True Love. Have you ever had it. Not just ordinary love but that I would die for you love. I thought once I had it but I was just fooling myself. Truth is other than my children ( Paternal instinct )I have never really felt that kind of love for anyone.I realize this now. I feel like I have missed out on something special, almost like failing at life, So the Question is: Have You ever found true love or like me only experienced lust and/or infatuation?
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I thought I had found it too. Same as you though, I was just fooling myself.
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I wonder why lush buries some posts like this while they leave others up forever.vxphz7CRaEiE144Z
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This one is still up. You didn't get many replies to your original post, so the post moved down the list as people replied to other posts. Those posts rose to the top position. Just as this one will when I click the post button.
And yes, I have found true love.
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] and a schoolgirl to boot.. which involves infatuation no end [had my share of crushes ] ... so I actually know the difference.. 
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OK so explain this. Writing A whole novel has not had A post since Dec.15 It's still on the main page.I had A post day before yesterday & was archived today.The only reason it's back up now is because I posted on it today.It will probably be archived again tomorrow.And writing A whole novel will probably still be on the main page.Next question how can people comment on it if they never see it ?
This is only 1 example there are others read the main page dates.CRhVdXzMoWwF8yN2
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ok i'm just 20.. so when I say I have.. people laugh.. seems I have to age considerably to be allowed the privilege ..... and yes I have experienced lust [I was a teenager until a few months ago
seems older people.. who, I suspect, have never experienced it [not a dig at u sweet NightMan] .. decry younger people who claim they have found it.. like patting a child on the head with perfect condescension.. .
yes, Love comes in many degrees.. True Love remains while all the rest fade and die.. and no matter what happens.. good or bad or downright terrible.. it just lasts.. it never goes.. it makes distance irrelevant .. circumstance inconsequential .. trust absolute.... it can be absolute joy and absolute misery all in a heartbeat ... but no matter how deep the pain.. the Love remains...
yes.. I have found it..
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This one is still up. You didn't get many replies to your original post, so the post moved down the list as people replied to other posts. Those posts rose to the top position. Just as this one will when I click the post button.
And yes, I have found true love.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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Yes, I have. And after 20 some years, she died. I often pose the old question to myself: is it better to have loved and lost, or to never have loved at all? and my answer is obvious to me: to have loved and lost…
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great - now that Eagles tune is stuck in my head because of the title of this thread.
there were two relationships where I've experienced *varying degrees* of what I *think* is true, almost unconditional love, but I'm sure the next woman in my life will once again re-define that word for me.
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I think that your "idea" of what true love is changes as you get older. I can honestly say that I was truly in love in my early 20's. It was the kind of love that made your heart ache. I would have willingly sacrificed anything for him. Was that type of love a good thing for me? No. I still love that person. We can talk to each other on a level that we can't talk to other people because we "know" each other in the deepest sense. I don't have to explain why I do things, because he knew me when and knows how it has shaped how I evolved. We have a child together.
Of course, after you have children love takes on a totally new shape. Just the thought of the love I have for my children can bring me to tears. They taught me how to love, just not to fall into it. I'd fight to the death for them and everything I have is theirs.
I've been married for 1 year, second marriage for both. Both of us swore off marriage a long time ago, disillusioned and hurt. We were friends with benefits for quite a while and fought hard to just keep it that way. But, we were being monogamous and wanting to be together more than apart. We lived 2 hours away. Is it love? Yes. Mature. Truly supportive. Healthy. Sexilicious. Respectful. We are good together and independently. That's love. Money isn't a problem--Gawd that helps.
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I don't think age has much to do with it. I have been divorced 10 years & it has given me A lot of time to reflect on my life. During that time I have met others too but nothing.Honest examination of myself has convinced me that I'M just not capable.True love requires giving up of one's self to become Us instead of Me. And I just can't seem to give up the me.I spent A life time trying to put others before myself.( Wife & children) Tried as hard as I could but could never manage to give up the me totally.It took many years but I think she figured that out eventually herself.And that was the beginning of the end. Unfortunately it took me A lot longer to admit the truth to myself.Perhaps "To thy own self be true" Wasn't such A bad concept after all.
, you know yourself. And, if that satisfies you, you are fine--I suppose even happy. Of course, that would possibly be why you started this thread? Are you happy.
LMAO!
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You may be being too hard on yourself. I'd like to think that if someone was pointing a gun over in our direction you would at least scream get down before you try to save yourself. That means that you do have some form of natural affection. Therefore, able to love.
If how you feel about yourself is an absolute, I would guess that in your case age would not play a role in your ability to truly love someone. In love there is a certain amount of give and take. You seem to agree with this. I've always been the type of person willing to extend myself on the behalf of love from an early age. I have always desired what it offered in return. I basked in it, both from my lovers and from my children. Even when it only lasts for a short while, I wish that type of happiness for other people. Without it, I think they have missed out on one of the truly beautiful things that makes living worth the effort. And, life takes effort. Someone that loves you does not request that you abandon yourself for them. That isn't what love means. But, you can't be so obssessed with maintaining your seperate identity that you can't let someone close or even bother to extend your inner self to them. (Hmmm, I feel that may be grounded in insecurity verses inner security. My opinion though, so it's not worth much.) Nope, then you will never experience love and I feel sorry for the people that may try to love someone like that. Specifically, I feel sorry for children that find themselves parented by someone more interested in "saving themselves" than extending everything that they are to their offspring. That is the sadest type of love to do without. I'm not trying to be mean or judgemental. You may have had something in your life that made being selfish in that area of your life necessary, rather for sanity or just survival. Those types of situations do exist and they are sad as well. You can't judge someone until you have had to survive that way. I'm blessed, I have not.
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Be true to who you are.
I told one of my students one time: There is nothing wrong with being a dog [in relationships] as long as you let the other person know that's what you are. Then whatever happens you can say, "I told you I was a dog. What were you expecting?" You might want to consider that as you move forward. It would have saved your wife a lot of time, and you too. Sometimes that's what a woman wants at that stage in her life--a dog. Then those two people are perfect for one another. I'm not saying your a dog. No, that's just an example.
I think too much. It's just a stupid thread.
