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You will have to sit down with our partner and talk about your feelings, as you both already play abit with the Dom/sub scenario it probably won't come as a surprise to him. You will need to discuss any boundaries as there has to be the up most trust in a Dom/sub relationship. My wife(sub) and myself have enjoyed this in our relationship yes made mistakes to start but soon realized we had to talk about our expectations. Hope this helps.
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If you are new to BDSM then easy into the Dom/Sub roleplaying by just simply asking your partner to slowly take more control and have a safe word set up incause things go to far read the topic BDSM 101 there you can read more about the lifestyle.
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Good advice from all above. Let me add another thought. We are new to BDSM too. I (dom) didn't think too much about it until one day during regulare sex, she said something and I popped her lightly on the butt. She let me know she liked it and over time we have done more things. One thing she did to re-enforce that she is more than ok with it was to email a Lush story to me with things she woudl like included. I'm not a rocket scientist, but also not clueless.
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Well. When I first got into the lifestyle I was not sure about it. After a little explanation/instruction from my Mistress/Owner I found I liked it.
Like some of the others have mentioned take it slow and set boundries. I have yet to use a safe word with my Mistress. I find I like it a little too much sometimes when I am punished for bieng a naugty pup/sub. It takes a lot of respect/trust. It doesn't hurt that I am in love with my mistress either.