P spot stimulation

Advanced Wordsmith

0 likes 25 Aug 2011

My lover enjoys having her arse fondled and kissed as well as a little gentle finger penetration. I would like her to return the favor but it's like I'm all front and no back. I have tried turning my bum to he while she was in a sitting position giving her the perfect opportunity but she did not get it. IT is diffucult to talk to her about things like that.

Any suggestions?

Buz

The Linebacker

0 likes 25 Aug 2011

First of all make sure you are extra clean before you try and get her to attempt this. My wife enjoy doing this to each other but we always shower before we do.

Olivia

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0 likes 25 Aug 2011

After writing my post on why straight men need to open up to anal play, I may have bypassed a very valid point. Some women have the exact same hang-ups when it comes to p-spot stimulation.

The reasons for the female 'ick factor' can range from the stigma of "oh my god, my man wants me to play with his ass, he must be gay" to "omg, men's asses are disgusting".

The first point is definitely an inaccuracy, and we'll optimistically assume that your man is acquainted with hygiene, so that renders them both false.

I always advocate communication between couples, which includes what you like and don't like in the bedroom.

Turning your ass to her and hoping she gets the message may not work. Some women are trained to believe that the back-door is off-limits, and especially if that woman prefers hers to be off-limits.

In your case, it appears that she enjoys anal stimulation, so the issue may be more psychological.

During foreplay, you should be able to communicate verbally with her or use dirty-talk to steer the action. The easiest thing would be to just guide her hand there while she is sucking you off and murmur in the heat of ecstasy "mmm.... slide your finger in there."

If sex is a silent occasion for you, then you could bring this up in a matter-of-fact way by educating her about the p-spot. Many women don't even know what this is or why men should naturally find this kind of stimulation pleasurable. You can do this either through conversation, or perhaps watching a "better sex video" with her on p-spot stimulation, or you can even bring up the health benefits.

If she knows for sure that you are not only open to having your ass played with, but that you actually desire it, she will probably be happy to oblige you. Getting over her initial uncertainty is the biggest hurdle.

Guest

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0 likes 4 Oct 2011

Olivia

I consider myself reasonably well informed about sex. Lie I think I am very well informed. But I have been one of the ejaculating females most of my sexual life. Not always but most of the time. I have now run into a young woman who claims it is a learned skill. I always thought either you could or you could not depending on the conditions. Please provide your expertise on the subject.

Olivia

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0 likes 5 Oct 2011

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Olivia

I consider myself reasonably well informed about sex. Lie I think I am very well informed. But I have been one of the ejaculating females most of my sexual life. Not always but most of the time. I have now run into a young woman who claims it is a learned skill. I always thought either you could or you could not depending on the conditions. Please provide your expertise on the subject.

It might be a learned skill in that you need a certain amount of very vigorous g-spot manipulation to attain female ejaculation and many women simply don't try or experience this, either through masturbation or intercourse.

Some women have ejaculated once in their lifetime but never again.

Others do it quite regularly, and some don't at all.

The actual percentage of females who ejaculate is uncertain. However, in Masters and Johnson's famous lab experiments with over 400 women, they did not record anyone who ejaculated at climax.

I believe that conditions have to be right in order to achieve g-spot orgasm. Women who have never tried intense g-spot stimulation may be entirely capable of squirting but just haven't experimented with letting themselves get there, so in that sense, yes it can be something of a learned skill.

It just has to be assumed that not every woman will have the right physicality and ability to let themselves go in order to produce a full squirting effect. Similar to how many women are unable to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.

Orgasm is a physical reaction but it is very guided and influenced by our psychology and mindset as well.

Guest

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0 likes 14 Oct 2011

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Olivia

I consider myself reasonably well informed about sex. Lie I think I am very well informed. But I have been one of the ejaculating females most of my sexual life. Not always but most of the time. I have now run into a young woman who claims it is a learned skill. I always thought either you could or you could not depending on the conditions. Please provide your expertise on the subject.

It might be a learned skill in that you need a certain amount of very vigorous g-spot manipulation to attain female ejaculation and many women simply don't try or experience this, either through masturbation or intercourse.

Some women have ejaculated once in their lifetime but never again.

Others do it quite regularly, and some don't at all.

The actual percentage of females who ejaculate is uncertain. However, in Masters and Johnson's famous lab experiments with over 400 women, they did not record anyone who ejaculated at climax.

I believe that conditions have to be right in order to achieve g-spot orgasm. Women who have never tried intense g-spot stimulation may be entirely capable of squirting but just haven't experimented with letting themselves get there, so in that sense, yes it can be something of a learned skill.

It just has to be assumed that not every woman will have the right physicality and ability to let themselves go in order to produce a full squirting effect. Similar to how many women are unable to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.

Orgasm is a physical reaction but it is very guided and influenced by our psychology and mindset as well.

Olivia i have a further question on the topic of female g-spot stimulation and ejaculation.

My gf and i love masturbation play and practice serious g-spot stimulation in very passionate heated exchanges and she cums quite vigorously but without ejaculation and she becomes very sensitive immediately after her orgasm requiring all manual stimulation to stop. I am wondering if the reason she is not ejaculating is because she is holding back. I have been told that the urge to ejaculate is much like holding your urine so she might be mentally and physically not allowing herself to cut loose and cum at the level required for ejaculation due to the urge to control erroneously her bladder.

I will discuss this with her tonight and if my theory is correct i will try to talk her through not fighting the pressure and urges that may inhibit her. Any suggestions on how I might best convey this to her and squelch her inhibition. Assuming my initial hypothesis is correct. Thank you.

Olivia

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0 likes 20 Oct 2011

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Olivia

I consider myself reasonably well informed about sex. Lie I think I am very well informed. But I have been one of the ejaculating females most of my sexual life. Not always but most of the time. I have now run into a young woman who claims it is a learned skill. I always thought either you could or you could not depending on the conditions. Please provide your expertise on the subject.

It might be a learned skill in that you need a certain amount of very vigorous g-spot manipulation to attain female ejaculation and many women simply don't try or experience this, either through masturbation or intercourse.

Some women have ejaculated once in their lifetime but never again.

Others do it quite regularly, and some don't at all.

The actual percentage of females who ejaculate is uncertain. However, in Masters and Johnson's famous lab experiments with over 400 women, they did not record anyone who ejaculated at climax.

I believe that conditions have to be right in order to achieve g-spot orgasm. Women who have never tried intense g-spot stimulation may be entirely capable of squirting but just haven't experimented with letting themselves get there, so in that sense, yes it can be something of a learned skill.

It just has to be assumed that not every woman will have the right physicality and ability to let themselves go in order to produce a full squirting effect. Similar to how many women are unable to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.

Orgasm is a physical reaction but it is very guided and influenced by our psychology and mindset as well.

Olivia i have a further question on the topic of female g-spot stimulation and ejaculation.

My gf and i love masturbation play and practice serious g-spot stimulation in very passionate heated exchanges and she cums quite vigorously but without ejaculation and she becomes very sensitive immediately after her orgasm requiring all manual stimulation to stop. I am wondering if the reason she is not ejaculating is because she is holding back. I have been told that the urge to ejaculate is much like holding your urine so she might be mentally and physically not allowing herself to cut loose and cum at the level required for ejaculation due to the urge to control erroneously her bladder.

I will discuss this with her tonight and if my theory is correct i will try to talk her through not fighting the pressure and urges that may inhibit her. Any suggestions on how I might best convey this to her and squelch her inhibition. Assuming my initial hypothesis is correct. Thank you.

She might be mentally holding back. After all, since we were toddlers we are automatically trained to hold back when we feel the urge to urinate. For someone who's not into watersports, it might be difficult to get past this point. She may be concerned that she might actually end up urinating and find the idea of it distasteful . But consider this, and you might want to raise this issue with her. Let's say she really let's go and ends up accidentally urinating. Will your combined sexual worlds implode? No. Reassuring her that it's not a big deal either way is important here. Both orgasm and urination are forms of "release". Even if a worst case scenario wet-the-bed situation occurs, it's not the end of the world. Put some towels down or even a plastic mattress cover (meant for kid's beds) if she's really concerned. And just make it an experimental play-scenario. It's all about practice, and we often don't get everything right on the first try when learning something new, right? This, combined with your reassurance and non-judgmental attitude, may put her more at ease and less likely to hold back.

Then you might want to watch some videos on g-spot stimulation (proper instructional videos, not just squirt-porn which is usually faked) to get the right understanding for the type of vigorous stimulation she will need.

And lastly, the important thing to remember is that some women just aren't able to have this kind of orgasm. This is just like some women aren't able to orgasm through intercourse alone. It doesn't mean sexual failure, it just means that we are all built differently. As long as she is enjoying the orgasms that she's having right now, I wouldn't be overly concerned if she's not a squirter. The reality is that most women aren't.

Guest

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0 likes 3 Aug 2012

Mission complete. GF squirted last night drenching the bed. Not porn squirting but more of a gusher. smile