I was staying at a females friends house for a few days. While I was there I stayed in her bed every night. But when I tried to make a move she turned me down. Why would she want me to sleep in her bed if she didn't want to sleep together?
maybe she was just being nice so you wouldnt have to sleep on the floor, maybe she just wanted to sleep next to someone or maybe she wanted to but just kept chickening out. but i can say there would be people or reasons i would be ok sleeping NEXT to someone but not have sex with them.
im betting on that she just wanted to sleep next to what appears to be a big strong guy. sometimes girls need different things in bed than guys.
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Because she wanted somebody to cuddle up to, no have sex with. I have plenty of male friends i would sleep next to but not want to have sex with them
Well weve hinted at having sex with each other and were pretty close friends. I'm not upset and I wasnt expecting sex but I just thought id give it a shot. plus weve kissed before. Innocent I know but still a sign of affection
Im with most girls here, just because you are sleeping in the same bed doesnt mean she wants to have sex with you, if this was true i would have slept with most of my close male friends. I LOVE to cuddle so if i get the chance to cuddle with one of my male friends i do it and we cuddle the hell out of each other, but thats it! And the part about that you have kissed before needs a little but more of an explenation have you just drunkenly kissed? Because that doesnt count heheheh
Ps: you are right about something we are complicated to understand creatures, but thats half the fun isnt it? *giggles*
And odd question, really; in her eyes, you're probably the one whose confused.
Why not give up the idea of trying to lay it on her, and just lay in bed with her?
Put the ball in her court, so to speak. If she picks it up to make her move, then
play. If not, then you haven't wasted energy and you haven't damaged the trust
and friendship you two have established.
Sometimes it's hard to find the line between affectionate and sexual intimacy, and
the rules vary from woman to woman, and by how much. If it's absolutely killing
you, then tread softly and ask her of her expectations...
Wet met in a college class we had together. And im 22 now. Its not a huge deal to me. Were still friends and still talk so I'm okay with that
I'm going to take the male chauvinst pig thought process here. If a grown woman invites a male friend to spend the night with her, in HER bed, then she should know that he's thinking she wants something physical to happen. Unless she states up front, "I'm going to let you sleep in my bed because it's big enough for both of us. No use you sleeping on the couch if there's room here. But don't get any ideas, just sleeping." then he's thinking he has the green light to start something.
She may not want a quick and meaningless fuckfest. Maybe she does want cuddling and passion and lovemaking with a person she cares about. I don't think the OP was totally out of line thinking that she wanted some kind of fun. If he tried and she said "no" he should stop. But I can see how and why he tried to get some action.
How often do women invite/allow men to sleep in their beds just to spend the night? If any of you invited a dude to spend the night and he DIDN'T make a move, would you be offended or think something was wrong with him?
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates Interesting one this, the mind of a woman! We need to know her sexual past. Could be she's had a bad experience, and is shy/afraid to make the first move. I recently met a girl who was when she was 16, for example! It leaves its scars. Could be she is a virgin?! I would say you need to TALK about it. But here's an idea.....
Don't deny her the cuddles she craves. Explain that she turns you on so much and you'd love to make love to her, but that you love cuddling. Tell her she has such an effect on you that you prefer to sleep on the couch. Cuddle her until she goes to sleep, but then you go and sleep on the couch. Make her feel special, and show you care, by removing yourself. Maybe she will realise the effect she has on you. Is that a plan?
So, you've know each other for a while. Close friends.... you're asking the wrong people. Ask her! Friends talk don't they?
its pretty much a given that any man anywhere is going to at least hope for sex if invited into bed with a woman. and she should have known that. the only men and women who go to bed together without the expectation of sex are married couples ;) lol...kidding kidding
i dont think its unreasonable to have expected her to be clear about what she wanted or didnt want. but im coming at this from the point of view of someone who is comfortable being clear about what i want and dont want. you guys seem pretty young and maybe she just wasnt mature enough to articulate it.
its ok to just wanna have a sleep over. but guys really need to be drawn a picture sometimes so that we can all stay on the same page.
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