I'm in a relationship, and very long story short, its got going to last much longer. Anyway i have collected quite a few sex toys, a swing and 4 point bet ties, what i want to ask is would it be a bad idea to keep the toys. all the toys i got for her are glass, i have spent a lot and grew this collection and im not sure what to do with them, she does not want to keep them. like i said, many toys and there all glass, so would glass toys be different then other toys?
Keep them if you want them. But when the next woman comes along, tell her that these toys have been used for an extended period of time on someone else. It'd be sleazy not to tell the women in your life that your toys are used. It at least gives them the option of acquiring their own.
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Oh oh oh......please send me them to the princess in Texas........
I will soooo use them
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TxPrincess
The last time I needed a woman's opinion was only last night when she told me to go get milk and a loaf of bread.
Keep that shit...or if you dont wanna you can always send them to me
Most glass toys can be cleaned in a dishwasher so that they will be free of any "remnants" from the previous user. So they will be perfectly safe and basically like they were unused. So if you want to keep them I don't see any problem with it.
However, if it was me I would want to know they toys were used on someone else. I normally would not use someone's toys unless I really knew the person well and there was mutual trust between us. That's just me so I'm not saying you are wrong if you keep them and use then with others.
I would be offended if my husband, when we met, said to me "I spent a lot of money on these for my ex. They've been in her vagina and anus, and we aren't together, so here, you can use them."
That says a few things:
1) You're not willing to let go of the past and move on.
2) You undervalue me - as it was ok to spend a large sum of money on her, but I'm not worth it.
3) You want to be reminded of your most intimate moments with her while you're with me.
4) You drew flaw conclusions about what I might be interested in with you and assumed I wanted that exact same play before getting to know my actual interests.
If you can't toss some sex toys because they were expensive and start a relationship fresh then you possibly have serious issues with the fact that its over.
You know how I handled my breakup wih my ex husband? I got rid of everything. A lot of people do this and will expect a new partner to do the same.
The only time I don't expect one to let to of past items is if they're significant - handcrafted or sentimental beyond sex (like an ex boyfriend of mine had a marionette puppet his ex made - I thought keeping it was fine as I wasn't expected to have it inserted into my pussy). Also - pets and co-purchased vehicles and so on.
Not something as intensely intimate as a dildo. No way.
This is one of those out-of-the-pan and into-the-fire type scenarios.
Sure and toys can be expensive, especially a collection of them. My opinion, if you two of you are splitting on mutual terms, by golly, let her pick a few of her favorites to take with her on the road. You DID buy them for HER, after all. Give her the option of keeping the ones she wants.
And, as previous women have said, full disclosure about Used Toys is imperative. I've never been put in a position to use something that another woman (that I've never met) has had inside her cooch. Color me bonkers (in light of all of the previous comments saying otherwise) but with glass, I don't think I'd be as "eww! no! get it away from me!" as if it were, say latex or silicone.
"Good writing is supposed to evoke sensation in the reader - not the fact that it is raining, but the feeling of being rained upon." -E.L. Doctorow
First off I have to say thank you all for your input, I was right in asking my fellow lushys for input. You all have given me good advice and several very good points and different views on the subject, thing I did not think of myself being a guy. Lol.
Please keep the input coming.
No maybe about it. I'd not want another's toys, makes my legs cross and lock just thinking about it
