I understand about pain and restraints. But often Humiliation is part of the deal.
I just do not get it as all.
Some of you Dommes explain it to me. Maybe better some of you submissives,slaves may have a different point of view.
Such a fine line, humiliation. My wife has no ability in that particular area, but occasionally an erotic chat will go that direction. If a gentleman is articulate and seductive to start and slowly leads me into some name calling I feel like I've submitted completely to their pleasure.
If a guy tries to go straight to a whisper using humiliating verbiage I'm out!
I do not care for any level of actual humiliation ( I don't look down my nose at people who want that, it's just not appealing to me) but I think name calling - as a form of teasing or stimulation can be extremely exciting.
BDSM, slave/master, etc. are so incompatible with my life philosophy that you'd have to shoot me before I got involved in giving /receiving pain or humiliation. I am serious. One of my ancestors owned 43 human beings. Learning the details was the most traumatic experience of my life. Also, I am 1/8th Cherokee and my one Cherokee ancestor was the only member of her family not forced on the Trail of Tears. Every single family member died on the way to Oklahoma. Any mention of restraints or whips makes me want to puke.
It's so interesting that at the start of this thread no one is pro humiliation. Everything about BDSM is incomprehensible to me. Sex should be about love, even with a complete stranger, or a quicky. It will be interesting to check back here in the future to see where this goes, and if pro or con dominates, to coin a word.