Welcome Guest Search | Active Topics | Members | Log In | Register

ok i just need help here..what do u guys and girls do with the gift ur ex gave u after you'll br Options · View
MarySweets
Posted: Friday, March 09, 2012 6:08:53 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 3/5/2012
Posts: 292
Location: In my fantastic mind, Australia
I still have a few items from my first lover. A cuddle toy, a book, some notes etc. It's more sentimental value then anything else. I haven't told my fiance though. Though I'm sure he has a few things from his exes.

"Sexual pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken."

Simone de Beauvoir
XxPrimalGoddessxX
Posted: Monday, March 26, 2012 7:36:45 AM

Rank: Active Ink Slinger

Joined: 11/10/2011
Posts: 45
Location: United States
Keep it. It was a gift. Anything I gave him, he can keep or do whatever.
Ruthie
Posted: Tuesday, March 27, 2012 1:01:31 AM

Rank: Story Verifier
Moderator

Joined: 10/21/2010
Posts: 2,753
Location: United States
Gifts are for keeping if you want to keep them, or throwing away or selling if you want, not for giving back when you break up with someone. I don't want any gift I've given back, and would never offer to give a gift back that has been given to me.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 5:21:26 AM

Rank: Lurker

Joined: 12/1/2006
Posts: 688,953
It depends on the break up. U can b heart broken n at the rage of the moment u dump everything out or u brake it off well and u keep sentimental things.

I have keept several items of past ex's like cute teddies, flowers,rings, ect... pictures and such they just go in a photo album as another chapter in my life I survived. If u don't know what to do with the things give him the option to take them back. Simple
blazestcyr
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 8:33:53 AM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 10/19/2011
Posts: 737
Location: where bugs die
u keep it..if u love it..however..u dont tell the next 1 sometimes gf/bf's get jealous...why solicit trouble

but AFTER u get married the rules change

till then keep the good items...with the great memories....

but live in present...

Catnip
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 5:33:04 PM

Rank: Internet Sensation

Joined: 3/30/2009
Posts: 3,967
Location: Cloudy dreams., Sweden
I give back keys, most of the time. Other than that I don't give back things I've gotten, gifts are gifts.

One of my exs gave me back my letters to him. He felt they meant nothing at all anymore and if I wanted them back I could have them or he'd let them burn.
I took it back, I like keeping letters.

Kitanica
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 6:13:40 PM

Rank: Forum Guru

Joined: 4/16/2011
Posts: 882
Location: The Sprawl, United States
I'd say be creative. a box with a stuffed animals head in it on Halloween works nicely, or chopping up letters to mail back kidnapper type notes where each letter is a different size.

Classy.
Dani
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 6:26:59 PM

Rank: Big-Haired Bitch
Moderator

Joined: 12/25/2010
Posts: 6,078
Location: Under Your Bed, United States
I toss old letters. You always come across them at some point for some reason or another, and it's horrible explaining it to a new love, trust me, I've been there. If the gift is too sentimental and my feelings aren't as intense, I give it back. For instance, an ex who was quite well-off/spoiled got me a diamond key necklace saying it was the "key to his heart". The necklace was beautiful and quite expensive, but he had feelings for me that I didn't have for him. He also had a habit of trying to buy my affection when he felt I didn't reciprocate his affection. It gives them a sense of false hope if you keep it (I've also been there). If it was a bad relationship, I also return the gifts. I've never been the vindictive type, so I don't hawk things out of bitterness and I'm not hard up for cash. If we end on mutual/good terms, I keep the gifts. In fact, I'm wearing a bracelet right now from an ex that I'm still friends with.

Memories have a way of attaching themselves to things, and I've just always been an avid believer that if someone is out of your life, they're out of it for a reason. Why keep their shit?dontknow



Dudealicious
Posted: Tuesday, August 21, 2012 11:56:58 PM

Rank: Wise Ass
Moderator

Joined: 11/12/2010
Posts: 5,536
Location: The center of the universe, Canada
After your title of the thread....I would suggest you learn proper English

The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker

Users browsing this topic
Guest 


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS

Powered by Yet Another Forum.net version 1.9.1.6 (NET v4.0) - 11/14/2007
Copyright © 2003-2006 Yet Another Forum.net. All rights reserved.