Although I'm no master pick up artist just yet, I think that at least in theory, I know certain things that attracts women, and certain qualities you need to possess or adopt, and also how to implement seduction towards a woman you're attracted to.
That aside, me and my stepbrother were talking (he fancies himself as a ladies man as it is...) about qualities in that attract women. As he is 40 now, but he believes he has a certain quality that helps him attract women, sometimes even much younger than himself. He mentioned a concept that had actually never occured to me at all in my life. What I want to know, is whether this concept sounds accurate or way off the mark, and here it is.
Women are attracted to men who remind them of their own fathers (either sub-consciously or otherwise), or possess the same qualities that their own fathers possess?
What do you ladies think of this statement? Given that my own dad isn't really one for chasing skirt, and admitted that he's only actually been with 3 women, pahaps thats why I never thought of this before?
Then again, maybe this statement is false?
Women are attracted to men for all sorts of reasons but I can honestly say that I've never thought, 'Oooh, that guy's just like Dad, let me at him!'
As a general rule, I don't think they do.
I most certainly do not find my father attractive, not at all. However, he is a good and decent man and has many characteristics I admire. So while I might not actually think "wow he's like my dad," I might think "wow he's smart, kind, and works hard" all attractive qualities to me.
For the most part if women have good and healthy relationships with their fathers, then yes, whether they're aware of it not, on a subconscious level they do look for men who have the same, admirable traits in their fathers.
I don't think in a literal sense we want men just like our fathers. But if our fathers are men we admire and look up to, and if they're good men, we use that same blueprint when it comes to the men in our lives. After all, our fathers are our first protectors (or at least they should be) and this is what we generally look for in a secure relationship. Things we enjoy with our fathers or our parents in general become a huge part of what we enjoy and it shapes our hobbies. Therefore, finding this common ground in the men in our lives will make them that much more attractive.
For example, my father is a smart, protective, hard-working, good-natured and good-humored man. He can cook, and he's very outdoorsy (camping, hiking, rock climbing, that sort of thing). I'm attracted to smart, protective, hard-working, good-natured and good-humored men. And it's a bonus if he can cook and is outdoorsy.
But on the other side of the same coin, some women who didn't have good relationships with their fathers may in fact date men like their fathers to get that acceptance that they never got from their fathers. It's interesting, to say the least.
Either way, it's mostly subconscious...and most women don't even realize they're doing it.
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I do not like my father
he abused me and my mother
to say that to me is just wrong
we may date PEOPLE like them
but attracted....no
but alas am sorry I am biased..on this
I think a lot of women end up with men like their dads and son's end up with women like their mother's. Not all, but enough that my friends and I have noticed. I do NOT think it was deliberate. I adored my father and felt he was a protector; ended up marrying a man that is very much that way. But, one thing about my father was he let our mother dominate him; my sister married a handsome and wonderful man that she dominates. So I do think there is some validity to the theory. But how your stepbrother could think that he could attract girls by acting like their father's? How does he know their father's?
Men of a certain age will have some kind of appeal to younger women but it's not usually because she wants a replacement dad.
Girls grow up attracted to boys older than themselves, it comes with reaching maturity earlier. Things we associate with this stage of our sexual development often carry through to later life, in one form or another - instead it goes from 21 year olds with their own cars to 40 year olds with their own house. Women who are attracted to older men will usually tell you that older men are more confident and are more comfortable with themselves. That's not necessarily true but older men do tend to have higher status and are usually better off - attractive qualities to a lot of women
Your friend should be careful though - a girl half his age may treat him a little too much like her actual dad: expect him to pay for anything she wants, not be entirely honest as to who she hangs out with or maybe just patronise him.
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However not to say that it's not all false I do admire a man who is active with siblings and work and who is a good man. My stepfather may not be the best for me but he makes my mom happy and if so than I'd be lucky to be with someone who makes me as happy as he makes my mom
Honestly I think it's different based on the person. I'm a girl with daddy issues. My real dad wasn't around and tries to be now and I'm not ok with that. I'm my step father verbal and emotional scapegoat . I know when he's stressed out because everything I do requires a lecture and a crying session.
However not to say that it's not all false I do admire a man who is active with siblings and work and who is a good man. My stepfather may not be the best for me but he makes my mom happy and if so than I'd be lucky to be with someone who makes me as happy as he makes my mom
