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What to do when he can't get hard?

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jen2017
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Serious question? Im not sure what to do when he can't get hard....
Do i keep trying? for how long?
Do i say Im sorry?
Say nothing?
It's hard to no keep trying but I don't want to make him feel worse....
Any suggestions are helpful...
Love, Jen xoxox
monainohio
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keeo sucking and playing with it and put your finger or fingers in his asshole that is what I do
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Quote by jen2017
Serious question? Im not sure what to do when he can't get hard....
Do i keep trying? for how long?
Do i say Im sorry?
Say nothing?
It's hard to no keep trying but I don't want to make him feel worse....
Any suggestions are helpful...


Depends on the situation. If it is just an occasional thing, then maybe back off a bit. Cuddle naked and talk for a while (seriously, when I'm not in the mood, sometimes a naked cuddle feels good). Sometimes, things will start on their own. Find out if there are fantasies he'd like fulfilled and, assuming you're game, fulfill them. Maybe he's just lacking some kind of stimulation.

If it is an ongoing thing, then probably you need to look for causes. Does he get hard on his own (morning wood, masturbation, watching porn)? If so, then it may be psychological or you need to try other approaches to stimulating him. If he doesn't then it may be doctor time. Not necessarily for the blue pills, but you certainly want to see what could be causing it if it physical. Impotence can be symptomatic of some serious stuff.
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Usually when I can't get hard it's because I'm either too tired or there is something weighing on my mind. In those instances there isn't really much that can be done beyond calling for a rain check.

However, if he's in the mood and really wants to get hard for you but can't, then it could be a good idea to switch the focus to you. Have him play with you, kiss each other, and make noises that let him know you are really enjoying yourself. Taking his mind off the pressures of getting hard could be just what he needs to perform not to mention that watching you could be the inspiration necessary for him to rise to the occasion. Don't give up on making him hard in the heat of the moment but also let him know that it's okay to tap out and try again later.

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Seriouslyhorny1
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What he said ^^^^^ is exactly right
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I'm starting to notice women, all nurses so far, who keep a Cialis tab in reserve. I'd not recommend this, but have run across it a couple times in the past two years.

Age is slowing me down, sex other than penetration is the recourse until my penis pops up hard. Sometimes thats sooner sometimes its later. If the lady is focused on fucking a cock this makes it awkward. If she is more versatile then we seize the moment and use it when available & enjoy other routes to orgasm meanwhile.
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Try fucking his ass that always works
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I keep trying;)
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Quote by freakcouple69
Try fucking his ass that always works


That totally made me laugh out loud
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Quote by jen2017
Serious question? Im not sure what to do when he can't get hard....
Do i keep trying? for how long?
Do i say Im sorry?
Say nothing?
It's hard to no keep trying but I don't want to make him feel worse....
Any suggestions are helpful...



Never say "I'm sorry." Those words are erection repellent.

Dirty talk. Don't even focus on his dick. Play with yourself and talk dirty.

A lot of women will try harder to turn the guy on...but men are inherently egotistical and what really gets them going is knowing that they are turning you on. If you make it seem like a chore that you have to keep yanking on his semi-flaccid dick, you might as well just call it a night. Let him know how much you are turned on and things will turn around.

Or just lick his asshole. That generally works as well.
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Quote by DamonX



Never say "I'm sorry." Those words are erection repellent.

Dirty talk. Don't even focus on his dick. Play with yourself and talk dirty.

A lot of women will try harder to turn the guy on...but men are inherently egotistical and what really gets them going is knowing that they are turning you on. If you make it seem like a chore that you have to keep yanking on his semi-flaccid dick, you might as well just call it a night. Let him know how much you are turned on and things will turn around.

Or just lick his asshole. That generally works as well.


This works too!
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Try fucking his ass that always works


Now you're talking!
Emerson501
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Men are pretty simple. The general rule of thumb is: if his dick is hard, give him a blowjob. If his dick is soft, give him a sandwich.

Maybe he's just hungry?
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Quote by Emerson501
Men are pretty simple. The general rule of thumb is: if his dick is hard, give him a blowjob. If his dick is soft, give him a sandwich.

Maybe he's just hungry?


Wait a moment. If his dick is soft, shouldn't he be giving her something to put in her mouth?
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Wait a moment. If his dick is soft, shouldn't he be giving her something to put in her mouth?



Hmm, you may have a point there =d>
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Pat him on his behind as you send him out the door.
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Most men operate on the 20% foreplay and 80% penetration theory. If he is starting to have ED issues, the smartest thing to d is to reverse those percentages and focus on pleasing her more. Learn everything you can about a variety of foreplay techniques whose main aim is to give her orgasms. Learn to delay actual penetration so that if an erection just can't be maintained, you will still be able to get her off at least twice. Women are by nature more patient and empathetic than men. Take advantage of her patience and empathy for her to help you through the transition. It will be worth it.
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There could be mitigating circumstances that keep him from getting an erection.....exhaustion, stress, medication, a recent injury

It has happened to me before, and I continued stroking him and asked if its ever happened before. If I like the guy, and I do, if he is in my bed, I try to let him know its not a big deal. If its not an environmental issue, then I suggest he may want to see a doctor to see what might be causing the problem. This particular guy was just having temporary circulation issues. He ended up doing a fantastic job of pleasing me and I let him spend the night, even though that was not part of the original plan. Heaven forbid, there may come a day when I cannot get as lubricated as I like and I would hope the guy is as sensitive to me as I would want to be to a guy.
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...start working out, get a nice haircut, keep those choppers white and shave your gine.
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Becky,

Your post reminds me of what I think Lush needs in the Forums - an up-vote button. Thank you for the words of wisdom.
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There could be mitigating circumstances that keep him from getting an erection.....exhaustion, stress, medication, a recent injury

It has happened to me before, and I continued stroking him and asked if its ever happened before. If I like the guy, and I do, if he is in my bed, I try to let him know its not a big deal. If its not an environmental issue, then I suggest he may want to see a doctor to see what might be causing the problem. This particular guy was just having temporary circulation issues. He ended up doing a fantastic job of pleasing me and I let him spend the night, even though that was not part of the original plan. Heaven forbid, there may come a day when I cannot get as lubricated as I like and I would hope the guy is as sensitive to me as I would want to be to a guy.





BEST response so far ... sympathetic to the problem ... non-judgemental ...and caring.
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Tea and a chunky kitkat.
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just don't say things like "it's okay" or "it happens", go back to other forms of foreplay and end it with a cuddle. if it keeps happening talk to him
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Now Miss Bethany, you have once again confused me. Why are you administering a spanking (supposedly an act of sexual excitement ) and then banishment? I shall wait for an explanation.



Well, after teasing and sucking fails, the spanking is my half-hearted last try, then out he goes!
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Suck it and see.
NOLAHotGal
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Luckily we don't have that problem. If we did, I would just call Steven, Winston, Jason, or one of the other 7 male members of our private swing group or one of the 3 other bi gals.

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Umm... sit on his face lol
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I agree with Alison, if I'm not that will get me there in a hurry and her too ;)