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ok this happens a lot :/ so any advice on how to tell if you could ever be more than just friends?
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Serene was very thorough.
Since a lot of that relies on you interpreting things correctly - my advice is to not rely on your interpretations and rely on the straight forward.
Do you like her?
If the answer is yes, then ask her, "Do you like me?"
Start there. Have a conversation so you don't end up like the idiot who is interpreting his neighbors laundry for clues.
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She'll let you touch her boobies. There's really no mistaking such a gesture.
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I disagree with this. Often times in seduction, people will not have a definitive opinion about the other person and will want to let things flow a bit more naturally before going the straight forward route. This is the point of seduction, in my opinion. Although a girl might show signs of an initial interest, she might not be ready to be asked out on a date right away, as she might want to know you a bit better first.
This is how seduction works : I noticed you / I noticed you too, I appreciate you / I appreciate you too, I like you / I like you too, etc. What you want to do is figure out at which stage the relationship currently is and pursue subtle moves to make it to the next level. A guy who masters this and acts it out with a comfortable pace will be perceived as intelligent, experienced, attentive and respectful, which will make him even more desirable along that chain of events.
This is also a way to obtain feedback for your initial interpretations ; if a colleague seems to appreciate you, you ask her out for lunch and she answers positively with a smile, you can determine that she indeed appreciates you.
If a girl is still at the stage of "I noticed you" or "I appreciate you" and you straightforwardly ask her "Do you like me?", she might feel quite uncomfortable and not know how to answer ; maybe she saw the possibility of a potential love partner, but isn't so sure about her definitive feelings at the moment. I also believe most girls enjoy the romance provoked by the uncertainty of seduction, and a guy who's too straight forward and litteral might be perceived as a romantic turn-off. Girls like a bit of a challenge too ; a guy that can be a bit patient/distant and not too pushy will be perceived as a valuable prospect rather than a random needy pretender.
Of course you don't want to play a mystery game eternally either, and will need to make the relation evolve at appropriate times :
If a girl 'noticed' you, start a conversation with her to make her 'appreciate' you ;
if she 'appreciates' you, ask her if she would like to go out for lunch/coffee to make her 'like' you ;
if she 'likes' you, ask her out on a more serious date to make her 'love' you ;
if she 'loves' you, remove her goddamn panties to make her 'fuck' you.
This is of course a general guideline for a romantic long-term relationship. With a fuck buddy, you might only need her to appreciate you before she let's you remove her panties. Also, this whole process can sometimes take quite a while (a few weeks/months), while other times it can happen in the span of only a few hours (meeting a girl through mutual friends, conversing with her and exchanging numbers for a semi-serious date).
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Okay. Well maybe that's all good and well if she's indecisive or shy.
I preferred upfront and direct as that's how I like my men and my life. I never played games or went through some lengthy BS. Odds are - I was the one to bring up something first rather than letting everything stew in the ether.
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Maybe this should be in the 'Ask The Guys' section as some guys think they know more this than the Girls do
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Maybe this should be in the 'Ask The Guys' section as some guys think they know more this than the Girls do
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*She wants to communicate with you a lot: Texting, Calling, Emails, Messages etc.
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Thing is, asking a girl out reveals just as much as asking directly 'Do you like me?', but the situation would be much less awkward in the case of rejection. Maybe in your case both you and your partner showed obvious hints of mutual attraction, and the chances of rejection were very low. But in my experience, everything is not always black or white with girls, especially when they're looking for a serious long-term relationship.
And I don't think seduction is necessarily lengthy BS ; at least I don't pursue it that way. I would never let a girl believe that I like her if I don't, just to tease her or boost my ego. If I like her I make it clear that I do, but also don't build false hopes letting her believe she's the one-and-only. The fact that I like her at the moment doesn't necessarly mean it will lead to profound eternal love ; to expose this is just being honest and is made exactly to avoid any BS. In return, the girl has the same rights to express some form of restraint toward me. This process takes as long as it needs before we can both express our definitive mutual 'love'.
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*She wants to communicate with you a lot: Texting, Calling, Emails, Messages etc
*She gives you compliments ranging from something small to something major. "You have a great laugh" or "Wow I can't believe you did ________ the other day, that was amazing/fantastic etc"
*She will start to dress up more. I don't know if anyone does this but when I started to hang out with my lover I started to wear nicer clothes, do my hair in a different style, change my deodorant etc. Subtle changes to see if he was noticed.
*Flirts with you, looking into your eyes and saying something witty or make reference to personal jokes.
*Finds reasons to touch you.
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ok this happens a lot :/ so any advice on how to tell if you could ever be more than just friends?
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I was just about to say... She'll grab your dick. But this is true too.
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Not that I want to sound pretentious or anything, but I do believe I have more experience at observing visual cues than a lot of girls here. Girls can surely give a better insight about how they feel internally, but they might not be completely aware about how they actually appear externally.
It's not like I'm 'stealing' anyone's place with my posts anyway ; girls are free to answer the original question or comment on what I said, but so far only a few were interested to do so.
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All of your answers make you sound pretentious . That's just my opinion I've gotten from your written text. I'm more straight forward, I'll tell you when you have diahrea of the mouth.
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=d> Sometimes the obvious needs to be stated.
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There you are, strolling around the supermarket doing your weekly shop when you spot a rather delicious looking blonde reaching for a jar of coffee.
"Allow me," you say in your most suave and sophisticated voice as you hand her one from the shelf.
Before you even have the opportunity to strike up a conversation and find out what her name is, her hand is on your junk!
I want to go shopping with you