'helpless' and so the dippy act works on us at a pretty base level on two fronts (we get to feel "impressive" and "save/protect the damsel" as well). At least in my case, it just won't last past breakfast. Wait, did I say that last part out loud? ooops Embarassed
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Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 8:51:50 PM

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The smart woman wins everytime. The packaging can be nice, but if there's nobody home there's no real appeal. I want to see a light behind the eyes. A smart woman will always have fascinating eyes. You can see so much going on in her mind. Very sexy.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 7:25:53 AM

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Nothing more sexy than an intelligent woman as long as she is also witty, funny, feminine and sexy
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 7:51:28 AM

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No you need a mind and humor to go with the body
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 10:34:37 AM

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There's nothing sexier than intelligent conversation. As far as intelligence being intimidating; intimidation steams from insecurity. Life would be much easier for them if they'd stop nursing delusions of omniscience, and focus on sorting their inferiority complex.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 10:40:01 AM

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I play the dumb blond to get what I want but I'm smarter for sure then men. Shhh
Its just a trick we use girls and be happy you can do it and that blokes are dumb enough to fall for it. Giggles.


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Posted: Wednesday, May 04, 2011 2:27:36 PM

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Scares the hell outta me! She starts using all those big words and my brain is liable to cook. Lol

The only problem I would have with a *really* smart woman is the same problem I'd have if it were a dude. I simply don't relate to them. Of course, I guess I don't really relate to most folks, regardless of IQ, so for me, its all the same...
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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 12:13:35 AM

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Intelligence

Is Not Only A TurnON

It’s Effectively A Prerequisite
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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 1:47:35 AM

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depending on how women use their intelligences, their are instances apply it on a smart way for example in a gathering of course male ego he want her date/women be notice by everyone not only to the looks but on how she carry her self same manner how to talk/deal with others.

some women want to dominant man by insulting and emphasizing that she is smart than her guy which intimidating occur.

guys say i want smart woman simply because something to be proud of to the compliment he will receive after seeing her partner but not too genius it is something your not shamed to bring her in the public

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Posted: Thursday, May 05, 2011 4:06:30 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
However you qualify intelligence, whether it's by IQ, social intelligence, writing/communication ability or book smarts, would a woman that is more intelligent than you be seen as intimidating or attractive.

Think of the popular female images of Jessica Simpson acting like the dumb blonde, or Marilyn Monroe's sexualized little girl act, or all the giggly, pillow-fighting, "omg, I'm just a girl" hair-twirling ideal of the Playboy empire and the porn industry (in general).

Does intelligence scare or intimidate men?

Try to answer this question honestly, because I think it's easy to say "I like a smart woman," but the reality is that society often shows that we are at our most attractive when we're being cute, giggly, helpless, and girly.

Is it just a part of the caveman ideal of being the "protector and provider" or is there a feeling that a very intelligent woman would be emasculating to a guy in some way?

Ladies, feel free to respond if you have any thoughts/opinions on this topic... icon_smile


My thoughts on the scare/intimidate men debate regarding intelligent women - some men will of course be scared/intimidated. Some will not, and some may be ambivalent.
For me the main intelligence quotation is that of emotional intelligence, intuitive women who trust their instincts are supremely attractive and they are very alluring.

Intelligence of any kind is on a sliding scale, we exist on that scale and we can move up and down the scale in equal measure depending on the circumstances - some men love to learn - some don't - some men are content with the status quo - some are not - some men crave status - some don't - its when two people with different expectations co-exist one could argue is where the cognitive dissonance occurs - which in turn leads to conflicts.

The question is very much the same as the questions that exist here on the forums - why do men......why do women - do men prefer this or that - do women do this or that. its the differences which are appealing in my view, its those different ingredients which make life such a wonderfully delightful cake - so to speak.



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Posted: Friday, May 06, 2011 8:42:27 PM

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To answer the question: No. When we encounter either an average looking woman with extraordinary intelligence or an overwhelmingly attractive woman with average smarts, it's the latter who will reduce us to a pile of mush, as we babble and flail at an attempt to impress her. It's one of god's many cruel jokes on man that we are reduced to complete imbeciles when trying to get laid. However, the battle really isn't between men being intimidated by either intelligence or looks, it's when a woman possesses both that we actually become intimidated. I call this the "Condoleezza Rice Corollary". The CRC says that a woman who is both extremely smart and extremely sexy, will probably end up single. There's just too much awesomeness to handle.

And since I don't get many opportunities to expound on this pet peeve of mine, indulge me as I rant anonymously: Women who use the "men don't like me cause I'm too smart" line as a way to cope for their lack of success are the worst kind. They're boring and not fun to be around. It's not like they're somewhere else mentally - for instance someone who is really passionate about their work and is totally immersed in it at all times and interested in nothing else. No, these types usually work in Human resources or billings for an insurance company, and spend their time reading jezebel.com and focusing their mental energies on how the male gender is keeping them down. Get cable, rescue a half dozen cats, and exclude yourself from the gene pool. That is unless you just act like yourself and not like who you think you're supposed to act like. Nobody can possibly enjoy being that miserable.


/will admit that even though I am not attracted to the above mentioned type, I have furiously masturbated to a hate-fuck fantasy involving them.Embarassed
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Posted: Saturday, May 14, 2011 12:31:47 PM

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I love to listen to a sexy lady and converse intellectually.....I find it rather stimulating......her wearing glasses and a tight black skirt....I like picking her mind see that their is more than just a sexy body.......
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Posted: Sunday, May 15, 2011 1:18:38 PM

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i find a women with intelligence is more sexy and attractive being able to hold a good conversation also its mental stimulation
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Posted: Tuesday, May 24, 2011 11:44:33 AM

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hotswimmer wrote:
sprite wrote:
Just curious - what about all those of us who aren't dumb, but not exactly geniuses, us average girls? where do we fall on the meter? :)


I'd say a lot of average girls, could be selling themselves short, if they think this way.
Intelligence does not necessarily mean a university degree.
Lots of university educated people, might be book smart, but give them a practical problem, to solve... ;-)


Right there beside all of us guys who, intellectually (yeah, I had to look that up to spell it right) speaking, are right beside you, sweet lady! And I think there are a lot more of us here than will honestly admit that!

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Posted: Thursday, June 16, 2011 12:12:15 AM

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This is the key: When guys say, "I like smart women," what they really mean is "I like smart women, as long as she is not smarter than me."
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Posted: Thursday, June 16, 2011 2:19:19 AM

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pixie10 wrote:
This is the key: When guys say, "I like smart women," what they really mean is "I like smart women, as long as she is not smarter than me."


Sorry, I must disagree. I like an intelligent conversation when talking to people. Men, or women. I have no patience for stupid people. I appreciate learning thngs whether it's from a man or a woman.
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Posted: Thursday, June 16, 2011 6:43:28 AM

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No intelligence is not intimidating. Should be viewed as a positive thing.
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Posted: Thursday, June 16, 2011 1:37:24 PM

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Short answer...I do not mind it and sort of like it.
Ok so the longer answer. I have been around many women that have been equal or more intelligent than I consider myself to be and only two of them stand out for this discussion. One of them had numerous Masters degrees and thought she was the cats ass as far as female brains go. She had a way of degrading me and making me feel like crap even though the topics she knew about were in my opinion meaningless in life. The other one I currently work with, she is a great person and does not put anyone down in anyway, however she is an Alpha in every way possible, she is highly intelligent, attractive, tall...she scares the crap out of me!

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To the contrary....I am drawn like a moth to a flame...intelligence , stability , poise all enhance a female and are the makings of a WOMAN !
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I cannot deal with ignorance, and I love to be with an intelligent, attractive woman.
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Posted: Sunday, June 26, 2011 2:15:13 AM

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Oh please that old myth, any guy in his right mind love an intelligent, it's just the arrogant,snobbish,conceited types that have an disdainful attitude towards everyone they believe that's npt on their ''level'' are the type that men really can't stand, and (by the way not saying it the one who made this post ) they're normally the ones who says men are intimidated by them.....I say whatever helps them sleep at night
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Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 7:27:15 PM

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nastynate69 wrote:
Oh please that old myth, any guy in his right mind love an intelligent, it's just the arrogant,snobbish,conceited types that have an disdainful attitude towards everyone they believe that's npt on their ''level'' are the type that men really can't stand, and (by the way not saying it the one who made this post ) they're normally the ones who says men are intimidated by them.....I say whatever helps them sleep at night

Very well said dude, there might be hope for you yet
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Posted: Tuesday, July 31, 2012 8:22:31 PM

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You did say "would a woman that is more intelligent than you be seen as intimidating". I don't know how to say this without seeming elitist, but the concept kind of boggles my mind. I can only think of one time that it's become obvious to me to me that a woman had an edge on me in a "pure logic" sense and I soaked up everything I could read by her like a sponge until I thought I could possibly hold a conversation with her (were she still alive). I don't really know what you mean by "social intelligence", but something like that might be a place where it's just a case of lack of interest in her world. There are a lot of things that I've just written off as useless or uninteresting as far as "social" skills I could acquire. Book smarts is just a matter of time and interest. If a woman knows something that I don't know, and if it is interesting, that makes her interesting.

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Posted: Wednesday, August 01, 2012 12:58:20 AM

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A great many people find intelligence threatening. Just check out any high school. Being the smartest person in the room has definite drawbacks.

As far as intelligence in one's partner is concerned--intelligence is more desireable than good looks. You can't be fucking all the time. Sooner or later you might want to have a conversation.
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