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My partner has not french-kissed me in years. I do not have bad breath! I have asked him about this directly several times and his excuse is that he has trouble breathing while kissing. I'm not expecting a long slobbery session without a break but a little tongue would be nice.

Kissing turns me on and I feel like I am missing out. Any ideas? I don't want to harangue him. My guess is that he may have a germ-phobia thing going on or some sensory issue with it.
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That's truly unfortunate to want something in bed that your partner doesn't care for or won't do. I haven't kissed many partners, but the ones I have, I've kissed often and thoroughly enjoyed it.

If it's really due to the reason he's given, perhaps you can add kissing to the routine for a few seconds, and build up his stamina by incrementally lengthening the time. Kiss briefly during foreplay or repositioning, then break. During the kiss, express your pleasure with soft moans as feedback so he knows that you're enjoying it.

Good luck
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I had to stop and think about the actual act of kissing when I saw this question. Your partner may very well have a problem breathing through his nose. It may be as simple as that. Try to determine if that is the case, and perhaps he could have a doctor examine him and tell him if there is a simple solution that would allow him to breath easily through the nose. That would let him give you the pleasure you need, and give him some great enjoyment as well.
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I doubt I would have the lung capacity for a french kiss as I used to enjoy many years ago. Perhaps he does get short of breath and that, which he isnt saying, makes him anxious so he avoids it.
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Actually, my husband is much the same. He will happily go down on me, so I know it's not about bodily fluids or "germs". I do bathe regularly and brush my teeth at least twice a day. ;)

I think some people genuinely don't enjoy french kissing. Who knows why. You'd have to ask your guy what his specific reason for not doing it is. I'm sure there is one. Maybe he's embarrassed to tell you.

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what does he have against the French, that's what i want to know. obviously, he's a racialist.

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what does he have against the French, that's what i want to know. obviously, he's a racialist.

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

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I spent a few days kissing a really pretty French girl once. I highly recommend kissing French girls.
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I spent a few days kissing a really pretty French girl once. I highly recommend kissing French girls.


some of you might not know this, but i'm half french (the bottom half, actually).

You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.

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some of you might not know this, but i'm half french (the bottom half, actually).


and here I like kissing either half. French style!
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That would make me crazy. I love french kissing, especially while having sex. Its incredibly intimate to share a hot wet kiss while fucking. I would really have a hard time not getting that.
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Yes, love the french kissing... it is great to explore the other's mouth and tongue....
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some of you might not know this, but i'm half french (the bottom half, actually).


Love French wine and cheese .. can your 'bottom half' supply me with any please?

Merci buckets madamosel.
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French kissing is good but Australian kissing - something else

(joke works best on an English audience for whom Australia is 'down under')

(Not sure America has an equivalent - if so insert the county's name in place of Australia and chortle away)
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Is it possible he has a cold sore and can't tell you, because he doesn't want to give it to you?

Cold sore-oral herpes.

I'm just curious. That may be why.
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Do you know that IN FRANCE they just call it 'kissing'?

xx SF
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Do you know that IN FRANCE they just call it 'kissing'?

xx SF


"The term 'French kiss' - once also called a 'Florentine kiss' - is popularly considered to have been brought back to the English-speaking world by soldiers returning from Europe after World War I. At the time, the French had a reputation for more adventurous sexual practices. In France, it is referred to as un baiser amoureux ("a lover's kiss"), or un baiser avec la langue ("a kiss with the tongue")."

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"The term 'French kiss' - once also called a 'Florentine kiss' - is popularly considered to have been brought back to the English-speaking world by soldiers returning from Europe after World War I. At the time, the French had a reputation for more adventurous sexual practices. In France, it is referred to as un baiser amoureux ("a lover's kiss"), or un baiser avec la langue ("a kiss with the tongue")."



NOW you TELL ME THIS??? AFTER YOU'RE ENGAGED???

xx SF

(Little shit!)
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That would be a deal breaker for me. I love long deep kisses nearly as much as sex.

I would suspect intimacy issues - I've been there. Back in the day I was kissing an ex-girlfriend (don't ask) and felt really uncomfortable with it, because I didn't want the intimacy, I just wanted the sex (that really makes me sound like an asshole, doesn't it?) (I guess I was, at the time anyway).
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That would be a deal breaker for me. I love long deep kisses nearly as much as sex.

I would suspect intimacy issues - I've been there. Back in the day I was kissing an ex-girlfriend (don't ask) and felt really uncomfortable with it, because I didn't want the intimacy, I just wanted the sex (that really makes me sound like an asshole, doesn't it?) (I guess I was, at the time anyway).


I LOVE deep kissing her when I'm IN HER... (It's like you could MELT into her...)

xx SF
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My partner has not french-kissed me in years. I do not have bad breath! I have asked him about this directly several times and his excuse is that he has trouble breathing while kissing. I'm not expecting a long slobbery session without a break but a little tongue would be nice.

Kissing turns me on and I feel like I am missing out. Any ideas? I don't want to harangue him. My guess is that he may have a germ-phobia thing going on or some sensory issue with it.


I agree....you are missing out, and you shouldn't. Tell him what you want and tell him that girls generally like kissing a lot and that it more often than not leads to much better sex, at least for the girl, but you don't have to wallow in full disclosure. I'd kiss you....I simply love kissing!
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French kissing is a MUST.... period!!
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what does he have against the French, that's what i want to know. obviously, he's a racialist.


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Its very unfortunate to hear that. I feel french kissing to be a very important part of sex and would have no compromise on that.
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I have been with a guy that had exactly the same thing. Just got worse when he said he didnt want to go down on me anymore. So nip that in the bud as soon as possible. I guess be tentative with your tongue so you dont overwhelm him with his issues.
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My partner has not french-kissed me in years. I do not have bad breath! I have asked him about this directly several times and his excuse is that he has trouble breathing while kissing. I'm not expecting a long slobbery session without a break but a little tongue would be nice.

Kissing turns me on and I feel like I am missing out. Any ideas? I don't want to harangue him. My guess is that he may have a germ-phobia thing going on or some sensory issue with it.


This contradicts our foreign policy regarding France and everything it is associated with. It can cause diplomatic tension in our otherwise tension free relations. The matter needs a mention in President's State of the Union address.
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That would be a deal breaker for me. I love long deep kisses nearly as much as sex.

I would suspect intimacy issues - I've been there. Back in the day I was kissing an ex-girlfriend (don't ask) and felt really uncomfortable with it, because I didn't want the intimacy, I just wanted the sex (that really makes me sound like an asshole, doesn't it?) (I guess I was, at the time anyway).


agreed on all accounts (except for you being an asshole). i feel that kissing is an extremely intimate act and couldn't see not kissing in a relationship. also, in my last relationship, we stopped kissing way before we stopped having sex. so i understand you there as well.

Say. Her. Name.


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OMG Mr Jaune is the same, I don't have bad breath but we do quick pecks. It has been going on for years though the other night he did French kiss me and I loved it but we are back to quick kisses rather disappointing.
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Haha okay as much as you're curious about the "french kiss" , it doesnt always top your expectations ...in some cases. Lol

I remember a friend of mine was quite sad after having her long awaited and anticipated first french kiss, she was like - It feels like I've been slimed by a dog or a frog - ahaha although that was just her bad luck and it isnt like that.
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And yes on a probability note... he may have Mysophobia (germ phobia) haha :P
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Perhaps it is a medical issue that needs to be addressed, perhaps he just doesn't like it. Ask him if he could try it maybe once a week for short interludes. Visiting a doctor may also help. Good luck.

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agreed on all accounts (except for you being an asshole). i feel that kissing is an extremely intimate act and couldn't see not kissing in a relationship. also, in my last relationship, we stopped kissing way before we stopped having sex. so i understand you there as well.



Not french kissing me is a deal breaker. If I'm more than a passing casual relationship, then you need to do it. It is the most intimate of intimacies and honestly, I've left every romantic relationship I've had after I'd stop wanting to kiss him/her in that manner.