i have had 4 guys perform oral on me and i just CANT come!!!! dont get me wrong, it feels good. and each of these guys has a different technique. one guy even sucked me for more than 5 hours!!! not even kidding, he loved eating pussy but....he was good but i just cant come. and....i have had AWESOME sex but, its like a guy cant make me orgasm, only I can make myself orgasm
i have even told the guys what i like and my man gives it to me right but its like the big O is escaping from my sexual alphabet. know what im saying?
any suggestions?
Your men just don't know how to eat a pussy. It is a skill that takes experience ad skill. I offer lessons if anyone is interested
Maybe try an older man with some experience under his belt (pardon the pun). They know more about what it takes to please a woman.
Its not them, its you ... You are putting up a mental block
My ex was like that. Nothing I did made any dif. Only thing that worked was an old Vib for the back. Years after we split she meet a guy who got her a little drunk and she finally after a dozen guys got her wish.
As DB said - it's a block she had. Maybe you have one, too.
Good luck
Batman
Point in fact. My sweetie of 23 yrs gets off 6 to 10 times in an hour. Found out it wasn't me. But my Ex helped me learn. Age of the person does make a world of differance.
Sassy Red-haired Beach Kat/Dune Goddess
Sometimes you train your body to respond only to the way you touch it. I have a cousin who has a gorgeous girlfriend and he is very turned on by her. However, he spent 3 years without a girlfriend and got very used to his own touch. It takes him a long time to cum and it bothers him. His girlfriend, on the other hand, is loving it! Their solution is to play together until she can't handle anymore, and then he strokes himself till he cums either on her or in her mouth. Sometimes he can time it right and enter her right before he cums so she can have that experience as well. It took time and patience to solver their problem, but it works for them.
You could always work on yourself while he is doing his job. I have not heard of many men who do not like watching a woman pleasure herself. And while you are doing that, he can clean your fingers for you. It can be very erotic.
I agree with “loislane” --- if you’re going into it thinking “I have to cum” then it’s never going to happen.
You have to relax, and let loose. May be drink a beer or any alcoholic beverage of your choice; this helps to release your inhibitions. While it’s true a lot of women need to have a deeper connection with their partner in order to reach orgasm, this may not be the case for you. It’s probably that you’ve been through this before and you know you didn’t cum last time and you’re thinking that you’re not going to cum again. So, relax --- foreplay is not only oral, there are other sensitive parts all over your beautiful body..!
Try using the Altoids trick. Or maybe have him alternate between intercourse and oral sex.
