I am currently writing a love story about a past lover, eventhough I have recently begun seeing someone else.
My question is, how do you feel about writing about past lovers when you are in a relationship with someone? and do you feel like you can share those stories with your current partners?
Honestly I've never felt the urge to write about my one other past lover, so it's hard for me to relate. That's less a matter or guilt or awkward feelings because of my current partner and more a matter of not having anything good to write about, lol.
The closest I've come is writing a fantasy about a real life friend of mine and I did share that with my partner. Ironically, he was more comfortable with that than reading stories I had written based on chat sessions with friends on Lush.
Hypothetically, I think it would depend on how long I'd been seeing the new person, how relaxed and confident I felt about the relationship and how open minded my new lover was. Nothing would ever stop me writing what I wanted to write, but if I thought it would hurt them or make them feel uncomfortable I would hold off on showing them until a more appropriate moment. I think I would show them eventually.
Does that mean it would be bad to be writing about a future lover while in a present relationship??
Surely that's ok, right?? Right??
;)
When I write stories, I might use past experiences which yes means with a past lover. I turn it into a fantasy and change the person I was with into a new character. Name, description, age etc.
I'm thinking with tarnished memories I'll stick to the present and forget the past.
No one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful, or greedy -unless you let him.
- Napoleon Hill
Sharing ANYTHING about past lovers, relationships, etc. is a fast way to end the current one; regardless of how long you've been together. Bringing up someone, or something, from the past means you are thinking about it; don't go there, unless you'd rather live in the past; alone.
I see no problem writing about a past lover.
But as mistress-of-words says to share it with the new lover depends on how long you have been going with him/her.
