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So my wife has been suggesting that we use a strapon on me. The reason for this is because during sex she'll lick my ass and rub it with her fingers, no actual penetration due to um....ya gross. Anyway, I really enjoy the assplay and common sense would only say that a strapon would feel that much better. I'm torn on the topic so any insight, aside from "just do it" would help alot. Thanks
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If you are not ready, don't do it.. My guy lives ass play, but he said a strap on is off limits.. Which ultimately, I am fine with, because,I don't know how I feel about it either. We recently went to a shop and got some toys... Something to explore ass play without being a strap on... We haven't tried it yet, but it was a great way to communicate or limits to each other.
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My advice could be very complicated, but instead, I'll just say the following:

BE CAREFUL.

A strap-on is not a finger. It's larger, and less forgiving. It's also less forgiving than a penis, because it isn't attached to the person using it, so they don't feel what's going on as directly. It's fun, but it is hard to find a harness that will fit a tool of the right size- at least for starting out. Use a small dildo, butt-plug, or vibrator at first (I recommend a vibrator, they feel amazing, and over prolonged usage will provide a helpful numbing affect). Also, use lube. Don't be afraid of the lube.
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Don't be afraid of the lube.


the ass is not like the pussy where it lubes itself .... use LOTS of lube!!

and I agree with the above, use something smaller first .... fingers ... a thin vibrator ... with LOTS of lube!!

Enjoy!!
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So my wife has been suggesting that we use a strapon on me. The reason for this is because during sex she'll lick my ass and rub it with her fingers, no actual penetration due to um....ya gross. Anyway, I really enjoy the assplay and common sense would only say that a strapon would feel that much better. I'm torn on the topic so any insight, aside from "just do it" would help alot. Thanks


The reason for it is probably more complicated. The point of allowing the penetration is to enjoy it. Stimulation of the prostate is one thing that makes that possible, but it doesn't require a strapon. A strapon is more of a role play thing. You submit and she drives the bus, unless you go cowgirl on her.

I recommend some reading at this site.

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/06/convincing-her-to-try-it/

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/05/convincing-him-to-try-it/
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You absolutely MUST try it but like most of the posts advise, it would be wiser to gradually move towards the stap-on - fingers, butt plugs (they come in all sorts of sizes), anal beads, vibe then if you're ready for more, introduce the strap-on. Oh and please, please, please don't forget the lube - LOTS of lube especially in the beginning as you get used to it. Whatever you choose, relax and let the new and unique sensations take over. I promise you will have some of the most intense orgasms of your life! Keep us posted and good luck!
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As above: start small, with fingers - yours in the shower. If you like that, get some lube and get her to penetrate you with her fingers (no false nails). If you like that, gets some toys and lots of lube. Make her use the toys on you, so that she learns about your ass - give her lots of feedback, especially about how rough / deep etc. Only then let her near your ass with a strap-on - she needs to learn how to use it. It's not like the porn films - you could easily end-up in hospital with a lot of explaining to do.
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Just do it. You will be fine.

Have you ever used a small dildo in a woman's ass before? Well... same rules apply. Lube, go slow, and make sure you partner listens to your needs to set the correct pace.

General consensus seems to be that ass-play and anal is enjoyed by some people and not enjoyed by others. Gender has nothing to do with it. Pretty much you can use all the same advice given to women who are interested in trying anal for the first time. Everything pretty much works the same, except you have a prostate gland in there so p-spot stimulation should produce some intense orgasms.
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I have not had a strap on up me, however, my wife has inserted a nice small vibrator up my ass. When that things bumps up against the back of your scrotum...LOOK OUT! Damn! You will not last long at all until its 'orgasm city!!!!'
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It is definitely something you should try. It can be an amazing experience, maybe even more so for a man than a woman. And it's pretty damn good for a woman. But as others have said, start small and slow and lots of lube.
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thanks for taking the time out to help with my situation everybody, i feel like i could enjoy this, but its honestly more for her than for me. It feels like she would get more turned on having the power and the ability to pound me for once. Anybody have an idea of how much enemas are?
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thanks for taking the time out to help with my situation everybody, i feel like i could enjoy this, but its honestly more for her than for me. It feels like she would get more turned on having the power and the ability to pound me for once. Anybody have an idea of how much enemas are?


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Well, my wife put her vibrator in my ass last night. It's about six inches long and a couple inches around. It really wasn't that bad, i just relaxed and had her play with my butt for a minute and it went in fairly easy. Unfortanetly, she wasn't as turned on as i'd hoped she'd be, more like not at all. Afterwards i asked if she like it, she said it was "different", not gonna lie, I feel like I got robbed. Now knowing her feelings about last night, I feel like she won't really enjoy the strapon idea now. Even though she said she'd love to screw me with one, it seems like she didn't quite get what she wanted, even though yes, they are different things. I'm kinda unsure of what to do here.....
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I'm kinda unsure of what to do here.....


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Don't stop now...

Go all the way! Perhaps a little clown makeup & mood music would help pave the road...?


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