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shawnababy
Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 1:20:55 PM

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Ok this will take some honesty. Have you ever had sex with a guy and got paid for it? I'm not talking about a new outfit or jewelry from hubby or a boyfriend. I am talking about a cash deal from a stranger or a guy that wanted it so bad he was willing to pay.
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Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 1:26:27 PM

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I have been offered money for sex back when I was younger and in better shape, but I have never taken money in exchange for sex.
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Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 2:22:21 PM

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No, I haven't, however it has been offered to me on several occasions. I can't imagine I would ever do it unless I was in a very serious financial crunch with no other options available.

I was once offered $1,000 to make out with a female friend for two minutes though. Explained: a girlfriend and I were in a high end strip club and some high rollers thought it would be more fun to pay non-strippers to do something just for the novelty of it. Of course, we locked lips and took the cash. We were students and $500 each to kiss was irresistible.




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Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 3:12:04 PM

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I did have one offer a while ago but declined it

My latest story:

http://www.lushstories.com/stories/reluctance/the-school-reunion.aspx
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Posted: Sunday, May 01, 2011 4:39:30 PM

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Had an offer at the end of last year that would have covered my clothing budget for the year....turned it down. Slept with him anyway - probably should have accepted it LOL
Nikki703
Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 8:13:57 AM

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I have been offered money but would not accept it. But I also have had a guy once offer to pay me and a friend if we made out in front of him. We were happy to oblige him and took his money. Unfortunately, it wasnt as much as what DD was offered, LOL!

But I do believe if a woman wants to have sex for money, it is her business and it does not make her a bad person. If no one is getting hurt and it is consentual, it should be here right. It is just not something I would do. JMO!
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Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 9:19:39 AM

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I have, yes. I don't do it anymore.

I hate to state the obvious, but I'd hate to not say what needs to be said anyway: If you're presented with an opportunity to do this- sex for cash- think long and hard first. Once you do it, it will be twice as easy to do it again, then again. Soon, it's just another thing you do, and possibly lucratively. Even if it's the only time, which is unlikely, once you it, you can't undo it.

I go back and forth about how I feel about it. Sometimes, I'm deeply ashamed. After all, for all the times that women are offensively called whores, in that case, you are exactly that, in the purest sense of the word. Letting that sink in is not a painless process.

Most of the time though, I'm at peace with it. Like Nikki says, as long as you're doing it on your own terms (which is a big 'if', and a gray area for lots of women), then it's nobody's business and nobody's right to judge. Peace within yourself is really all that matters. Anyone that would characterize you for your actions unrelated to them are probably not worth investing time and friendship in.
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Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 10:27:17 AM

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LadyX wrote:
I have, yes. I don't do it anymore.

I hate to state the obvious, but I'd hate to not say what needs to be said anyway: If you're presented with an opportunity to do this- sex for cash- think long and hard first. Once you do it, it will be twice as easy to do it again, then again. Soon, it's just another thing you do, and possibly lucratively. Even if it's the only time, which is unlikely, once you it, you can't undo it.

I go back and forth about how I feel about it. Sometimes, I'm deeply ashamed. After all, for all the times that women are offensively called whores, in that case, you are exactly that, in the purest sense of the word. Letting that sink in is not a painless process.

Most of the time though, I'm at peace with it. Like Nikki says, as long as you're doing it on your own terms (which is a big 'if', and a gray area for lots of women), then it's nobody's business and nobody's right to judge. Peace within yourself is really all that matters. Anyone that would characterize you for your actions unrelated to them are probably not worth investing time and friendship in.


Personally I think it's positively insane to be offensive about people who take money for sex. What's wrong it? They're having sex with someone they don't love and quite possibly aren't attracted to. And, I'd hesitate to guess, that almost everyone reading this has had sex with someone they either haven't loved or weren't attracted to at some point during their sex lives.

I've done both of those things....does that make me a horrible person who deserves to be nothing but ashamed of myself?

So by all means, judge it on your own terms hun!
shawnababy
Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 12:53:37 PM

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Thanks for the responses and I hope we get some more. I will be honest and tell about the first time I did this. When I was 30 my husband talked me into the swinger scene. This was a big line to cross, having sex with other people. I tried it and got comfortable with the lifestyle. At one particular swinger party I noticed an older guy. I found out later he was 60. He was there with his wife. He wasn't having much luck getting some of the women interested in having sex with him. I decided to make his night and took him to a back bedroom and let him do whatever he wanted with me. After he asked me in private if we could meet on occasion, just him and me, for sexual encounters. I hesitated and he said he would pay me. Now at the time I was taking online college courses trying to get a degree. Extra cash would come in very handy. I thought about it and finally agreed. We would meet at a motel a couple of times a month. His wife and my husband didn't know. It was always a cash deal and really wasn't all that much, but it did pay for that semester's tuition. I'm not ashamed of doing this and it has not warped my brain. I was doing him a favor and he helped me out.
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Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 4:41:14 PM

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i dont know whether it counts but i tried moving out when i was 17, one month i knew i didnt have all the money for my landlord, he was in his mid 30's and actually quite atrractive. i was £65 short and we came to a mutual agreement that we would fuck and he would forget the other £65.
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Posted: Monday, May 02, 2011 4:47:16 PM

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when it comes right down to the brass tacks...most all of us have been a whore for something at one time or another.

Every J.O.B. I've ever had...I've been a whore to. Sometimes, I've accepted gifts to fuck women...guess I'm a whore.

Sounds crass perhaps, but you go out with a guy (or gal) and your evening dinner/entertainment is paid for...and you agree to have sex with that person on your date - technically, you have just whored yourself.

Whore - a repugnant term thrown around by those who wish to elevate themselves in a moral fashion (above others). GFY moral evaluator!

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Nikki703
Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 8:13:34 AM

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WellMadeMale wrote:
when it comes right down to the brass tacks...most all of us have been a whore for something at one time or another.

Every J.O.B. I've ever had...I've been a whore to. Sometimes, I've accepted gifts to fuck women...guess I'm a whore.

Sounds crass perhaps, but you go out with a guy (or gal) and your evening dinner/entertainment is paid for...and you agree to have sex with that person on your date - technically, you have just whored yourself.

Whore - a repugnant term thrown around by those who wish to elevate themselves in a moral fashion (above others). GFY moral evaluator!


Not sure I agree that going out with someone, they buy you diiner and then you sex with them makes you a whore. If the reason for having sex was not because they bought you dinner, then how is it whoring yourself?

But I do agree that we have all been whores (not necessarily sexual) in one way or another at some point in our lives.
lafayettemister
Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 8:20:33 AM

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I see nothing wrong with sex for money. I just don't. As long as both parties are being careful and safe. One person has commodity/service, the other is in need of that commodity/service. Seems like a logical thing to me.





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WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 10:08:52 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:
Not sure I agree that going out with someone, they buy you diner and then you sex with them makes you a whore. If the reason for having sex was not because they bought you dinner, then how is it whoring yourself?

But I do agree that we have all been whores (not necessarily sexual) in one way or another at some point in our lives.


It's all shades of grey, Nikki. And the differences between: dating, mating & fellating. I don't knock anyone over their head, with that term.

There was a guy here at Lush who was a former moderator. He used to proclaim that he'd never purchase a woman he did not know, a drink at a lounge/club/bar. Ever. He did not want to feel used. He wanted to get something for his money. lol

Don't we all.

I look at that a bit differently. I'll buy a drink or three for a woman, and perhaps even her friends - as a way of possibly getting to know her (or them). The liquid lubrication is merely (to me) a friendly icebreaker mechanism. And if, in the end - 'they' view me as an easy mark and ignore further contact with me, well... then to me, it's just money I spent on attempts to socialize (and fail). No biggie. I give money to vagrants at times, too.

But, if...I make new friends with this mechanism...then I did get something for my efforts. And initially, I'm attempting to persuade with a subtle whoring lure.

Some people recognize this for what it is, and are immediately put off by it. Some recognize it, but welcome the attempt.

At the end of the day, whoring is something we have all engaged in at one time or another ... and in various ways. Big deal. bunny

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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 10:34:37 AM

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Omifuck that story racked me into hysterics!!!! Any bloke who doesn't know its his job to buy girls drinks at a bar has got to be a right virgin or scared of girls. Theres no girl on the globe thats going to be talking intros with a guy at a club and then go buy and pay for her own drink while hes just standing there chatting her. Giggles. How embarassing! I guess its good for those types to spend their time online then because in the real world everyone knows that buying drinks is social and a way to buy a girls attention to have a chat with her. Its not being a whore its called being a normal person in a bar! I will chat until the drink is finished and if I like him we'll keep it up and he can buy me another.

Its not just because you give someone something it makes you a whore. I dont get the warped logic in this thread-posting at all.

Cash for a shag is a clear transaction. I have some male friendz in different parts of the world that help me out with rent sometimes or give me a little loan but it doesnt mean I absolutely have to have sex with them but if I'm staying at their place or on their boat and were partying and wrecked then sometimes things happen and so if I flash a little nipp to put a smile on his face or we party so much we end up having a bit of a shag then big deal no? My friendz tend to be loaded and nice to me if I need it but its not the same as a stranger paying you right out for a BJ.

IMO anyways.

xx B.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 12:01:02 PM

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I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?
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LittleBambi wrote:
I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?


yes that means he needs to take himself down to the pub where the drinks are cheap and approach girls he can afford!

If he is out drinking himself does it not mean that he can't afford a drink for someone else?

Sorry but I could not be a sugar mama for some deadbeat

xx B.
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I have been offered it, and considered it, butnever done it. I don't see anything wrong with people who choose to, like it was said before, you have to think about long and hard and know that it is something that you can personally handle. It is different for everybody. Although like others I have been paid to make out with a girlfriend and have never minded taking the cash!
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cokeheadbarbie wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?


yes that means he needs to take himself down to the pub where the drinks are cheap and *approach girls he can afford!*

If he is out drinking himself does it not mean that he can't afford a drink for someone else?

Sorry but I could not be a sugar mama for some deadbeat

xx B.


....Really? confused5

I think that's slightly ridiculous if I'm being honest. Having money is only going to get you a materialistic girl, or a girl who is extremely desperate for money. If you're looking to settle down then that's a bit of a different story as in those cases one is looking for someone who can provide....but in other circumstances I find it shallow hence I don't have that opinion....if I'm looking to date someone it's for him, not for whatever amount of money he has or whatever gifts he's going to shower me with.

I guess I'm cheap then since I don't require men to spoil me with anything other than kisses, cuddles and sex.

Bring it on all you poorer men drunken My 2 cents
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naughtygirl91 wrote:
I have been offered it, and considered it, butnever done it. I don't see anything wrong with people who choose to, like it was said before, you have to think about long and hard and know that it is something that you can personally handle. It is different for everybody. Although like others I have been paid to make out with a girlfriend and have never minded taking the cash!


Out of interest, can I ask why you felt comfortable to accept money for that but not for sex? Really not 'dissing' your opinion or personal decisions - just genuinely interested as I'm the sort of person that'll go all out or not at all (ie. if I accepted money for one thing I'd accept it for something 'more' ie. sex)
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LittleBambi wrote:
naughtygirl91 wrote:
I have been offered it, and considered it, butnever done it. I don't see anything wrong with people who choose to, like it was said before, you have to think about long and hard and know that it is something that you can personally handle. It is different for everybody. Although like others I have been paid to make out with a girlfriend and have never minded taking the cash!


Out of interest, can I ask why you felt comfortable to accept money for that but not for sex? Really not 'dissing' your opinion or personal decisions - just genuinely interested as I'm the sort of person that'll go all out or not at all (ie. if I accepted money for one thing I'd accept it for something 'more' ie. sex)


Really? Even escorts, prostitutes and porn stars have rules or boundaries that they will not cross for money. I think the 'all or nothing' mentality is more on the rare side of things.

I see a big difference between making out with a hot girlfriend (something you might even do anyway) and accepting cash versus having sex with an unattractive man that you would never touch otherwise for money. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum in my opinion. One is for hands-off visual titillation and the other is to provide direct sexual gratification.


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LittleBambi wrote:
cokeheadbarbie wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?


yes that means he needs to take himself down to the pub where the drinks are cheap and *approach girls he can afford!*

If he is out drinking himself does it not mean that he can't afford a drink for someone else?

Sorry but I could not be a sugar mama for some deadbeat

xx B.


....Really? confused5

I think that's slightly ridiculous if I'm being honest. Having money is only going to get you a materialistic girl, or a girl who is extremely desperate for money. If you're looking to settle down then that's a bit of a different story as in those cases one is looking for someone who can provide....but in other circumstances I find it shallow hence I don't have that opinion....if I'm looking to date someone it's for him, not for whatever amount of money he has or whatever gifts he's going to shower me with.

I guess I'm cheap then since I don't require men to spoil me with anything other than kisses, cuddles and sex.

Bring it on all you poorer men drunken My 2 cents


Okay then. Have fun buying your man's drinks at the club. Giggles.

How cud it be materialistic to expect some bloke to shell out a few quid to buy me a martini if hes making intros?

You surely need to set your sights higher. Its only the broke men will tell you its shallow and materialistic cos what else can they say right? Thats how they suck you in and next thing you are going dutch on meals and "lending" money for rent on their flat to try to prove you arent materialistic or shallow. Hah Those deadbeats got game so you got to watch for their tricks otherwise you are playin' and payin' right into it.

xx B.
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Dancing_Doll wrote:


Really? Even escorts, prostitutes and porn stars have rules or boundaries that they will not cross for money. I think the 'all or nothing' mentality is more on the rare side of things.

I see a big difference between making out with a hot girlfriend (something you might even do anyway) and accepting cash versus having sex with an unattractive man that you would never touch otherwise for money. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum in my opinion. One is for hands-off visual titillation and the other is to provide direct sexual gratification.


I didn't mean that so literally - I simply meant if I felt it okay to be paid for something such as a kiss....that I guess I wouldn't see so much of a difference between that and being paid for sex. I wouldn't have sex (or do anything else) with someone I wouldn't otherwise touch with a barge pole for money.

I'm merely asking to gain an understanding of how other people feel with regards to this....I live in a very 'white middle class area' and the idea alone of having sex for money would make your average tweed wearing person here pass out from disgust evil4

....jokes aside, I don't know more than one or two people in my real life who have any real experience either directly or indirectly with this 'subject'....so just being curious!
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cokeheadbarbie wrote:

Okay then. Have fun buying your man's drinks at the club. Giggles.

How cud it be materialistic to expect some bloke to shell out a few quid to buy me a martini if hes making intros?

You surely need to set your sights higher. Its only the broke men will tell you its shallow and materialistic cos what else can they say right? Thats how they suck you in and next thing you are going dutch on meals and "lending" money for rent on their flat to try to prove you arent materialistic or shallow. Hah Those deadbeats got game so you got to watch for their tricks otherwise you are playin' and payin' right into it.

xx B.


I think you're not quite getting the gist of what I'm saying.... I don't, at this point in my life, need the stable and providing kind of man. I don't see it as a man's place to buy me a drink, or anything else for that matter unless we're sharing our finances so to speak. If I happen to be out at a bar, chances are I've got enough money on me to buy my own drinks and a taxi home...

If a guy wants to buy me a drink, that's very kind of him. But if he wants to have a chat with me without buying me a drink.. well then that's also fine. I'm not going to say 'no freaking way' to a guy just because he doesn't buy me a drink or whatever, the only time I'll say 'no freaking way' is when I've spent enough time with the guy to judge his character and decide that I, quite simply, don't like it.
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LittleBambi wrote:
Dancing_Doll wrote:


Really? Even escorts, prostitutes and porn stars have rules or boundaries that they will not cross for money. I think the 'all or nothing' mentality is more on the rare side of things.

I see a big difference between making out with a hot girlfriend (something you might even do anyway) and accepting cash versus having sex with an unattractive man that you would never touch otherwise for money. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum in my opinion. One is for hands-off visual titillation and the other is to provide direct sexual gratification.


I didn't mean that so literally - I simply meant if I felt it okay to be paid for something such as a kiss....that I guess I wouldn't see so much of a difference between that and being paid for sex. I wouldn't have sex (or do anything else) with someone I wouldn't otherwise touch with a barge pole for money.

I'm merely asking to gain an understanding of how other people feel with regards to this....I live in a very 'white middle class area' and the idea alone of having sex for money would make your average tweed wearing person here pass out from disgust evil4

....jokes aside, I don't know more than one or two people in my real life who have any real experience either directly or indirectly with this 'subject'....so just being curious!


LOL, you'd be surprised. I live in a very 'white and wealthy' area and it's practically brimming with sex for money (the high-end escort variety)... although you can find it on the street about 10 minutes away. It seems fairly common for men who frequent bars in the area to approach attractive well-dressed women who are not even advertising anything explicitly and try to 'finesse an arrangement' as though every woman has her price. It has happened to me many times even though I'm not even dressed provocatively in these bars, but just meeting girlfriends for martinis in a classy venue. It definitely creeps me out, although it does make for some hilarious stories of how guys try do the 'finessing'... evil4

Then again, I know several girls that work that scene and although they will publicly deny what they are doing, it's fairly obvious to anyone "in the know". If I am having drinks with one of those girls (even if it's just an innocent girls night), it's very much assumed that I'm for sale as well and there are always those 'typical guys' approaching. Everyone remembers certain faces and gets to know the players on that scene.

Sex for money is everywhere... how it's exchanged and the cost may vary, but you'd be surprised at where you find it...

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No I have never had sex for money, but I have accepted a monetary gift as appreciation for a special weekend.

I was in my early 20's and met a very attractive older couple, not so older now. Spent the weekend with them a few weeks later. Wonderful time, both socially as well as sexually. On the Social side I met some powerful, interesting and influential people. On the Sexual side the three of us had a wonderful time and I would join them again anytime.

As I left the wife slipped an envelope into my hand it obviously had money in it. I declined to accept the money, but she insisted. I told her "I am not that kind of girl" to which she replied "We are all that kind of girl, just the medium of payment may be different!"

I am not ashamed that I accepted the money and would do it again in the right circumstances.

Lush Brother's and Sister's you will need to make you own judgement of the morality of accepting such a gift.

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cokeheadbarbie wrote:
Omifuck that story racked me into hysterics!!!! Any bloke who doesn't know its his job to buy girls drinks at a bar has got to be a right virgin or scared of girls. Theres no girl on the globe thats going to be talking intros with a guy at a club and then go buy and pay for her own drink while hes just standing there chatting her. Giggles. How embarassing! I guess its good for those types to spend their time online then because in the real world everyone knows that buying drinks is social and a way to buy a girls attention to have a chat with her. Its not being a whore its called being a normal person in a bar! I will chat until the drink is finished and if I like him we'll keep it up and he can buy me another.

Its not just because you give someone something it makes you a whore. I dont get the warped logic in this thread-posting at all.

Cash for a shag is a clear transaction. I have some male friendz in different parts of the world that help me out with rent sometimes or give me a little loan but it doesnt mean I absolutely have to have sex with them but if I'm staying at their place or on their boat and were partying and wrecked then sometimes things happen and so if I flash a little nipp to put a smile on his face or we party so much we end up having a bit of a shag then big deal no? My friendz tend to be loaded and nice to me if I need it but its not the same as a stranger paying you right out for a BJ.

IMO anyways.

xx B.


WOW the name Barbie defenitely suits you! I dont know about you but i wasnt raise to be just another hot girl waiting for a guy to pay my drinks bills or materials things, i need or just want. I was raise to be a smart, financially independent woman not a trophy wife that looks good but cant think or talk because no man would pay attention other than her boobs.

Yes is always apreciated to have a guy buying you a drink, not because of how much that drink cost but because of the gesture itself. Im not saying i want a deadbeat guy by my side because i want from the man i choose to be with to be as driven in live as i am and that implies material things and a comfortable life, but sometimes when you meet someone he/she might not be on the best financial situation of his life for an endless types of reasons and that doesnt mean that he is gonna be like that the rest of his life or that he doesnt deserve me talking to him long enough so i can decide if his PERSONALITY is worth of my time or not.

But getting back to the subject, i havent done it, have had some propositions but didnt feel the need or desire to do it. About the people that have get paid for sex one time or regularly im sure they have a reason why to do it and i see it must of the times as a win win situation, someone needed the money someone needed the sex so good for them.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 4:25:04 PM

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latinfoxy wrote:
cokeheadbarbie wrote:
Omifuck that story racked me into hysterics!!!! Any bloke who doesn't know its his job to buy girls drinks at a bar has got to be a right virgin or scared of girls. Theres no girl on the globe thats going to be talking intros with a guy at a club and then go buy and pay for her own drink while hes just standing there chatting her. Giggles. How embarassing! I guess its good for those types to spend their time online then because in the real world everyone knows that buying drinks is social and a way to buy a girls attention to have a chat with her. Its not being a whore its called being a normal person in a bar! I will chat until the drink is finished and if I like him we'll keep it up and he can buy me another.

Its not just because you give someone something it makes you a whore. I dont get the warped logic in this thread-posting at all.

Cash for a shag is a clear transaction. I have some male friendz in different parts of the world that help me out with rent sometimes or give me a little loan but it doesnt mean I absolutely have to have sex with them but if I'm staying at their place or on their boat and were partying and wrecked then sometimes things happen and so if I flash a little nipp to put a smile on his face or we party so much we end up having a bit of a shag then big deal no? My friendz tend to be loaded and nice to me if I need it but its not the same as a stranger paying you right out for a BJ.

IMO anyways.

xx B.


WOW the name Barbie defenitely suits you! I dont know about you but i wasnt raise to be just another hot girl waiting for a guy to pay my drinks bills or materials things, i need or just want. I was raise to be a smart, financially independent woman not a trophy wife that looks good but cant think or talk because no man would pay attention other than her boobs.

Yes is always apreciated to have a guy buying you a drink, not because of how much that drink cost but because of the gesture itself. Im not saying i want a deadbeat guy by my side because i want from the man i choose to be with to be as driven in live as i am and that implies material things and a comfortable life, but sometimes when you meet someone he/she might not be on the best financial situation of his life for an endless types of reasons and that doesnt mean that he is gonna be like that the rest of his life or that he doesnt deserve me talking to him long enough so i can decide if his PERSONALITY is worth of my time or not.

But getting back to the subject, i havent done it, have had some propositions but didnt feel the need or desire to do it. About the people that have get paid for sex one time or regularly im sure they have a reason why to do it and i see it must of the times as a win win situation, someone needed the money someone needed the sex so good for them.


If he can't pay then he can't play! Thats my tag. Its not that he needs to pay me for sex but he need to at least cover drinks, meals and anything we do in public. If prostitution is ages old then so is the tradition of the man taking care of the woman. I wud not want to meet some bloke on the downslide where he can't buy a measley drink in a bar for me. Like what am I even getting out of it then? I don't care how fit he is, it wud be embarassing to be hooked with a guy like that and I can imagine what other people wud think if I'm reaching for my wallet! Eeesh.

Guys don't want it either its too emasculating btw so I'm saying that guys should date women at their level when it comes to their cash flow. If ther finances are wrecked then maybe they cant date a really hot girl but they will probabley prefer to run up their tab at the pub with an average girl than be seen as a 'broke bloke' trying to get with girls like me. Omigod, they could not even afford cover at the clubs I go to!! Giggles.

xx B.
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 4:50:17 PM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:


LOL, you'd be surprised. I live in a very 'white and wealthy' area and it's practically brimming with sex for money (the high-end escort variety)... although you can find it on the street about 10 minutes away. It seems fairly common for men who frequent bars in the area to approach attractive well-dressed women who are not even advertising anything explicitly and try to 'finesse an arrangement' as though every woman has her price. It has happened to me many times even though I'm not even dressed provocatively in these bars, but just meeting girlfriends for martinis in a classy venue. It definitely creeps me out, although it does make for some hilarious stories of how guys try do the 'finessing'... evil4

Then again, I know several girls that work that scene and although they will publicly deny what they are doing, it's fairly obvious to anyone "in the know". If I am having drinks with one of those girls (even if it's just an innocent girls night), it's very much assumed that I'm for sale as well and there are always those 'typical guys' approaching. Everyone remembers certain faces and gets to know the players on that scene.

Sex for money is everywhere... how it's exchanged and the cost may vary, but you'd be surprised at where you find it...


Oh I don't deny that it's everywhere, but I should imagine not as much around here - not because it's a white middle class area as much as it's a very small little place (despite being a 'city') where everyone knows everyone....not to mention a painful lack of bars, dark alleys, red lights (that part was a joke..) and the like!

I'm sure it's out there around here, of course it is....but due to not being overly exposed to it I guess I was just interested in delving a bit deeper into how one would choose their own boundaries..
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Posted: Tuesday, May 03, 2011 5:05:01 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:
I think you're not quite getting the gist of what I'm saying.... I don't, at this point in my life, need the stable and providing kind of man.


Not to pick on you, but because you did type the above...

What do you consider a providing type of man, to be providing, in a stable...short or long term relationship? I read LatinFoxy's comment (just above) and she, I think ... nailed it pretty well in her 1st two paragraphs. You did too, later on...

A sharing relationship, where you can remove the financial worth of one or the other person, from the equation...would be ideal, but this is not...feasible, in many examples. One party will usually always be earning more coin than the other. We guys know what being a 'good provider' means. But it's un-stated meaning makes the person who is receiving those provisions, an...ummm... W word alert.

What is 'she' providing the good providing male, Bambi? Her charming wit and intellect? evil4

During my lifetime, I have pretty much dated/mated/fellated with women who did not earn as much income as I have earned. Now...I would have spent the amount of money on myself anyway, but I generally invited several of those ladies to join me, in the stable and (unstable) fun, food and frolic - and many of 'them' came along for the ride. Some chose not to.

But I would have spent the coin anyway (on myself for sure) as well as on those around me. I'm kind of loose in that way.

One time, not too long ago...I ran around with a woman a few years younger than I, who always insisted on picking up 'the bill'. I could not spend one red cent on her or 'us'. She was fairly wealthy by American term$. And I was her kept man/man-whore. lmao, I think of Deuce Bigelow. That was me!

She even paid my mortgage for half a year! I wasn't going to look a gift horse in the mouth (to use an expression). What's good for the goose is definitely good for the gander, Bambi. ;-)

Stable is always preferred. A good provider? I only hoped that 'she' could provide for her own self (and any cats she had owned).


Most intelligent people are introspective and doubt themselves while many fucktards are proudly over-confident. - a tip of the hat to Charles Bukowski
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