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How did you find your dom or sub?

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SubmissiveKitten
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I am most definatley a sub. It all started when I was younger. I was always attracted and interested in the thought of simply 'being bound' to someone. Always being lower than someone. Yet, I couldn't figure out why. In my early teens I'd find myself feeling all giddy and having this warm feeling in my chest whenever I saw a movie or read about a girl in shackles or chained, waiting to take orders from someone much higher than her.

It all started to make sense when I explored my sexual desires. Simple things like being spanked, taking orders, love & respect, devotion; pain & pleasure all made sense to me. And I became more knowledgeable about why all these things made me feel this way.

Being submissive doesn't define me; but it certainly is an important part of who I am.
Ordinary life does not interest me. I seek only the high moments. I am in accord with the surrealists, searching for the marvelous.
Peter242
Advanced Wordsmith
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I was with a dom who left the country and introduced me to the most fabulous dom imaginable - fun to be with whilst being ever so strict when she has to be
PKS6
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I found my Dom right here on Lush ^_^, he was interested in my writing, and sent me a PM, we moved on from there and I am so happy we were able to meet, all by chance.
Unknown User
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INTERNET.

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I was someone who ADAMANTLY did not want or believe in internet relationships, LD-dating, or even looking for that. I wasn't looking.

I was on another semi-social site that was about various popular things, (NON-sexual), and we actually met through comments in a place related to our favourite anime. He said hello on wall posts to me and proceeded to come by every day to see how I was and say hi. smile

We became interet buddies and then friends and then best friends. We instantly had a connection. Sometimes that happens with people, but our connection was much much stronger. I do not recommend being BFF or inlove fast, but we were best friends very quickly, even if I do not know how it happened, and six months later ~ once out of very hot/cold relationships with other people, we went for coffee.

All I know is that he had feelings for me. At first a crush, then deep feelings, but I did not reciprocate. I thought he was too young. He almost bowed out and I almost never spoke to him again. If he would have dropped off that site like he wanted, he was crushed, I would have never had what we have now! After we saw each other go through things and things within our other relationships we realised our friendship and what we had was wayyy too precious to let slip away and we made a vow.

A few months later... we were out of our bad relationships and together... happy.

I came to just accept it for what it is. I accept him for who he is and that seems to work well. I think we have found something very special.
emiilyy
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I found mine on IMVU! Which is like a virtual life game
SirDominic
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What's that? Never heard of that
Someone has to be the Villain
Guest
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I am a Dom and I found my sub Stac right here on Lush...
Masterspet69XXX
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I found my Dom at college thanks to a friend who gave me the nickname of pet ;)
Beffer
Rainbow Warrior
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When I was a domme, subs found me. They still do, but I don't have the time or the patience anymore.
Guest
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Subs find Me.I was a personal trainer and Life Coach before the pandemic.Word gets around
Guest
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I'm a Domme and my subs find me on here as well as in Real Life
InThisMoment
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In a box of Cornflakes
JVsslave
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After making me wait for about an year, she finally talked to me and the magic happened I love her very very much.
sprite
Her Royal Spriteness
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my wife introduced us.

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

calx86
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Honestly we started off as a fairly vanilla relationship. Didn't dabble into BDSM until a few months ago. It's always been a fetish for me but my first time being a dom. As far as where I met her, she was a fellow bridesmaid at my brother's wedding.
Temptme
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I was fortunate enough to find my submissive on tumblr while not looking. I met someone through mutual blogging and from her writing saw that she was extremely smart, independent, articulate with an edgy side. After some initial small talk we found a great deal in common. We began meeting online for coffee and as we got to know each other, she had many submissive tendencies.

Long story short we were in a LDR for 4 years. It ended as she was ill and broke off all relationships. She was an amazing person and I miss her every day.
Unknown User
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I was introduced to BDSM by an ex and have always been interested in it. My relationship in my husband was vanilla in the beginning and I introduced him to the world of BDSM. It was fun discovering his interests and tastes. Exploring it together and growing closer in our relationship. He didnt start as my Master but I am so so so happy our relationship developed to include BDSM.
Guest
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Subs always know where to find their Queen
kistinspencil
Voyeur @ f/64
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Old copy of the yellow pages found at a thrift store. There was lots of underlining.
wicked_jocelyn
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My long term partner and I met in college, but we didn't get into a relationship until years later. We reconnected through friend networks a few years after graduation. We found out we were both kinky when I ran into him at an intro to rope class.

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Subs find me
ChumbaPoxwally
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I have had a couple of girlfriends who were passively passive. They held back, I feel like they wanted to be told what to do, but they would not take orders. Honestly, if you are going to be submissive, then SUBMIT! Work out the limits before hand, outside the bedroom, but when it is time to play, and I say, “Suck my dick. Now rub my wet dick all over your face and tell me you love me,” I expect obedience, not an argument!

jimtxmiller
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I currently am without the service of a sub, and yes, I am totally open to finding one here. I found my most recent sub on Pornhub. The one before her I came across in an old IRC chat room. Before her I was introduced to a closet sub by a mutual friend, and my first sub was my son's 5th-grade teacher. Met her at parent-teacher conference.
baldkate
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She was waiting for me. She had learned that I'm jogging and where I was jogging. I passed where she was sitting on a bench. She called me, I stopped and we talked. Later she invited me to come to her house. There we make love. I asked if she would like to be my Mistress. She thought it over and she decided to be my Mistress. There has been spanking and fucking since.

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I met him in Jr High School, we were both 15. I had a HUGE crush on him. We got back in touch in 2006, saw his name on Classmates and messaged him. We started talking, I found out he liked me too back then. We started out as friends but became more than friends fairly quickly.