I'm am just curious to know what other guys or couples do. After sex with my wife and I have cum, I need to recover. I guess some guys are able to continue right away after cumming and some guys cannot. Well I'm one of the guys who cannot. After cumming, I kind of lose the moment and need something to try and get me in the mood again. All the sexual excitement is gone and I need to get it back. Any suggestions?
I have talked to my wife and she's suggested some sexual toys, watching some porn.
Please let me know what has worked for you, maybe something that works for you will work for us.
I have met a lot of guys and some can reload in a few minutes others take as long as 20.
Don't worry about it - particularly if she didn't cum. That makes matters worse.
The best way I have found is to take them in my mouth and it doesn't take long for them to get enough 'bone' to get it back in. Once it is there it behaves like normal.
I assume your wife is not adverse to oral. Going down on her may work for you too.
Good luck.
I enjoy the recover time. Time to be intimate and begin the process over, the second time we both last longer and enjoy more physical activity
It usually takes me a while to recover but a gentle blowjob has never failed to speed that process.
If I'm getting with a new girl for the first time, I can typically cum and simply keep going without any downtime. It's that excitement that causes it, and it might be more difficult with a long-term partner unless you can come up with creative ways to spice up the act.
Reminds me of a Richard Pryor quote: I like makin' love myself, and I can make love for about three minutes. I do about three minutes of serious fuckin', then I need eight hours sleep! And a bowl of Wheaties!
If a man popped and stopped, I tried not to take it personally - so long as he didn't take it personally if I carried on without him.
I have had men that are 'one and done' and there's no recovery at all. I have also had men who need hours to recover and some needed mere moments. No matter the length of time, I enjoy cuddling, making a snack, or talking about what we just did/enjoyed the most. Distractions can help us return to baseline quicker and get ready for round 2, or 3....
When I was young I could just keep pumping away and cum again in 5-10 minutes. Cumming a third time generally required a little rest and some help from my partner.
Somewhat later I had a GF who was unusual, biologically. She had no breasts or pubic hair,
no periods and no ovaries. But she had an amazing cunt! She could squeeze my cock with it just like milking a cow! Our personal best was me cumming 6 times in 3 hours, and I never pulled out.
The modern record I attained with a hot redhead older woman. 4 times in two hours, with a lot of oral and prostate massage.
The last two were unusual though!
I usually just smoke a bowl and by the time that is done, I've recovered and she's enjoy a post-sex buzz before more sex.
Everybody is different. Myself I can get it back up very quickly, but I don't think I am normal. If I ever do have trouble getting it back up, I just think of one of my biggest fantasy and imagine it happening. Sprung! Just close your eyes next time and try it next time..
OK, hubby and I are late 50's. At one time he was good for at least two, sometimes three with very little reload time. Over time it takes men longer. One thing I found, at lest if we are not tired from long days at work, is to start giving him oral. He may be soft then but it usually does not take too long. Now another thing, but many men won't do it is to let me scoot up and have him lick me clean after he cums. I understand many men will not do it, but you may, in the heat of passion, suggest it.
It takes me all night now to do what I use to do all night.
Usually, the older a guy is, the longer it takes him to recover. Teenagers can get it up over and over in a very short time, which is one reason I do so many of them, but older guys can often speed up the process if 2 women are involved. They usually have more incentive to get it up again for the 2nd partner. But of course, that's not going to benefit your wife any. But I've noticed my 39 yr. old boyfriend can get it up again quicker when my girlfriend is in bed with us.
generally i need about 5 to 10 minutes. unless i am really turned on then i need less.
I have never been real fast for recovery except for a few occasions when the sex was hot and the attraction was magnetic.
My first time with my wife we did it 4 times in one night, I had waited to bed her and wanted it special and turned out as I had hoped.
Youth being age 20 or so was about 1-2 hours, now it is more like a day or two, it all depends on how long in between and mood.
I never have left a lover unsatisfied, oral is my best forte and my wife as well as past partners have all have mentioned my above average skill level.
Old in chronological age. But young at heart and desire.
Age certainly is a factor for men. In our twenties, my husband would sometimes be able to continue fucking without losing his erection, even after cumming. I would say hundreds of times he could have a full orgasm twice without losing his erection. Once he even went for three! Later it would take longer, and he had to go through that refractory time, but often it could be just a few minutes. Today we are in our late 50's and it takes a good 30 minutes - IF - we are going for a second round. To be more honest these days, it often takes several days before he is ready again.
One thing that developed in our relationship once it started to take him longer to recover or if I did not orgasm by the time he did was for me to slide up his chest and let him bring me off with his tongue. Yep, he still does enjoy his creampie.
I find kissing and some gentle ball play help me along.
Recovery time is pretty fast for me as I never fully lose an erection after the first orgasm. I think I have slowed down some what as I have gotten older, but having a younger, insatiable wife certainly helps.
It appears to be age related. Most of the younger men I have been with recover within a few minutes and they are ready to go again. Older men usually take longer to recover, but they often take longer to get off as well, which is nice, so it kind of balances out.
Young or old though, the best way I have found to get them hard again, is to suck their cock.
I've always been able to get it back. I like to rest 10 - 20 minutes. Especially if I was just on top. May doze off for 4 or 5 minutes. I'll piss and chug a beer. Then her lips go down and she will tickle my balls and never more than a minute or two, she will mount on top of me. Then my balls go into overtime and it take them awhile longer to deliver and we will change positions several times and really have fun with it. After the second blow off, I'm out. She wants more, she can try, if it gets and stiffness, she has to ride it her self. Doesn't go too far on thirds. Wait 'til morning! If she needs it now, she'll get one of her vibes on it. When a woman has multiple orgasms, she doesn't always stop when you do!
For me, it really depends on who I am having sex with. I get a great deal of pleasure giving pleasure to others so I usually get turned back on quick. But I am usually busy doing them.
Bit off topic,but has anyone tried viagra?
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... Ok make that 5 a 2 and that 1 and 2 a 10 and a 20.
