I have a young friend who is punished when she cums without permission. How can she learn to control her bodies demand?. I have no idea. Never tried and never will.
Control? Fuck that. She needs to tell whoever is punishing her to go fuck themselves. The best way to treat a woman who has an orgasm, is to give her two more. Women do not have a maximum number of orgasms. There is no reason to limit or restrict them in any way.
I can only speak from a guy's perspective - I try to think about non- sexual things. But it never works. And I agree with what was said above - I sure don't see the point in expecting/ demanding that a woman not her an orgasm. Good lord, isn't that the goal?
I'm not sure about punishment, that seems a bit harsh (then again, it depends what the 'punishment' is....might be something they both enjoy), but orgasm denial (in a very short term way) can create a bigger orgasm.
It's just like 'edging' when you are wanking. My girlfriend loved being told not to cum, and the 'putting off' (however it bloody is that she did it, I can't help you there) for even a few minutes caused her an even better orgasm. So...don't knock it before you try it. That is all
I'm going to assume that this is playful punishment rather than abusive. Otherwise, ignore everything I'm saying and go straight to the comments above that say find someone else.
Her boyfriend should be helping her. In fact, if it's a BDSM thing, it can be a training. If he edges, she can figure out how to hold off on her own for short periods. Like TheAngryishLover said, it can cause a mind-blowing orgasm.
My trick is thinking about work, personally.
Kids Thank you for your wise comments about orgasms. But I do not think she would be asking for help if it was just agreed upon fun and training. I would guess that it is what you and I would call punishment.
Since she is young and Submissive it may not be that easy for her to pack her things and leave.
Is there a Submissive out there that learned to hold off her Orgasm until their Domme give her permission to cum? I have read of this but never have known anyone like this or in a similar environment.
As a submissive, she actually holds the power...she agrees upon what can and cannot be done to her. There are limits and safe words and any kind of punishment should be agreed upon and limits set. Since she is younger, and if she is new to this lifestyle, she may not fully grasp the power she does have. This should be explained to her that she has options. AND he seems like a real dick to punish her for something that he has not work on with her to help her gain her control over her orgasms. Lots of people want to call themselves Masters or Doms but THEY ARE NOT!!!! She needs to be careful who she decides to submit to, it takes real trust and commitment.
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