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Oral Stimulation Advice

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Hello forum members,

I have had some experience, although I do not consider myself an expert, far from it, thus my inquiry. I have watched videos and read tutorials (ie. Eat Pussy Like a Champ/Learn about the g-spot, a-spot, etc.) on how to properly please a woman through oral stimulation, but even after going through all the info, I don't think I got it quite down.

Here's my approach: I gently massage the pelvic region. Work the vaginal mound, the area attaching the legs and the pelvis. I kiss the area and the lips. I go slowly, realizing that rushing into it would be such a mood killer. I tease my way towards the vagina. Eventually, I would start gently by licking the clit and its hood. I would then form my mouth into a position as if I were sucking a cherry. With this position, I would suck the clitoris while trying to use my tongue to lick up and down or side to side. I would go at this for more than 5 minutes. My chin would be wet and the pussy area would be as well, but I'm not sure if my partner came or not. I'm too ashamed to ask, and maybe, they are not honest about it to prevent me from being embarrassed. I think the wetness comes about from my tongue action, so I don't think I made her come. Sometimes I would try to work my finger into the vaginal canal, while sucking on the clit, or sometimes to take a break from the clit action. I would start with one finger, making sure it is moist by licking it and inserting it downwards with the palm side facing the floor. I would use it to feel the insides and massage the walls. After a period of time, I would go with two fingers, but no more than that. I would then try to have both fingers pointed upward and give the "come to me" motion while pressing on the top floor, trying to rub against what I think is the g-spot. I don't think I have ever found it. (Side story: I had one partner that let me explore the inner walls of her vagina through fingering. I tried to search for the ever-elusive g-spot, but did not find it. My partner looked bored.)

I had a partner that had a milkish fluid that was almost drying up near the entrance of her vagina. I tasted it. Not sure what it was. I thought for her to come, it would have to be moist and dripping.

I had another partner, that after she rode me through various positions of cowgirl, I wanted to taste her. I stuck my tongue inside and tasted something sweet. Obviously, not as a result of any oral stimulation on my part.

I read somewhere that the clit itself is not the point of stimulation but a nerve located nearby at the hood region. Is this correct?

Does sticking one's tongue into a vaginal canal do much? By the way, I don't have much length, as far as the tongue goes.

I have seen several porno films from Japan where the male actor would have their fingers inserted into the female performer and they would be jamming it aggressively. The female performer would eventually become very wet and she wouldn't stop dripping or her juices would fly everywhere. The male actor would sample the juices and finger her some more, and the female performer would cum again and again. I'm trying to get my partner to come, but I am intimidated that I can't even get her to this point, even once.

I have even considered traveling to New York after hearing about an individual that specializes in teaching proper technique through "in vivo" (live/being present at the moment) training.

Would like some feedback on this.
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Have you ever just tried asking the woman for instruction, that's got to be better than slaving away tirelessly and not getting any positive feedback from her. Do that before you go off to watch a live show even thou you may find that inspirational to view but no wiser to being successful unless you get verbal direction1
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Seems like you're going to a hell of a lot of trouble there buddy. Trust me, if you are making them cum, you WOULD know about it. If she's not wriggling around like she's having a fit while you're doing it, you haven't found the right spot. Seriously though, maybe you're not going down on her for long enough. You are going to have to be brave and talk to her about it.
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Quote by trinket
Seems like you're going to a hell of a lot of trouble there buddy. Trust me, if you are making them cum, you WOULD know about it. If she's not wriggling around like she's having a fit while you're doing it, you haven't found the right spot. Seriously though, maybe you're not going down on her for long enough. You are going to have to be brave and talk to her about it.


Be brave my son, but a little advice. If you have to ask if she had an orgasm......... She didn't, just saying ;)
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Just as she is getting into it, tell her you have a coupon for a pair of free Jimmy Choos....that should do it.
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I appreciate the feedback. I'll try and request feedback from my partner as I engage in the act. Quick question, trinket wrote that I'm not spending enough time down there, with that said, I understand that each individual is different, but as a general rule of thumb, how much time should I invest there? 10 minutes?
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Oh you have to buy a stop watch that would be really appreciated. ''Just a minute dear just setting up your oral stimulation countdown now ok here we go.'' click/lick.
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Holy Jeebus, OP. Here's what you need to do: scout around and find yourself an older EXPERIENCED woman, let her seduce you, and TEACH you how to properly please a woman with fingers, lips, and tongue. Pay attention! Be enthusiastic, be passionate, be hungry for it and learn your skillz!
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You know what, just skip the oral, jerk her pussy good with your hand and fuck her properly.
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They don't call me betamale for nothing.
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Sweetaz sums it up to perfection!
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4 total pleasure and blissful ecstasy, 1 need 2 love his beloved from top 2 toe. Start from the forehead and work down 2 her toes, and then concentrate on her pussy zone. No harm in asking her what she like most.
Neel