Gents, does it annoy you when women continually say "I've been hurt"
to avoid relating to you in some way. Everybody gets hurt. That is human life, and some men get gutted just like women do, and just move on. I am not being cold here, life can be cold on both genders.
While I DO well understand what you're saying, they too are individuals AND whether we ATTRACT or tend to seek out "wounded doves" some of us have become involved with MORE than our fair share. Still, what you have to remember is that however many times you might have "heard it before" each one is telling YOU for THE FIRST TIME. The OTHER big problem is that we have no way of KNOWING whether she has TRULY learned from her past or is one of those who is "stuck in the loop" and looking for her NEXT abuser. Sadly MOST fall into that last category. ( A line from the old Moe Bandy song I LOVE "Hank Williams You Wrote My Life" ... "The cold, cold heart and a doubtful mind, I have known a few myself...") Finding that RARE one who HAS learned from it and IS REALLY seeking "someone to treat her right" is a blessing that is not only rare but can be extremely beautiful and rewarding. Trust me on THAT I know whereof I speak. But, as I've said they are RARE, so ...GOOD LUCK!
"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
Depends, like when does it come up, and how. Is it how you advertise yourself, or is it something that comes up during a conversation?
What I do find annoying sometimes is when people start their profiles (here or on other social media) with asserting that the one reading it is some kind of jerk.
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
I always thought life is too short for a whiny girlfriend, especially when there are always plenty of up beat chicks that want to go for the gusto. You know the kind that make a great partner and take over your motorcycle when you marry them. So I had to buy a second motorcycle.
I've been hurt too. Brutally! But I never throw that up as an excuse or a warning. It's a defense mechanism both women and men use to avoid getting too deeply into a relationship where they might get hurt again. When you hear that, don't press your luck, and you best lower your expectations, or make up your mind to either walk on eggshells or be a perfect human being in every way!
Unfortunately. The name of the game in the social media is to hurt the one's you lie to. I'm sure Sprite is not alone and I bare my sympathies. Beware the dental floss smiles...nine times out of ten, covering decay.
Understood, only too well I'm afraid. That's why anymore whenever I DO run into a woman who IS "caught in that loop" I recommend one book for her to read and then REREAD. "Men Who Hate Women And The Women Who Love Them." It was written by a psychologist who went through it herself. It's helped a few that I personally know of...the ones who DID READ and then REREAD it.
Not at all. If you can't be there for a friend who is hurting, don't expect them to be there for you when you are. Granted some women (and men) do seem to attract pain and suffering and I have seen the "chronically abused" myself more than once. But we have all been through the ups and downs and you just have to be patient. After all, it doesn't cost anything to listen.
I know the feeling I have been hurting since March 24th 2012 when I lost my Daughter
Perhaps try to understand that when you meet someone they may be dealing with a bad breakup, and they may not be ready to jump into another relationship. You may be ready, but they are not. If you keep hearing, "I've been hurt, I am going through a really tough situation, I am not ready", you need to take that as a very clear sign and accept that you are not on the same page. If you want to be a friend and lend support, then do it without the expectation that eventually it will lead to a romantic relationship. Forcing a relationship will lead to disaster when you are not really ready or over someone else, trust me on that. If your friendship blossoms into a beautiful romance down the road, then be grateful and be happy.