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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 10:54:37 AM

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Beck wrote:
Wow. This topic has moved fast. Um I did not get a chance to respond but someone brought up a very valid concern.
Before I do anything I need to ask my MISTRESS for her permission. I think she would be pissed if I did anything without her
consent.



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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:03:11 AM

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Yes. I am fairly new to the M/S world.
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Beck wrote:
Wow. This topic has moved fast. Um I did not get a chance to respond but someone brought up a very valid concern.
Before I do anything I need to ask my MISTRESS for her permission. I think she would be pissed if I did anything without her
consent.



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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:17:08 AM

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Yes. I do.
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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:45:46 PM

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Reminds me of my elementary school playground. If a boy and a girl "liked" each other, someone would stage a "wedding" during recess, and then they were considered "married." At least until they stopped "liking" each other. It was all very sordid, now that I think about it.
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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 2:35:22 PM

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It is hard enough to maintain ONE woman why would a guy put himself through trying to maintain a second, even if she was only online. No Thanks!
Guest
Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 5:23:07 PM

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There is that. Like I said before I am not going to do anything until I get permission.
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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 8:20:29 PM

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Beck wrote:
There is that. Like I said before I am not going to do anything until I get permission.


So, it's not your mistress you're thinking on online marrying, then?

Out of interest, do you ever drink before you post? Pint Drunk


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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 8:57:37 PM

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Beck wrote:
Still it might be good practice for when it happens irl.


whaaat? honey nooo...do you know why? cuz online ISNT real life and im sorry but just freaking duh.

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Posted: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 10:05:58 PM

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Ahhhh yet another one of Becks topics.
Man you are a true walking contradiction, thanks for the amusement!


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Guest
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Dudealicious wrote:
Ahhhh yet another one of Becks topics.
Man you are a true walking contradiction, thanks for the amusement!




I know right this is very amuzing
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 1:40:12 AM

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Regaeman Man Could work though, get fed up with her you just delete the bitch hehe
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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 6:20:39 AM

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hotjet64 wrote:
Regaeman Man Could work though, get fed up with her you just delete the bitch hehe


Um....no. and i may have been a bit tipsy when i was typing this. ofcourse i wanted to marry my mistress.
But I would need permission her permission to ask for her hand in marriage.
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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 6:40:56 AM

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Beck wrote:


Um....no. and i may have been a bit tipsy when i was typing this. ofcourse i wanted to marry my mistress.
But I would need permission her permission to ask for her hand in marriage.


i have to ask, cuz i dont know. is your mistress in real life or online...? do you think she wants to marry you? are you ready for marriage? seeing as, from this perspective, you seem a little confused. (not being a bitch, just sayin)

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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 6:47:37 AM

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My Mistress and I also talk on the phone so in that respect it is irl. Am I ready for marriage? Hmm, I would like to think so but maybe not.
As far as the other question goes that is something I guess I would need to discuss with her at length.
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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 6:55:04 AM

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Beck wrote:
My Mistress and I also talk on the phone so in that respect it is irl. Am I ready for marriage? Hmm, I would like to think so but maybe not.
As far as the other question goes that is something I guess I would need to discuss with her at length.


well i would advise some actual face time before marriage (some meaning like A LOT. like a year or more). and the reason i say that is because when you are online or even on the phone you are only getting a very narrow slice of the person. you dont get to know what they are like out there in the real world amongst real people. if you agree to a lifetime commitment over the phone or via text (in any form) then you might be in for a nasty surprise when you actually have to live with her. again..just my HO...good luck beck :)

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I can just imagine the major fights.

"You said you were gonna clean the inbox when you got home from work and you haven't done that! You're such a lazy slob! It takes only 10 minutes and you couldn't even bother doing that!"

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:00:07 AM

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well hopefully there will be no fights. i'm a good lil pup. but i also think that the previous poster has some valid points.
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I'm taking the piss, but it's all in good fun clown

But my advice is that even if you do get an online marriage, don't let it control your REAL life, the one where you can go out and do shit with friends and family. The moment you start thinking "Shit, I promised my wife I was to be online right now." is the time you need to delete your account here on lush, or at least get a divorce. One thing is killing time here and have fun. Letting it dictate your real life is taking it too far and I hope you don't do that.

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
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Thank you. Yeah, I knew you were 'taking the piss'. Its all for fun as you said. That is a very valid point.
I know the difference between online and irl. I may not be very bright but I'm not stupid in that regard.
There are going to be times when I am going to be hanging with friends or family and there will be times
where I will be spending time with the wife. Its all about compromise. With that bieng said I will just have to
wait and see what developes.
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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:24:00 AM

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elitfromnorth wrote:
I'm taking the piss, but it's all in good fun clown

But my advice is that even if you do get an online marriage, don't let it control your REAL life, the one where you can go out and do shit with friends and family. The moment you start thinking "Shit, I promised my wife I was to be online right now." is the time you need to delete your account here on lush, or at least get a divorce. One thing is killing time here and have fun. Letting it dictate your real life is taking it too far and I hope you don't do that.


oh see now i disagree here. if you have promised to meet her online at a certain time then you should follow thru. thats no different than telling a real life person or wife or friend or whatever that you'll meet them for coffee. you dont just blow that off do you?

"omg! i made a commitment to this person to be somewhere with them right now! jesus christ!! she's controlling my life! i cant DEALLLL!!! im breaking up right now!" lol ;)

commitment is commitment...and if you are going to commit to some sort of online marriage (which im sorry to each their own and whatever but i just think is weird) then you should respect all that comes with it...including keeping your online "dates".



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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:24:01 AM

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oops...but now you get too look at my pretty ass pic twice ;)

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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:25:35 AM

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How would one go about consummating an online marriage? By cybering? Online marriage seems rather absurd to me.
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But that's what I'm saying; you shouldn't have to make compromises unless this is something you wanna bring into real life. Let everything in your real life come first then let lush come after that. If you invest a lot of time and effort into this and it all goes to shit then you might end up feeling more distraught than you'd think. Losing an online relationship that you both were aware of would remain online isn't something that should really bother you too much, but if you let this take a big part of your life then you could just end up developing real feelings for your "wife". This is all a fantasy world and fantasyworlds should remain that unless you're both commited to take it one step further. This is especially important if YOU makes her and this a high priority and she only uses it to kill time and it's not really a priority. Tread carefully since you don't know what's behind the next corner, especially online. But, it's your choice.

And assbitch(hehe, couldn't help it :p); Why should you let an online commitment control your life? If I make a "date" to meet someone here on lush, why should I feel bad if I can't make it? I know for certain that I won't feel bad, because lush is something that I use to kill time. I'm not gonna ignore my IRL friends, simply because they will never be as important to me as friends here on lush. Yes, I would be a bit down if some of the many friends I've made here told me to fuck off and never talk to them again, but it would never come close to how sad I would be if I lost one of my IRL friends. As fun as lush is, it's online and it's fantasy, pretty much like daydreaming. Would you ignore your friends because you rather wanted to sit in front of your computer and daydream?

"It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."
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elitfromnorth wrote:
But that's what I'm saying; you shouldn't have to make compromises unless this is something you wanna bring into real life. Let everything in your real life come first then let lush come after that. If you invest a lot of time and effort into this and it all goes to shit then you might end up feeling more distraught than you'd think. Losing an online relationship that you both were aware of would remain online isn't something that should really bother you too much, but if you let this take a big part of your life then you could just end up developing real feelings for your "wife". This is all a fantasy world and fantasyworlds should remain that unless you're both commited to take it one step further. This is especially important if YOU makes her and this a high priority and she only uses it to kill time and it's not really a priority. Tread carefully since you don't know what's behind the next corner, especially online. But, it's your choice.


dude. marriage is compromise. and if you are willing to call it a "marriage" havent you already developed real feelings? this is why the concept if online marriage is weird....

but!!! if you make the commitment of marriage, again regardless of the framework in which you place said marriage, then you have to accept that she comes first. otherwise any jack ass can say "oh well maybe we are married but i wont compromise and my buddies come first"

i agree that you must be so careful. in fact, Beck...i vote NO for online marriage. wait till you are ready for the real thing. :)



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Posted: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:54:04 AM

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So, with an online marriage, would the bride and groom receive like virtual toasters, virtual sets of napkin rings, virtual Sybians, and such as wedding gifts? Does the bride's father pay for reception bandwidth? It's seems very complicated to me, not to mention that ever-present possibility of catching the bride/groom and brides maid/ best men in compromising positions in private chat rooms.
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elitfromnorth wrote:
But that's what I'm saying; you shouldn't have to make compromises unless this is something you wanna bring into real life. Let everything in your real life come first then let lush come after that. If you invest a lot of time and effort into this and it all goes to shit then you might end up feeling more distraught than you'd think. Losing an online relationship that you both were aware of would remain online isn't something that should really bother you too much, but if you let this take a big part of your life then you could just end up developing real feelings for your "wife". This is all a fantasy world and fantasyworlds should remain that unless you're both commited to take it one step further. This is especially important if YOU makes her and this a high priority and she only uses it to kill time and it's not really a priority. Tread carefully since you don't know what's behind the next corner, especially online. But, it's your choice.

And assbitch(hehe, couldn't help it :p); Why should you let an online commitment control your life? If I make a "date" to meet someone here on lush, why should I feel bad if I can't make it? I know for certain that I won't feel bad, because lush is something that I use to kill time. I'm not gonna ignore my IRL friends, simply because they will never be as important to me as friends here on lush. Yes, I would be a bit down if some of the many friends I've made here told me to fuck off and never talk to them again, but it would never come close to how sad I would be if I lost one of my IRL friends. As fun as lush is, it's online and it's fantasy, pretty much like daydreaming. Would you ignore your friends because you rather wanted to sit in front of your computer and daydream?


Aren't these arguments against "online-only relationships" in general (not just 'marriage')?
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LadyX wrote:


Aren't these arguments against "online-only relationships" in general (not just 'marriage')?


What kind of convoluted idea do you have of Marriage Xuani? Fuck no!

She should do everything I tell her to do, and never ask why I have lipstick on my collar or have been missing for the past three days and smell like sex. I want her to never get upset when we make plans and I decide not to show. I would also hate it if she texts me to let me know she is thinking of me and loves me. That would really irritate me!

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if its online why not try it and see were it goes.
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if its online why not try it and see were it goes.
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