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Talk to your love one about lush and why your on the site.

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Should you to talk to your partner about the lush site and what your wanting from the site. What are other thoughts or comments that are out there.
Head Nurse
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Quite a few of us are very open with the people in our lives about being here. Don't assume everyone is hiding their activities.

Also don't assume all are here for chat or other sexual reasons. some of us are here to write and post our work.
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I am not assuming anything on here, just helping people out on here that has not let the cat out of the bag with the other person that does not know anything about the site. I know this might make some people uneasy on here just have to ask the question for the people who made the site what do they want this site to be best known for 1) a source of reading and educational for people who wants to expand their minds and to create stories or 2) a site who help breaks up people over not being more open about what this site is about.

I do know there are people on here that just read or write the stories, some like to do the first and chat, then there are people who is missing something at home who is seeking or wanting some type of fantasy (this is where it can lead problems in the real life).
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Quote by saint72
Should you to talk to talk to your partner about the lush site and what your wanting from the site. What are other thoughts or comments that are out there.

A lot of this has been covered in another thread "Is being on Lush cheating?"
I've always thought that being open leads to less hassle in the long run.
As far as the site is concerned:
If you want stories then you'll struggle to find better.
If you want forums then these are a mix of fun and serious but they are active, more than can be said for some other sites.
If you want chat, I believe the rooms are fun.
If you want cyber sex them I would think that there are much better sites.
Taken as a whole, you'll be lucky to find a better mix of members who get a lot of enjoyment here.
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A lot of this has been covered in another thread "Is being on Lush cheating?"
I've always thought that being open leads to less hassle in the long run.
As far as the site is concerned:
If you want stories then you'll struggle to find better.
If you want forums then these are a mix of fun and serious but they are active, more than can be said for some other sites.
If you want chat, I believe the rooms are fun.
If you want cyber sex them I would think that there are much better sites.
Taken as a whole, you'll be lucky to find a better mix of members who get a lot of enjoyment here.


I agree that being more open would bring less hassle in ones life. I also agree that the stories on this site can bring one a great for mind porn. I think there are a lot of good authors on here if given a chance could make another 50 shades of gray book out there. Just I do see how this site could bring trouble in life and can go too far if people would let it. Also I did read the is lush cheating thread. That's kind reason I posted this thread to ask in a different way to get people to think a little more about why are you really here on the site. Not to cause problems or anything like that.
Thanks for the great post response.
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I agree that being more open would bring less hassle in ones life. I also agree that the stories on this site can bring one a great for mind porn. I think there are a lot of good authors on here if given a chance could make another 50 shades of gray book out there. Just I do see how this site could bring trouble in life and can go too far if people would let it. Also I did read the is lush cheating thread. That's kind reason I posted this thread to ask in a different way to get people to think a little more about why are you really here on the site. Not to cause problems or anything like that.
Thanks for the great post response.

Just a personal view but I think that the biggest reason a long term relationship breaks down is a lack of honest communication. If a relationship has developed then it's essential.
If you were already on here tell them and say why and what you do here, that way you'll avoid being accused of hiding something if you get caught.
If you weren't, then tell them why you want to join and find out if they have any objection, they might want to be part of it as well.
However I'm not here to judge others, we don't live their lives and we don.t know their circumstances.
Some people get a lot of support from friends on Lush, as I think you are aware, and I'm pretty sure that there are a fair few relationships which have been saved because of Lush.
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Just a personal view but I think that the biggest reason a long term relationship breaks down is a lack of honest communication. If a relationship has developed then it's essential.
If you were already on here tell them and say why and what you do here, that way you'll avoid being accused of hiding something if you get caught.
If you weren't, then tell them why you want to join and find out if they have any objection, they might want to be part of it as well.
However I'm not here to judge others, we don't live their lives and we don.t know their circumstances.
Some people get a lot of support from friends on Lush, as I think you are aware, and I'm pretty sure that there are a fair few relationships which have been saved because of Lush.


I am so you wrote this and yes I do agree with you on this. I like how this chat is going. Due to I have not seen this type of thinking on this subject. I do want to encourage others that they need to be open and honest with the people they are with and not to hide either.
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Ha Ha = actions speak louder than words. We both use Lush for the pleasure it provides us.
It can be the precursor to some wonderful times together - two girls together can be REALLY great.
The boys don't get as much from Lush talking about it. Action is their game.
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haven't got a partner ... does it count if the more important members of yr family know u r on lush?
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haven't got a partner ... does it count if the more important members of yr family know u r on lush?


Yes my wife and are both on lush. I found out about it the wrong way. We are happier now.
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Quote by Meggsy
Ha Ha = actions speak louder than words. We both use Lush for the pleasure it provides us.
It can be the precursor to some wonderful times together - two girls together can be REALLY great.
The boys don't get as much from Lush talking about it. Action is their game.


Yes being on here has open my mind (and away from watching porn) to reading porn for the mind. I do believe that us guys are getting into the mind porn more and more these days anyway.
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I just joined the site and it was my husband's idea .. So yes he knows.. It is actually very stimulating and he is definitely going to enjoy this..smile
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I just joined the site and it was my husband's idea .. So yes he knows.. It is actually very stimulating and he is definitely going to enjoy this..smile


I hope you both gets too enjoy the site better than I did when I first join.
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Quote by Meggsy

The boys don't get as much from Lush talking about it. Action is their game.

Don't believe that! The guys get plenty out of Lush, there are plenty on here.
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I hope you both gets too enjoy the site better than I did when I first join.

I don't know why you didn't enjoy it. Surely if there are parts that you don't like you just avoid them.
As you and your wife or partner didn't join knowing about the other, it seems that this caused a problem. All I can say if a person joined and found out that their partner was a member, why complain? After all the second person has done the same thing! It would be different if the other wasn't a member and discovered it.
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I don't know why you didn't enjoy it. Surely if there are parts that you don't like you just avoid them.
As you and your wife or partner didn't join knowing about the other, it seems that this caused a problem. All I can say if a person joined and found out that their partner was a member, why complain? After all the second person has done the same thing! It would be different if the other wasn't a member and discovered it.


Let's just say I invited myself to the party with out being told or asked to come along.
Mazztastic
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Things usually work out for the best...

Perhaps now you will be able to concentrate on the relationship, without external and imagined influences...

Best of luck to you both