And I have not spoken to her since we both broke off our 30 month long, extremely intimate and I would have to say, (looking back across the last 30 years of my life) one of the few relationships that I would quantify was loving, considerate and mutually cherished. I really did love that young woman (back then).
We broke up as we were both fairly young and her mother was dead set that her daughter was not going to have a life with me. At the time I was a fairly rudderless cad, (not much has changed since) with no visible future option$.
I only know of her email address across Facebook. Amazingly, she and I both share two friendly acquaintances from our young adulthood and both of those people are mutual FB friends at this time.
Of course, I do not know if Marilyn has done the same as I have, and checked out the friends of her friends and come across me. I 'found' her over a year ago, and have thought a few times about sending a friendly: "Hey, how's life; your folks & your sister?" or, "Wow, you make 49 look great!"
Or should I just let this alone?
I do know that she's been married for 14 years with no children in the relationship, and her husband appears to own a personality which is remarkably similar to my own. His FB page indicates a gregarious and adventurous fellow. Both of the mutual past acquaintances found 'me' and one of them indicated that Marilyn was separated from her husband over a year ago, hinting perhaps...
Have any of you reached out to an old flame, after it has been over five/ten years since you last saw one another or spoke...across the 'net or via phone...feel free to weigh in.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Interesting dilemma!! How did you break it off? Was it a friendly break? Was it "only" because of her mom's feelings? If it was, then sending her a Happy Birthday message might be a nice gesture on your part. It cant really hurt anything. Maybe she will not respond at all or maybe she will just reply with a friendly Thank You. Or maybe......................................!!!!
I have never been in a similar situation, but if someone I dated and was in love with reached out to me after all years with a "platonic" greeting, Id be flattered!!!
If her marriage is on the rocks, would you be intersted in maybe rekindling your realtionship with her? If so, isnt it better to try and fail, then to wonder what may have been?
Good Luck in whatever you choose to do.
i think your intent matters here, too... did you just want to say hello, and get back in touch, with no agenda, or are you looking to rekindle a romance? if the former, i'd just say hi, wish her a happy bday, see where it goes from there - but yeah, don't be looking for more - she's married, you've both changed, there might be good memories, but she's not going to just drop everything and come rushing back to you. no expectations. of course, if you say hi, and she suddenly is on a flight out there, her suit case full of astro-glide... enjoy yourselves!
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
I am glad you have sent her Birthtday greeting and I hope you will get the answers you are looking for. I would do the same thing and I have done that.
From mine experience, when I got that wish to interact with someone from my past, I got few answers to different questions that become important in those periods of time. With one guy, we become friends, with one friend from the past, I went for a coffee few times and both she and I have realised that we have nothing in common beside small talk, we have changed over years. But I allways got conclusion and that satisfying feeling for being brave enough to listen myself and reach out to and fulfil my need.
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as long as your happy for what your doing... go for it and also be patience at the end it has a good result
