As a relative newcomer to Lush, I am still trying to figure things out. It appears as if many people keep their status as "Away - Unavailable to chat", even if they are in fact online. If you always show your status as "away", how would a friend know you were online to begin a conversation?
That seems very confusing to me....you make friends here to have someone to chat with, yet they seem to always be away, even when you can see them posting in the forums, etc.
Thanks
Newbie Becky
Hi Becky many of us make ourselves offline either to read undisturbed but writers often will to when writing. Welcome to Lush were a friendly site really honest!
As I've said before, although no longer new to the site, I'm still confused by many things. Just a few minutes ago when I logged on I got a notice that someone wanted to chat with me. I had no idea how to respond. I would have said yes. When the request disappeared I couldn't remember the "name", so I couldn't go to his profile.
i don’t get that either; you might as well be set as invisible.
EDIT: this is in reference to people who are always set at away. not the person who does it occasionally.
Just use the black box feature... if they wanna visit it can be done via black box. I've used the big chat box before, but the black box works well also.
The only time I go invisible is while writing. However I have a couple of friends who do it because they are not in the mood to chat. It is confusing, but it is what it is.
I learned early on to stay invisible because every time I showed online on Lush, there would be 5+ guys wanting to chat at once. My close friends all know I keep a tab open on Lush both at work and at home, so if they try a BB, I'll respond if I'm close enough to hear the chime, and not otherwise occupied.
I am almost always invisible, and just tell people to BB me, and if I'm around I will answer it. I have kids around, and I am often working as well, so I jump on and off Lush for quick periods of time, and don't have time for extended conversations.
I think I have hurt people's feelings by friending them and then rarely talking to them, but it still lets me see what they post on their blog or in the Forum. I friend people I think are interesting. Even if I don't carry on conversations, I can still see what they are up to.
... it's common that people will add someone after an initial chat, and then never speak to them again. Like a one-night stand...
