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I recently met a woman who said she would prefer NOT to have oral sex (me going down on her). Though WE had not ever done that.

Do some of you ladies like oral sex and some not? Or Can you confirm my suspicion that she probably never had someone do a good job?? Love your comments!!!

Plus I'd really like to go down on this chic!! Advise???
my2cents
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I like it! I like it a lot! My guy is great at it!
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Cunnilingus is the best thing on planet earth a woman has ever received. If she says no to receive an oral pleasure, it doesn't mean a "NO". It actually means that she's just worried to be preoccupied in sex. Some have been reported to think about a preferable partner rather than all to go down on her. If she says no to a man, she actually feels comfortable with a woman and vice versa.
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hi
i have a "friend" that is not bi or lesbian.
she does not like oral sex to be done to her at all, end of discussion, case closed, no chance of an appeal.
her current and past boyfriends have confirmed this drastic dislike of the act.

when asked why, she does not really give an answer to anyone.
she will however gladly be felt up or fingered and has no problems giving oral.

each to their own i guess
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I also have a friend who refuses to receive oral sex but she also refuses to give it so that's just her thing.
Personally I love oral sex as it seems probably more intimate than normal intercourse.
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I love it. Fortunately I receive great head almost every day.
I love looking at porn some times while receiving, although even better is reading stories.
However I really get of giving oral stimulation. Nothing is better than teasing and stimulating my wife.
Watching her body, seeing her pussy leak and drinking that heavenly nectar.
As the orgasm hits, she screams, I really drink as her body spasms in ecstasy.
Then she wants me to fuck her silly.
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Amazing.. How could anyone not like it...My BF puts me in another planet when he performs oral on me... When he rims me, he owns me...Nothing better.. Makes orgasms so much more more.........I need it right now
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may she's like me. Its not that I fell discomfort or feel embarrassed from getting it, I just simply do not get anything from it.
I doubt its because my past sex partners have been bad at it, because I have had a few guys go down on me and not once did i get pleasure from it.

and I hate the fact that i get nothing out of it :L
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I love receiving oral as much as I love giving oral.
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Are you serious?? I don't think I've ever heard of woman NOT wanting to have someone go down on her!
Not many things can beat getting good head lol
If I ever turned down oral I know something is seriously wrong with me
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She must be crazy! it over excites me so much sometimes I need different stimulation to get off.

I can imagine some women would be too proper or up tight to ever imagine giving or receiving oral sex and I don't think there'd be anything you could do to change that.

Good luck!!
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I love receiving it too, but like someone said above, if she's not had good experiences of it, then it may not be appealing to her.

Also, some women are very self-conscious about their 'lady gardens' (hahahah) and would perhaps feel uncomfortable having someone be so intimate in that area, or perhaps she hadn't done her usual trimming, clipping, waxing or whatever?

I guess it's not for everyone, but it might be worth finding out? Maybe she's not comfortable with her body or maybe she thinks it's dirty? I know that is a common theme too...

Who knows?
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There was a time that I didn't really care for oral, but that was mostly due to not knowing what I needed or being able to convey it. Every woman is different and needs different things. Some women can't have clitoral orgasms (I am not one of them), so I'm sure for them oral sex does feel pointless. Even more so if they have a deep G spot. My only suggestion would be to ask if you could try oral on her while using a toy for penetration to give her both sensations.
Also I know when I was young I had issues with getting overly sensitive at times and getting over stimulated can cause problems too.
The best thing you can do, if she is willing to try it that is, would be to ask yes or no questions during about what you are doing. Help her figure out what she likes. Coaxing her into moving her hips can be very helpful too. Good Luck
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My girlfriend and I love giving oral to each other. My ex hated the act of giving but was very open to receiving. She always gagged as soon as she even tried. Never once received oral in our 20 marriage
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I never had a woman turn down oral sex. I know a couple of women who don't like it, but I never dated them either. So I guess there are some women who just don't like it.
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interestingly, I went through a stage where I couldn't stand to be touched or licked down there (thank God that didn't last long). For me there were several issues involved: still dealing with being molested, was married to an abusive asshole, and self confidence.

I knew a woman that hated oral sex, both giving and receiving. Her issue was her up bringing. She was brainwashed into believing that oral sex was filthy and something only perverts did. No amount of reasoning was going to change her mind about it.

Get to know her better and have open frank unjudgemental discussion with her. If she is unbending and it is a deal breaker for either of you then better to know now. Good luck!
Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. "Yes" is the answer. ~Swami X

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I am almost always open to receiving (and giving). The one thing that does turn me off though, is a partner who thinks that porn-movie cunnilingus even remotely resembles what I need and want.
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I am almost always open to receiving (and giving). The one thing that does turn me off though, is a partner who thinks that porn-movie cunnilingus even remotely resembles what I need and want.


Thank you! I do love oral sex as both recipient and giver, but I have had a friend who wasn't into it because it just skeeved her out. I think if she had a partner do it right she might have changed her opinion about but I wasn't about to share hubby.
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I have known a few women that didn't think they liked oral sex and through patience and persistence I convinced them that it was ok both morally and spiritually. It took several years with one of them.

I think that almost every woman I ever went down on enjoyed it more than any other form of sex or affection.

Every woman is different in what pleasures her most... Here is some good common sense advice on giving oral to a woman and I can't remember where I originally found it....
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Start off with a good sensual massage and TAKE YOUR TIME getting her relaxed and in the mood.

Now youcan start to lick and suck her inner thighs and slowly work your-way towards the crease where her leg joins her pelvis. The more excited she becomes, the more sensitive these areas get. So the more time you-spend on foreplay, the more aroused she will become.

When you-finally reach her vagina, spend some time kissing, licking, and sucking her outer lips and the area all around her clitoris. Its important to take your-time and slowly build up as the longer-you resist touching her clitoris, the more she will want it to be touched.

When you-are ready, slowly and gently slide your-tongue from her vaginal opening directly upward until you-can stroke her clitoris from underneath with your-tongue. If you-have done it right, she should momentarily arch her back and shudder as she gasps for air.

As you-lick her clitoris with-your tongue, try not to use the same pattern on the same area for too long as this can get boring. Vary your patterns and change them regularly while paying close attention to her reactions. If-you find an area of her clitoris that is particularly sensitive, keep stimulating it until you-bring her to orgasm.

Women really appreciate a man who is good at oral sex so its in your best interest to be as good at cunnilingus as you-can possibly be. This will separate you-from most other men and-your performance will be a hot topic amongst the women who may be interested in your services.
Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
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Luv it.
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Yes,I love it
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the only time my girl says no to me going down on her if after we go for a hike, run, or after work or have been doing some type of activity. She is moist most of the time and it bugs her if i do go down on her after this, but she will or we will shower and then she tells me ok baby you know what to do So it could be this, and some woman think they may not taste good at the time and feel you may not like her taste. So maybe it was the timing and not so much the act???
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My best guess is that she's never had it performed successfully to the point of orgasm. I know some find it odd and a bit gross, but I have found that some men are better than others. The good ones are the ones who listen... not just to my words but also to my breathing and the way my body responds to what is being done/what he is doing to me.

In fact, I had a rule that if a guy couldn't make me cum via oral sex, or at least get me so fucking aroused I'd fuck him silly... we didn't stay together long. I hope you can convince her to let you show her the magic of oral.
Cheeky Chick
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I'm not sure how anyone wouldn't like it. I know I went through a time where I could only get off to oral sex and wouldn't have sex unless he went down on me first. Thankfully that past and now I can orgasm during intercourse. I know my sister has never been a fan of oral sex. She likes to give it, but don't much care for getting it. She'll let them do it but she don't get off to it and finds it boring..
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I honestly couldn't live with out it!
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I love getting and giving oral sex. If you want to have a satisfying sex life , I suggest that you dump her and find a real woman.