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Do we get more kinky as we age?

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Annie_S
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This fetish comp made me seriously question this. It seems to be the case for me and now I'm terrified of the thought that one day nothing will exite me any more.
Leighton
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I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.

Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.
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I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.

Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.


Absolutely Leighton. Annie_S you need to take action and try what you want. If you don't enjoy, move on. I had a lover pass away after a long illness, but she taught me that life has no rehearsals!
GrayGhost
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Hope so , would not hurt the excitement level in life
Verbal
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Quote by Leighton
I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.

Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.


Agree with this absolutely. I think the older you get, the more open-minded you get, and the less you care about traditional boundaries, and what people think.

I also think that, given the right partner, it creates a great amount of trust, and allows you to explore together without fear of being judged. It's really kind of moving.
Leighton
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Agree with this absolutely. I think the older you get, the more open-minded you get, and the less you care about traditional boundaries, and what people think.

I also think that, given the right partner, it creates a great amount of trust, and allows you to explore together without fear of being judged. It's really kind of moving.


Verbal put it better than me!
1lush
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Myself the more I age the more different positions, acts, and toys intrigue me. Is it kink? But I see nothing wrong with exploring new ways of expression.
69Kisses96
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I have never been into what I think of as kinky stuff, but as I have gotten older, I am more open to things like anal sex, which was always a big taboo for me when I was younger. The other big change for me is foreplay. When I was 25, probably 20% of sex was foreplay. Now, it is more like 80%. That change has coincided with my increased focus on my partners' pleasure. I quickly lose interest in anything sexual after I have ejaculated, so trying to delay mine until she has had at least two orgasms has become a central part of the experience for me. I just wish I had known all that sooner.
kylie_kained
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I dont think we get more kinky it's more a case of our minds opening up to new things as we get older.
Annie_S
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I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.

Through years of sexual experences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.

Totally agree with the second part, not so much with the first part. Never really cared what people thought of me ?
Guest
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Not me, I've always been intrigued. The same things turn me on and turn me off for the most part.

I've become less inhibited, and of course moving out of the family home and in your own place, leaves you free to try whatever you like.
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As others have said, it may not be more kinky so much as more open-minded and less inhibited. That can lead to kinkier but not necessarily. I wouldn't say I'm more kinky than before, though I'd be more open to trying stuff (e.g. I sucked a cock for the first time at 49 or so).
bill11
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We get more experienced
browncoffee
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I'm 22 and anxious about how much kinkier I can get!
honeydipped
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yes. you're introduced to a plethora of opportunities as you get older and more often than not your mind has expanded and you've ditched hang-ups. i think it's a wonderful thing. how does the saying go? youth is wasted on the young.

Say. Her. Name.


browncoffee
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yes. you're introduced to a plethora of opportunities as you get older and more often than not your mind has expanded and you've ditched hang-ups. i think it's a wonderful thing. how does the saying go? youth is wasted on the young.


billy
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Oh definitely. See Verbal's response above, he nailed it.


“It's nice sometimes to open up the heart a little and let some hurt come in. It proves you're still alive.”
Buz
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Why not go ahead and get kinky now, when you can still do things without the need for chemistry?
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I certainly have gone in new sexual directions that I never could have imagined when I was younger. Part of that is my desire to live more completely, but part also is that taboos that existed in my youth have all but disappeared. I am so much more in touch with my sexuality now than ever before.

I just wish I still had my 20 year old body. I'm not sure if I would call it kinky, but perhaps more of a sexual maturity and openness. I think "kinky" might be defined differently by every one. What is kinky to you might be normal to me, or the opposite could be true as well.
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I think as we get older we realize time is running out .We have to fill that void with everything so nothing is left undone.I agree that now there are fewer taboos and more opportunities which is great aand Cyndy I also wish I had your body from 20 years ago in fact I d want it now lol
adi_me33
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By the minute....
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If by 'Kinky', you mean more open to sex and sexual experiences, then I became more kinky all in a rush. Through a long and very happy marriage, we had what would now be described as a 'vanilla' sex life. We didn't miss anything, because there was nothing much to miss. (I'm talking about the 1940s - 50s onwards.) 7+ years ago my wife died, I got a computer and OMG! I discovered porn. I couldn't believe it! I guess you could say I got kinky in a matter of days. I've calmed down a bit now, but it was quite a shock at the time.
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I think it differs with men and women. As guys get older, we tend to want younger women because they are more adventurous sexually and consequently we will try things we never considered before. Women, on the other hand, at least in my observation, tend to be more satisfied with tender (or sometimes rough) sex with the same partner because each knows the other's "hot buttons".
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I feel we get more kinky with age, I know I have.
Nick575
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I think it has more to do with conditioning than age. We are interested in "kinky" things because we find it taboo or exciting.. Until its not, then we want to push our limits to the next thing that is tantalizing until we hit some sort of internal wall. I think age is more an effect than a cause because it takes time to explore and experience.
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I think we do, yes. It may be a combination of things.
1. As we age we discover a lot of the shit we had pumped into our heads is just that.
2. Our interior braking mechanism starts to wear out.
3. We find that being good might have an eternal reward, but we opt for the here and now.
4. To quote the Joker- "and as for me, I'll never kill you because you just too much fun!"
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I definitely think that as we get older we begin to care less about what people think of us. I don't mean we become selfish but I've realised, as I've got older, what I want to enjoy and experience and I don't want to live a life of regret.

Through years of sexual experiences, I think we sieve through all the things we don't enjoy and concentrate our time on the things we do. I've also come to realise that sharing your 'kinky' fantasies with someone who is willing to be part of them brings you closer together and builds up a huge amount of trust and openness and helps sustain a relationship.


I used to worry endlessly about what people thought of me. I was afraid to tell my wife my fantasies for fear of rejection. I have found over the years, that what I used to think of as kinky, is really quite vanilla. I do have regrets. I don't regret the things I have been brave enough to try and do. I regret not going things that I really wanted to do.
I am now married to a wonderful woman who enjoys all things sexual and we have had some wonderful experiences. I tell her that if we had gotten together much earlier in life, we would most likely have gotten in a lot of trouble along the way.
The fantasies I have been fortunate enough to live out have been far better than my fantasies.

As we get older, we tend to worry less and enjoys things more, especially things of a sexual and kinky nature.
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Yes! My wife went from being a conservative dresser, shy during sex, to a nudist(been to a few resorts) that fucks better than some professional women I've been with. She likes to flash and watch me run to her. We fuck in the swing, she wears panties with a remote control vibe, I had to put a vibrator in the bike seat. Wow!
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I think its more the generation because the younger ones know and learn more than there parents , I was doing things way before my mom ever did for my age