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So, does reality ever live up to the scenarios u guys see in porn? I mean, if even a small percentage of the stuff that happened in the porn movies actually happened in real life, it would be one hell of a kinky world out there. So, how much do think "life imitates art" as they say?
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Porn, in my opinion, gives viewers inspiration for things to try in the bedroom. Different positions, role-play scenarios, types of sexy outfits, and dirty things to say can all be gained from even just an occasional viewing. Sure, much of what is out there is made purely for the spectacle or for voyeuristic enjoyment (meaning the viewer only likes it as a fantasy to witness, never intending to do those things themselves) but I'm sure there are plenty of men and woman that are trying new moves because of things they've seen in porn.

But does reality ever live up to the scenarios seen on the screen? Yes and no. It's never as 'dirty' or 'perfect' as it appears in porn but those things are easily covered up by the fact that one is a participant instead of merely a viewer. For example, in some BDSM videos the scene involves the submissive meeting an authority for the first time. Within a few minutes, the authority starts to give sexual instructions, such as undressing or posing in certain ways, to which the submissive obeys. Now, while this could happen it probably won't. In reality, this could only occur realistically between previously acquainted individuals. Should this detract from the sex that is taking place? Absolutely not. Just because the scenarios from porn are unlikely to come about in real life (e.g. the friend's hot mom, the sexy babysitter, etc) doesn't mean that the sex that follows can't be recreated to a couple's satisfaction.

However, the 'stories' seen in porn were likely inspired by actual events. I'm sure that at some point a guy showed up to deliver a pizza, the woman had no money, and paid him in sex. In this way I would say that "art imitates life" which, I'll admit, has probably gone on to inspire the occasional lonely lady to put on something revealing and try to convince the delivery guy to accept something other than cash as payment. But like I said, just because it's probably an extremely rare occurrence, or usually only happens within premeditated role-plays, shouldn't take away from any sex that follows.

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So, does reality ever live up to the scenarios u guys see in porn? I mean, if even a small percentage of the stuff that happened in the porn movies actually happened in real life, it would be one hell of a kinky world out there. So, how much do think "life imitates art" as they say?


I haven't fulfilled any of the images I've seen in porn. I came close, one night, when my partner asked me if I was ready for his cum. For a second I was tempted to back my mouth off his cock and take it in my face, but decided I'd rather swallow his cum. I don't like to waste cum.

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So, does reality ever live up to the scenarios u guys see in porn?

Although I understand you're discussing scenarios, my immediate thought when reading the quote above was that for me this is the wrong way round. Reality is far more exciting and unpredictable than the mainly stale scenarios one sees in mainstream porn. I completely agree with the poster above who said that real life situations must be the inspiration.
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Quote by hopp3r
Porn, in my opinion, gives viewers inspiration for things to try in the bedroom. Different positions, role-play scenarios, types of sexy outfits, and dirty things to say can all be gained from even just an occasional viewing. Sure, much of what is out there is made purely for the spectacle or for voyeuristic enjoyment (meaning the viewer only likes it as a fantasy to witness, never intending to do those things themselves) but I'm sure there are plenty of men and woman that are trying new moves because of things they've seen in porn.

But does reality ever live up to the scenarios seen on the screen? Yes and no. It's never as 'dirty' or 'perfect' as it appears in porn but those things are easily covered up by the fact that one is a participant instead of merely a viewer. For example, in some BDSM videos the scene involves the submissive meeting an authority for the first time. Within a few minutes, the authority starts to give sexual instructions, such as undressing or posing in certain ways, to which the submissive obeys. Now, while this could happen it probably won't. In reality, this could only occur realistically between previously acquainted individuals. Should this detract from the sex that is taking place? Absolutely not. Just because the scenarios from porn are unlikely to come about in real life (e.g. the friend's hot mom, the sexy babysitter, etc) doesn't mean that the sex that follows can't be recreated to a couple's satisfaction.

However, the 'stories' seen in porn were likely inspired by actual events. I'm sure that at some point a guy showed up to deliver a pizza, the woman had no money, and paid him in sex. In this way I would say that "art imitates life" which, I'll admit, has probably gone on to inspire the occasional lonely lady to put on something revealing and try to convince the delivery guy to accept something other than cash as payment. But like I said, just because it's probably an extremely rare occurrence, or usually only happens within premeditated role-plays, shouldn't take away from any sex that follows.


I loved that response, very well put.

Personally, I'd say that the scenarios are the main thing that I find exaggerated in porn (as hopp3r described so eloquently). But aside from that, I actually find my sexual life a whole lot more dirty, creative and diversified than what's shown in those typical 1-on-1 scenes, which often all look very similar to one another.
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The hook-up scenarios on porn are mostly ridiculous and totally unrealistic. A lot of the sex positions too, but still, give them a try. Turn on your camera or get in front of the mirror and give some of those insane positions a go. Its fun to try. You may actually enjoy some or decide they are just too hard to do and silly, but hell when you and your partner are both horny as heel and experimenting that's all good.
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So, does reality ever live up to the scenarios u guys see in porn? I mean, if even a small percentage of the stuff that happened in the porn movies actually happened in real life, it would be one hell of a kinky world out there. So, how much do think "life imitates art" as they say?


Reality does live up to (and surpass) what you see in pornos a lot of the time. Not the way a hookup happens so much but the sex does. I will also say that it is life imitating art. You get two people that have watched a lot of porn and are really into each other together and you're going to have two people having some pretty wild sex. Filming it too.
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So, does reality ever live up to the scenarios u guys see in porn? I mean, if even a small percentage of the stuff that happened in the porn movies actually happened in real life, it would be one hell of a kinky world out there. So, how much do think "life imitates art" as they say?



Porn really is imitating life, but it is through a very narrow lens. When once considers that porn is business trying to profit from sex, it quickly becomes apparent that they will present only what people are willing to pay for. But people do not want to pay to see what they already have at home. People want to see something that is a step beyond what their own partner will agree to.

But as porn video pushes the boundary of what people are willing to do in their own bedroom, the bedroom becomes a imitation of the art. New things are explored, and perhaps partners will pretend to themselves that they really do love the new freedom they have found, but loose focus of why they first wanted to share their bed, and why they choose their partner. Emotion is replaced with sex, and loss of sharing is the result.

Porn videos do not show love, sharing or respect, and that is sad. Although it can be useful to loosen the ropes that society places on us, it should never lead us away from the emotional bond that is found in any happy couple.
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The hook-up scenarios on porn are mostly ridiculous and totally unrealistic. A lot of the sex positions too, but still, give them a try. Turn on your camera or get in front of the mirror and give some of those insane positions a go. Its fun to try. You may actually enjoy some or decide they are just too hard to do and silly, but hell when you and your partner are both horny as heel and experimenting that's all good.


I've always wondered why people say that about positions in porn scenes. Most of them are rather simple and feasible to me, except of course for that dreaded piledriver position that you can occasionally witness in some scenes:





Aside from that, the actors usually always perform a similar routine, which really isn't that hard to replicate for me: doggy-style, cowgirl, spooning, and then they might add a few of these other common positions which I'm never quite sure of the proper name:


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The hook-up scenarios on porn are mostly ridiculous and totally unrealistic. A lot of the sex positions too, but still, give them a try. Turn on your camera or get in front of the mirror and give some of those insane positions a go. Its fun to try. You may actually enjoy some or decide they are just too hard to do and silly, but hell when you and your partner are both horny as heel and experimenting that's all good.

Some of the positions, although they look ridiculous, can really promote some great sex.
For example, for the longest time I could never manage to line up everything in a comfortable way for shower sex. Tried this, tried that, nothing worked. Eventually I saw a clip where two performers were having sex while standing in the middle of the room and adapted it. Now it's become my go-to in more ways than one.

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To my mind, this another of those "all things are relative" questions. The variables being, what sort of porn are you watching AND what experiences are you having or have you had in life thus far. ALL of the "hook up" scenarios in porn DO have some basis in reality, they simply don't happen often. (So just because someone can say , "Well. I've done that hundreds of times and never..." doesn't ,make the statement untrue but neither does it mean that it NEVER happens either.) AND, as not everyone IS a porn ACTOR not all opportunities are taken advantage of for a whole wide range of reasons. As to the matter of "positions" while some of the ones frequently used in porn aren't the ones most people "commonly use", "MOST PEOPLE" aren't having to make sure that two or three cameramen CAN get "the shot" that the director wants either.

Personally, I've had a few "uncommon" situations arise that resulted in opportunities. Some of them I took full advantage of and have written stories about. Others I failed (or refused) to take advantage of and have written stories about the "what if I had" of them as well.
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Porn is nothing but an act, bought and paid for. It is a money scam only made with inferior 'actors'. Don't be misled into thinking that its similar to reality. Porn is edited and cut like any other craft. As in 'life' you get what you ask for. My suggestion, is to read a good book and now watch the comics of porn.
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We used to rent porn and put it on and have sex while it was playing, trying to do with the actors in each scene. The one able to see the tv was responsible for watching for position changes.