Hi everyone! First, I would like to say thank you for the many genuine, thoughtful welcomes. This appears to be a fun site to be at.
Now....coming from a newbie... not just to the site, but to internet "adult chat", I would like to tell you guys just how overwhelming and intimidating it is to go into the chat room as a new female member. Every single male in the room it seems wants to have a private chat, or whisper, which is understandable. But I would suggest, if you want to see new women in the chat room, to allow for a little breathing space. There are a couple guys that have been very polite and helpful, and I am telling you now, they have a better chance of being a chat buddy and friend than others.
I am not speaking for every woman here, I am sure, but I bet more get scared off than stay.
Be nice right if they just chatted with you for a few minutes before heading to the whisper lol
Great advice Emma!
Hey. Welcome to the site. Not all guys here are mindless horn dogs. Just sayin.
I don't do chat but the stories and forum are engaging and fun.
I suggest checking out the stories and having fun in the Forum. I don't do chat, so I don't know much about that.
I used to go in the chat rooms, this is when I was here last year, and it was fun but a bit overwhelming. I've only been in there a couple of times since coming back, but everyone comes at you at the same time. I prefer to post on the forums now, way more fun for me.
Welcome to the site.. It can be over whelming in the chat rooms at first... but it gets easier to ignore. I have gotten better at it...I have been here a little over 30 days... so the chat rooms have became a little easier...The biggest problem I can see here is the Jealousy... A lot of it from certain woman here...But it is a good place to have fun..Wish you the best ..enjoy Lush...
Yeah, I don't get the appeal of the chat rooms. Too much of a clustefuck. Forums are waaayyyy better.
Welcome, Emma! One thing to think about is using the "block whispers in chat rooms" (not sure this is the exact name) setting in your Settings page. I don't personally use it, if/when I go into chat and receive an inappropriate whisper, a very polite, very public (as in, herateleia says to idiotxx) "Please don't whisper me, IdiotXX" generally does the trick.
However, I have several friends who do use the "block whispers in chat rooms" feature...you can allow someone to whisper you after they've asked your permission publicly, or you can allow only friends to whisper you, so there's flexibility. And as Simply John said, the chat moderators exist for a reason--if someone persistently whispers you inappropriate content (especially pictures/GIFs), and you do not want to block them (which is something I do do, without hesitation), you can whisper the moderator and/or click on the member's name and then click on "Report Member".
I find it easier to do the public call-out, then place a hard block on the member, but if you can't/don't know how/don't want to do these things, whisper the moderator with a summary or copy and paste of the member's whisper(s) to you.
The only time I do an instant "Report Member" instead of the public call-out, and then the block, is if someone whispers me something regarding underage participants, or whispers me a pic or GIF with what appears to be underage participants. Then I do the "Report Member" thing instantly, followed by a public call-out (herateleia says to paedophileXX "Please do not whisper me with descriptions of your fantasies regarding children"), a whisper to the moderator (if one is present--if not, I click on the moderator icon on the bottom of the page, pick a chat moderator online, and send a message with a copy and pasted verbatim of what was whispered to me), and finally a truly hard block--meaning I block them in the chat room, and then exit the chat room, go to my settings page, and block the member from my settings page as well, just to be sure.
I know this all sounds terribly complicated but it's really not...any one of the chat moderators, including the skunk, can walk you through this step-by-step.
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Hi Emma and welcome to Lush!
I've been a member for almost four years (tomorrow is my Lush-iversary) and I ventured into the chat rooms when I first joined, got completely overwhelmed and then left almost immediately. I headed back in there last week and found in to be much the same but the way I dealt with it has changed. I'd advise you go in your settings and tweak them to how you want them to be or inf you don't, just be quite firm with people, tell them no and if they don't accept it then block them! Nobody should make you feel uncomfortable.
Hope you settle in and enjoy it here, it really is a great place x
