I have been very sexually active for a long time. But BDSM has only become an interest recently.
In many stories and video the Submissive must ask for permission to Cum. I question if this is possible. When I am ready it is going to happen.
How is a Submissive Trained not to cum without permission?
I thought I had posted this a few days ago, but I guess not. If I have please excuse me.
Just before I climax the muscles in my thighs start to contract and my legs shake and if my husband is doing oral on me ,or having sex with me he can feel it and he stops and and my climax stops. Some times when I am tied up on the bed he does oral on me, plays with me with my vibe, has sex with me for like three or four hours without letting me climax. Sometimes I have been right "THERE" like loads and loads of times and in the end I am crying and begging him to let me climax, and when I do my eyes roll into the back of my head and I go all crazy and scream and cry but God it's wonderful, hahaha.
I don't know anyone who could do that.
It takes some time but a sub can be trained that way.
It is quite likely different for females than it is for males. When i had my Mistress, she had trained me somewhat not to cum unless she gave permission. As previously suggested, this was done by bringing me to the edge and then slowing down. I was also forbidden to masturbate unless in her presence, which meant that I sometimes didn't cum for a fortnight or longer. I couldn't honestly say that she would command "cum" and i would cum, but often once given the command i could cum with just a couple of strokes.
Of course part of my training in this area was severe punishments if i did cum without permission, and i often returned home with a purple bottom, for being such a naughty boy.