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Wife/girlfriend confesses she may be bisexual?

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Once I got over the shock, I'd talk to her, let her know that I'm supportive and give permission for her to explore that need. I would also probably let her know about my own bisexuality. Perhaps we can come to some accommodation. She gets to have female lovers, I get to have male lovers. Or maybe we find a willing bi couple for some swapping or group play. It comes down to finding out what both of us want and are comfortable with.
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I can sit here and say I tried to get her to do just that. She has plenty of bi friends that have expressed interest. She just will not do it. I would like to think I would tell her to go for it. But wouldnt know for sure unless it really happened. Its not like she would be with a guy, which I could not allow. Double standard? Maybe. Just the way it is.
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Quite a few years ago I did notice how my wife got very turned on by watching lesbian scenes in porn. I asked her about it and gradually she admitted that one of her fantasies was to be seduced by another woman. I admitted to her that watching her with another woman was definitely something I'd love to see. We discussed it further, especially in bed, and it led to some amazing sex.

Eventually, after a lot more discussion, we decided to take matters further and I have had the pleasure of witnessing my wife enjoy the pleasures of saphic sex ever since. It also led us into the the swinging lifestyle and the discovery of the enjoyment of including others in our sex life.

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I was looking for a monogamous relationship. She said she couldn't be happy without satisfying her other sexual side. It ended.
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What would you say or do if your wife/girlfriend confessed that she would like to try having sex with another woman?


I would say "can I watch?"....
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... I would also probably let her know about my own bisexuality. Perhaps we can come to some accommodation. She gets to have female lovers, I get to have male lovers. Or maybe we find a willing bi couple for some swapping or group play. ...


I'd highly recommend exploring all that at your earliest opportunity.
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On a related note. A employee of mine for the past 13 years last year outed herself to me as bi. I imeadiatly confessed my own secrets to her. We found we are both very comfortable discussing our sex lives with each other & thats led to some very interesting workplace conversations.
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My ex wife was bisexual, but she told me that before we were married.

Never fully adjusted to it. It was not an open marriage but flirting some making out was mutually accepted. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never comfortable seeing her with women.
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I was looking for a monogamous relationship. She said she couldn't be happy without satisfying her other sexual side. It ended.


Wow, an honest answer. You're meant to say, 'I was overjoyed and had a seven-some with my gf and her stripper friends'.
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Wow, an honest answer. You're meant to say, 'I was overjoyed and had a seven-some with my gf and her stripper friends'.


No seven-way stripper orgies (not even a threesome). While I think most guys have fantasies about this, not every bisexual is into the idea of group sex. And I'm not interested in sharing my partner - doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. Anyway, I didn't hold it against her - we stayed friends afterwards, but there was obviously no future for the relationship.

I've never been in a threesome situation. I wonder how it works? I mean is it always teamwork, or do they sometimes get competitive (i.e. 'I'm better at sucking cock than you are' etc.)? That would be weird.
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I would say ok only if I can join ;)
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Quote by Pegasus4
What would you say or do if your wife/girlfriend confessed that she would like to try having sex with another woman?


Well, I don't have a significant other, but if I did and they confessed that they wanted to have sex with another person, I imagine that would put a serious strain on the relationship and possibly end it.

I think this question perpetuates a damaging misconception about bisexuality.
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As Biguy, I would say go for it. I would ask if I could watch or join in.
The romantic bi guy.

Stay horny my friend.
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My kind of lady, as long as she is willing to share and let mw watch.0
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If the woman with whom I was in a relationship confessed to me that she wanted to try having sex with another female, I'd respond a couple of ways. First, I would try to be supportive. I can't imagine that coming forth with such honesty about her desires is easily done so I'd want to ensure her that I was on her side. Second, a little bit of clarification would help. Does she want this to be a one-time thing? A continuing thing? Does she want to try it on her own or is a threesome in order? Lastly, I'd want to communicate my potential for jealousy. Even though it's another woman it wouldn't be impossible for me to find myself feeling inadequate (she is having sex with someone else after all) so there would need to be some reassurance from her that I could count on her for support. Once it's all said and done, I'd be on board for anything, albeit equal parts excited and cautious.

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I would support her and would have to ask what the future held for our relationship. If she wanted out I suppose there is only a goodbye for us.
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I would support her and would have to ask what the future held for our relationship. If she wanted out I suppose there is only a goodbye for us.


I would encourage her. I'd even hope she enjoyed it. Then ask her, when the time came, how she saw "US"---me and her and all three of us.
Whether a guy or a girl, it is better for the truth to be revealed sooner than later.
That is not easy for me to say as I have been crushed a few times. But when you love the other person, and yourself. You want what is best in the long run.
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If the woman with whom I was in a relationship confessed to me that she wanted to try having sex with another female, I'd respond a couple of ways. First, I would try to be supportive. I can't imagine that coming forth with such honesty about her desires is easily done so I'd want to ensure her that I was on her side. Second, a little bit of clarification would help. Does she want this to be a one-time thing? A continuing thing? Does she want to try it on her own or is a threesome in order? Lastly, I'd want to communicate my potential for jealousy. Even though it's another woman it wouldn't be impossible for me to find myself feeling inadequate (she is having sex with someone else after all) so there would need to be some reassurance from her that I could count on her for support. Once it's all said and done, I'd be on board for anything, albeit equal piarts excited and cautious.


This was almost exactly how we went about things when my wife told me of how she felt. Since, our desire and support for each other has taken us to discover many other aspects of our life and we've had so much fun since.

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I appreciate you sharing your curiousness with me, let me know if I can assist you you in anyway
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I would let her know that I like other men. TBH, it's probably more common than most would admit to.
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I had to think about this a bit.

Right now I am in a committed monagamist relationship. We promised to be true to each other. That said, I would never deny someone their feelings or desires. Everyone should be who they are. I would need to ask if she intended to try this out.

Everyone has desires that may or may not be met by their partner. Though I am completely straight, I certainly am attracted to and would welcome sex with other women I know. I don't act upon it as I made a promise. We both had several / many partners before we committed. So virginity doesn't enter into it. If she said that she needed to act upon her desire for women, I would probably suggest a separation timeframe where she could explore these feelings. Afterwards, she could inform me if she wanted to remain committed. If she did, great. If not, then we would need to determine whether to break up or go to a non-managamous relationship. That would be complicated.

If on the other hand we were dating exclusively, then I would suggest non-exclusivity. She could explore her desires, and I wouldn't feel trapped in the situation. The possibility of a threesome is interesting. This possibility might be complicated as I would have stronger feelings for her. I have had threesomes (both FFM and MFM) in the past (before we were a couple), but I was always the third party in another's relationship. I am not sure how I would deal with my partner with others.

My point is that depends upon the context of the extant relationship. Committed relationships seem different than steady but not pledged relationships.

In either case, I would wish her the best and allow her to do what she feels is best or necessary for her. What I would do is my choice. I am not sure I could be managamous with a partner who is not.
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I had to think about this a bit.

Right now I am in a committed monagamist relationship. We promised to be true to each other. That said, I would never deny someone their feelings or desires. Everyone should be who they are. I would need to ask if she intended to try this out.

Everyone has desires that may or may not be met by their partner. Though I am completely straight, I certainly am attracted to and would welcome sex with other women I know. I don't act upon it as I made a promise. We both had several / many partners before we committed. So virginity doesn't enter into it. If she said that she needed to act upon her desire for women, I would probably suggest a separation timeframe where she could explore these feelings. Afterwards, she could inform me if she wanted to remain committed. If she did, great. If not, then we would need to determine whether to break up or go to a non-managamous relationship. That would be complicated.

If on the other hand we were dating exclusively, then I would suggest non-exclusivity. She could explore her desires, and I wouldn't feel trapped in the situation. The possibility of a threesome is interesting. This possibility might be complicated as I would have stronger feelings for her. I have had threesomes (both FFM and MFM) in the past (before we were a couple), but I was always the third party in another's relationship. I am not sure how I would deal with my partner with others.

My point is that depends upon the context of the extant relationship. Committed relationships seem different than steady but not pledged relationships.

In either case, I would wish her the best and allow her to do what she feels is best or necessary for her. What I would do is my choice. I am not sure I could be managamous with a partner who is not.


This is more accurate for me too, in spite of what I said above.
Kudos Regnadkcin!
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I was married for some years to a bisexual woman (she told me when we were first dating).

While the relationship was monogamous, there was plenty of allowance for both of us to flirt and play with others. It didn't bother me when she flirted with men, but I was never really comfortable with the woman thing..

We eventually parted on friendly terms to follow our own separate directions (she by that time was getting pretty heavy into BDSM, which also left me cold).
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I would jump for motherfucking joy!
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jackpot....you let her experiment and wait for her to bring home the goodies smile
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OMG I would love it! I would insist we find her a bi friend asap and begin to explore her new found feelings!
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"It's about time!!! We get to do this together, right?! Let's get us, uh I mean you, some gfs!!!"
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I would be fine with it and encourage her to act upon her desire.
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I'd throw a party. My wife wants to but is too shy to really discuss it. VERY FRUSTRATING!!