I am inlove with my husband still but he is not in love with me. Or i think that at least we have a two year old together and were not legally married just a cermony of souls but he has no iterest in me anymore not sure if i should stay for our son or pack up and leave.
"Or i think that at least". You need to talk to him. When you do this, or don't do that, I feel this. Don't be confrontational. Just talk.
THAT is only a decision YOU can make. It will be a difficult life as a single mum.
It will be a difficult but may be essential for you and the kid to start afresh.
Is he a good decent guy, nice to you, and a good dad and provider to your child? Talk to him sanely, not in a confrontation. He may actually love you very much but be one of those people that has difficulty expressing their emotions. If so, he can work on that but you'd have to be patient. Communication is the key. Possibly professional therapy as a couple.
you're assuming that he's a good dad. what if he's a shit dad?
I was going to come back to that.
If he's the kind of dad that spends loving constructive time with his son, reads to him, engages with him etc - then it's going to be harder to break up the home.
But if he is non functional as a father - it might be worth having that chat and possibly moving on.
She never said he was a shit father - or even a shit partner.
My father is the product of a marriage in which his mother stayed with a man who didn't love her, and who constantly strayed with other women. As a result, my grandmother turned into a man-hating, cold-hearted bitch who transferred all her anger and blame for the women who had sex with her husband into my father, who is one messed-up, repressed SOB! It would have been far better had she left her woman-chasing husband and raised her son alone, without the years of bitterness she accumulated by staying with him. Children tend to absorb the latent discontent of their parents, and when they stay together merely for the sake of their children, the children take on that guilt for keeping their parents miserable, and that legacy rarely yields positive outcomes.
My parents got divorced when I was seven. Ideally, kids should be raised in a two parent home. Gender roles have evolved a great deal since I was young. What was good advice in 1959 is probably well down the priority list in 2017. As negatively as we may think of being a solo parent, the alternatives aren't automatically an improvement. I would encourage the OP to have an honest discussion with her husband and try to agree on what is best for both of them, and their child. IMO, that should be her priority. Just keep in mind that her child's happiness becomes more and more beyond her control as time marches on.