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balthazar400
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I am not sure if this has been posted before. I searched a little and found nothing so here we go. I want to try anal both giving and recieving with gf. I do not know how to go about doing this and was wondering if anybody had any advice. Thanks!
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I am not sure if this has been posted before. I searched a little and found nothing so here we go. I want to try anal both giving and recieving with gf. I do not know how to go about doing this and was wondering if anybody had any advice. Thanks!


Start by putting your penis in her bum hole, then when she's had enough, let her put her fake penis in your bum hole....

Don't both try to do it at the same time, it will be chaos...

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I know she was talking about Dude.....

“If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, I would be happy to do it for you."
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It was all because her BF got a call from this guy.




“If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, I would be happy to do it for you."
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I do not know how to go about doing this and was wondering if anybody had any advice.

Your subject has all the advice you need. Talk to her about it.
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Lots of good quality, like Astroglide, lube and go slow, be gentle.
Milik_the_Red
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I assume from that post that you possess an adventurous and open mind. For you to be successful, I hope she does as well. If she does though then talking to her about it is the first step. I have often broached this and subjects in the after glow of sex when we were both peaceful and sexually satisfied. To me, this removed the immediacy of my desire and letting her know I'm not pressing for an answer. It's also a time when she's in an aroused mood and feeling our connection most strongly.

Start by asking general questions of what she likes and what she doesn't. Hopefully you have already done this so it shouldn't seem all that unusual. Let her know how much she turns you on and how beautiful you think her bottom is. Try to let her know that you desire this because of your passion for her, rather than because you'd always wanted to bugger a girl and you thought she might let you.

Lastly, LISTEN TO HER RESPONSE! Not just what she says but how she says it. If she is violently against it, don't try to talk her into it. Even if she does then say yes, she will never relax enough to enjoy it when it happens.

It's a difficult subject to bring up and far worse if she isn't inclined to be sexually adventurous to begin with.
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Talking from experience and the advice I've given friends, if it's her first time receiving anal then let her go on top. Most people I know who have shared their experiences with me, good or bad, have all said they began on all fours. This baffles me! When you're on all fours your muscles are tensed and therefore it will cause pain no matter how much lubrication you use, and since they can't control the movements it'll end with a very sore, and very unhappy girlfriend.

Hopefully you've both already discussed this, so bringing it up won't be an issue. My advice would be; relaxation, lubrication and position. Being worried will make her tense therefore it will hurt, just be reassuring and tell her if it hurts you'll stop and apply more lubrication or go slower. Lubrication is also a massive part of it, without it it'll be painful on both parts (I recommend Vaseline.) And finally position, with her on top she can gauge how much enters her and she can go at her own pace.

This advice all applies to you too, so no special treatment for one and not the other. Be patient, be gentle and be safe.


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I agree with all that was said about lube, talking, gentleness, etc. The one thing I see differently is position and it maybe because i seem to excrete large quantities of lube fluid. My first time was on my back, legs up after a good pussy fucking and several orgasms. My juice was running out and down to my ass, he eased it carefully and was kept fully lubed by my natural juice that kept flowing. It was actually enjoyable from the first effort but like I said it may just be me and my physical body reactions.

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Lubrication is also a massive part of it, without it it'll be painful on both parts (I recommend Vaseline.)

When using condoms another lubricant should be used though.


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If you do a search on the internet for anal sex instructions, you will get lots of information. Look for the ones that are done by doctors or sex specialists, rather than porn industry first.
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For her, I always found it helpful to talk about it during foreplay, especially when the woman was inexperienced. When brought up outside the bedroom, it was always "no". However, during foreplay, my lovers were open to talk about it which usually allowed for experimentation with fingers or small toys. If she enjoyed the anal play, I would introduce the actual act of "anal sex" either at a later time or proceed as requested. The woman having an open mind and your willingness to gain her trust is paramount. Physically, you must use plenty of lube like Astroglide and take it slow. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and rush into anal sex, but take a deep breath and slow down. Patience is key and she'll tell you if she likes it and wants more of it!

For you, what applies to her above should apply to you as well. In fact, I had a lover refuse until she played with me first. Of course, I gladly accepted and she ultimately enjoyed both giving and receiving.

I commend you for researching the topic and asking before moving forward. Good to you!!!
It's All Good! :-)
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I assume from that post that you possess an adventurous and open mind. For you to be successful, I hope she does as well. If she does though then talking to her about it is the first step. I have often broached this and subjects in the after glow of sex when we were both peaceful and sexually satisfied. To me, this removed the immediacy of my desire and letting her know I'm not pressing for an answer. It's also a time when she's in an aroused mood and feeling our connection most strongly.

Start by asking general questions of what she likes and what she doesn't. Hopefully you have already done this so it shouldn't seem all that unusual. Let her know how much she turns you on and how beautiful you think her bottom is. Try to let her know that you desire this because of your passion for her, rather than because you'd always wanted to bugger a girl and you thought she might let you.

Lastly, LISTEN TO HER RESPONSE! Not just what she says but how she says it. If she is violently against it, don't try to talk her into it. Even if she does then say yes, she will never relax enough to enjoy it when it happens.

It's a difficult subject to bring up and far worse if she isn't inclined to be sexually adventurous to begin with.

This is how it went for me.
We were on our way back to university, she was driving.
"Have you ever had anal sex?" she asked.
To say that I was stunned would be an undestatement. What does she know, I thought.
"Why do you ask?"
"Oh, I was reading about it in Cosmopolitan and thought I'd like to try it. So, have you?"
"Yes!" I replied.
She never asked anything more about it, thank goodness. We did it, it didn't hurt her at all, even though she was so tight. Plenty of preparation, I mean PLENTY. Afterwards she said it was okay but not as good as normal sex.
It was the only time that I did it with a female. It's different, there's no prostate to aim for. So I just had to concentrate on the depth, smoothness and speed of the strokes.
Milik_the_Red
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This is how it went for me.
We were on our way back to university, she was driving.
"Have you ever had anal sex?" she asked.
To say that I was stunned would be an undestatement. What does she know, I thought.
"Why do you ask?"
"Oh, I was reading about it in Cosmopolitan and thought I'd like to try it. So, have you?"
"Yes!" I replied.
She never asked anything more about it, thank goodness. We did it, it didn't hurt her at all, even though she was so tight. Plenty of preparation, I mean PLENTY. Afterwards she said it was okay but not as good as normal sex.
It was the only time that I did it with a female. It's different, there's no prostate to aim for. So I just had to concentrate on the depth, smoothness and speed of the strokes.


You make an interesting point. I have wondered, do men 'get more' out of receiving anal than women do? I'm not sure anyone actually knows. I do know that I REALY enjoy it when the angle is right and that orgasms induced while I am receiving are just cataclysmic. This could well be because of stimulation of the prostate gland. Still, I've know at least one woman who REALY got off on anal, so I can't say it's just the gland that makes it feel incredible.
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When using condoms another lubricant should be used though.


Condoms should always be used.
noll
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Condoms should always be used.

Maybe not in a long term monogamous relation. Hopefully people make wise decisions about this.


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Thinking back, when hubby did anal on me..I wanted to be on all 4's. He used some good lube on his cock and in my ass, just spread me open and went in slowly...it was painful at first and I expected that. My suggestion is if you go that route, lube and condoms
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Got to start slow. Talk with her first. Let her know exactly what you intend. Make a plan about how you want to proceed, let her in on the plan, every detail, with her input all the way. Of course, this is all moot if she says no from the top. Start with licking it. She needs to be clean, unless you have a taste bud for shit. Get her used to the feel of it. And be PATIENT!! It may take a few licks deep in the canyon to make the next move. Again, no surprises for her. Let her know you want to slip a well lubed finger in. And do it at sloth/turtle speed. If this goes well, after a week or so of fingering her, move on to a butt plug, small. Get her used to that, slower than a turtle going in. Get her used to keeping it in a while. Put it in and let her wear it while you have vaginal sex. May want to move to a medium size plug before going in with Mr. Pete. Also, use anal lube, not KY. KY will be enough for the finger, but when moving on to bigger things, use anal lube only. KY breaks down. Pussy get wet naturally. Assholes don't. The KY will break down and dissolve and pussy keeps you wet. Go dry in her ass and you'll never get in it again! First time we actually did the big dirty fuck, she was drunk, on purpose. Same rules apply for your ass. If she's willing, start slow and move up. We've both worn butt plugs while fucking. It's incredibly fun, but the fun starts only a very dim glow at the end of a long tunnel.