Well let me start off by saying i am 6 years married in july and have 4 kids i have recently been having an affair with the father of my first child the others are my husbands but this guy knows what i like and is willing to do anything i want to try. My husband on the other hand is very conservative and doesnt like porn or things that i am into. I recently told him i am into bdsm me as the sub and he is willing to try but i dont know how to tell him what he is doing wrong for 1 he kisses like a giraffe you know with the tongue down your throught and slober gross! How do i let him know what he is doing wrong without turning him off to all this?
Thanks for any help you can give
Live Laugh Love and have sex like crazy!
Why not try showing him what you like through responses to things he is doing next time your together and if that fails find a film with the things you want in and watch it together and drop subtle hints x
Thanks i will try that but putting a movie in wont work cause he doesnt like them which really sucks!
Live Laugh Love and have sex like crazy!
Well, if he doesn't like the visual, maybe a good book on the subject. Or a good short story. You could say you want to try out each step as it is in a scene.
Make sure the kissing part is very detailed and a bit instructional in it's description so that he knows what he have to think about in the technical way.
Anyhow, good luck! let us know how it goes.
Thanks catnip i will def try that!
Live Laugh Love and have sex like crazy!
Perhaps you can show him best by your own responses. A kiss you don't like; break it, then kiss him the way you do like. Repeat as needed. (much like training a puppy ha) The bdsm you can certainly take the lead in the suggestion area and even by supplying the desired equipment; satin sash cords rather then chains, covered paddle rather then a 2x4, etc. He'll catch on. You married him so he can't be all dumb. I'm sure he will want to please you once you show him how.
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
I think redlips response is spot on...teach him by showing....and never be negative about it, in other words don't say your kisses suck!
For BDSM....bring the subject up and gage his reaction, then speak to him in a non-confrontational way saying that this is something important to you and you would love him to be part of this side of you......plus learning BDSM together would be great fun!
Can I ask, is this affair purely sexual to try different things or are there emotional bonds as you do have a child together?
The reason I am asking is, could these questions about kissing with your husband and the BDSM be an excuse to try and find fault with your hubby so you can justify the affair?
Thanks loud and everyone else i will be trying all of these ideas.
Loud he as always kissed horribly and the guy i had my 1st kid with doesnt know how to kiss either so im not trying to find fault i am just getting what i dont get at home. Why is it the guys i am with cant kiss for crap?!
Live Laugh Love and have sex like crazy!
Ah let me show you...just tilt slightly to the right.....lol
Tell them your lips are delicate like a ripe peach...and to start gently and erotically.....
Lol you gona be my first good kiss?!
Live Laugh Love and have sex like crazy!
My idea is so corny and old-fashioned that it's probably not mentioning, but what about couples therapy? It seems as if a lot of talking has to go on here. Besides, I admit, the idea of a man who doesn't like porn strikes me as so weird I just wonder what's going on with him. Most guys would just do anything to be in your husband's shoes (maybe that's not the right image!).
