No need to hit - it does nothing but teach that violence is an appropriate response. Be calm and consistent with discipline. It's about about them learning and testing boundries and if you move them and/or lose your cool they will win. Trust me - hubby and I learned the hard way!
The best advice I can give is make sure you win each battle and remember you can't reason with a two year old. Whenever my kids threw a tantrum, they got no attention from me - no eye contact, talking, anger, cajoling etc. I'd stay close by to make sure they didn't hurt themselves, but that was it. On the surface, all they saw was the picture of calm. On the inside I was going nuts! The tantrums didn't last long, though.
Do not piss about with alll the mumbo jumbo advice
Just put your phaser on stun
any one of these #s will save your life and the kids.
There's others out there to help you as well. Give it a call. Trust me.
You could also threaten to make them live with DBarclay. That should scare them.
I get to look forward to all this?
Oh. Joy.
I'm just terrified I'll be like my mother and father. How my brother and I survived without being locked up is beyond me.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
We tried the spanking thing with our two kids, and was frustrated, too. Then my sister-in-law said to send him to the corner for a specified period. "It'll never work!" Well, it worked beautifully! The kid thought he was in prison. Try that.
ok here is your answer praise the good behaviour and ignore the bad ok.
do lot's of activities with her play catch or football
get out with her as much as possible
ignore ignore ignore the bad and praise her say to her when she's playing nicely say to her daddy reaaly likes it when...... you fill in whatever she is doing.
bend down and talk to her on her level don't shout just explain.
you don't need to tell off kids if you just explain what it is that bugs you about them.
half the time when there naughty its us parents that have been to busy so every now and then take a rain check and see how much time you've spent telling them that there being really good today.
hope this helps you, you'll get there and find you own way of coping
have some fun now , let her see that your a fun dad that listens and reads stories at bedtime stuff like that. getb to know her more
ha ha rofl i see what words you are playing around with i should have known somebody would have picked up on the daughter and daddy naughty bedtime them hhaa your a bad man Durrasch haha
I learned from watching my neice, who is now 4 1/2, that when she throws a temper tantrum she isnt upset cause she didnt her way, she does it to test my patience, I would sit her on the couch in the family room turn off the TV and tell her that she had to stay there, and she could scream / cry / whatever for as long as she wanted. I put in earplugs or earphones and did other things in the nearby area. Tantrums that used to be hours long are now just a few minutes at the most. Dont know that it works for all kids.
, thought this link might give you a bit of a laugh though!
