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Why can't many lush men chat first before cyber?

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Why can't the younger men on lush engage in some chat before trying to cybersex a girl? The older guys mostly do. I already know the answer most will give, because they're immature and think only with their little head. Some older men are like this too I've found. But it would seem one lesson all guys could learn is, chat a girl up first, get to where she starts to like you and gives you the signal she's ready to get dirty, and then cyber at her signal. I get so tired of phrases like, "What are you wearing? Are you wet yet? Like my cock?" and things like that before any real connection. I know, one girl's rant, but if I had a magic wand for lush, this would be the one thing I'd wave it for. 'Nuff said! GAgirl over & out. lol
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It's because the young-uns are not as suave and sophisticated as us older chaps. I wouldn't say I was old, probably teetering on middle-aged and young, but I talk for hours before get down to any real nitty gritty. Just how I roll.
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Fair question which unfortunately has no real answer other than that's how most men are. I believe most guys are here for a reason and it's not to make friends. My guess is men login generally cause they are already horny and wants a girl to talk dirty to him.

Plus a few of just us don't have any people skills. Girls like guys with skills.. nunchuck skills... computer hacking skills..
I just want to be someone's everything....is that a problem?
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Fair question which unfortunately has no real answer other than that's how most men are. I believe most guys are here for a reason and it's not to make friends. My guess is men login generally cause they are already horny and wants a girl to talk dirty to him.

Plus a few of just us don't have any people skills. Girls like guys with skills.. nunchuck skills... computer hacking skills..


monkey wrangling skills for the win.

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Lady GlitterGiggles
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Huh? Maybe they just wanna get off.
Lurker
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Because they just want to get off? Lol. IDK.
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Because they are uncouth and have no social skills.
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It's because the young-uns are not as suave and sophisticated as us older chaps. I wouldn't say I was old, probably teetering on middle-aged and young, but I talk for hours before get down to any real nitty gritty. Just how I roll.


Think Raza has the right of it.. not all guys want to jerk off straight away lol
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Why can't the younger men on lush engage in some chat before trying to cybersex a girl? The older guys mostly do. I already know the answer most will give, because they're immature and think only with their little head. Some older men are like this too I've found. But it would seem one lesson all guys could learn is, chat a girl up first, get to where she starts to like you and gives you the signal she's ready to get dirty, and then cyber at her signal. I get so tired of phrases like, "What are you wearing? Are you wet yet? Like my cock?" and things like that before any real connection. I know, one girl's rant, but if I had a magic wand for lush, this would be the one thing I'd wave it for. 'Nuff said! GAgirl over & out. lol


So what are you wearing, anyway?

Actually, chatting and/or cybering is not really my thing. I mostly just stick to talking shit on the forums.

Post-avant-retro-demelodicized-electro-yodel-core is my jam.

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A lot of women don't care and are also in need of a hot-chat release without any get to know you, so it's my take that the people who prefer it from the start go fishing until the get a bite.
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Well, for starters the immaturity and "thinking with the little head" is a huge factor, but it goes a bit beyond that and the lack of social skills. The younger men have not learned the importance of the other person in ANY relationship. The have not experienced what it is really like to have a woman enjoy the pleasures you can give them, and then return the same to you. It is all hurry up 'get it on' and over with so I can move on to the next. They will figure it out but what it takes is for them to be shown that isn't what gets you anywhere with the majority of woman. To be honest, it is like with children, if they get away with it once then they believe that is what will happen each time. Yes they are immature, but can be corrected. A newspaper across the nose works well. .

Part of the problem is the anonymity of the web, there are no real repercussions from what they do and say. If they offend someone they can just move on to the next. If they offend enough and have real problems with the people, they just change their name and start over. All they have to do is find someone willing now and then and they will continue. Now please, no one be offended by the next comment but the ONLY real way to stop it is for the ladies to stop saying yes. I understand and you have every right to (just like the men) just want to come on and get off. That is, btw, awesome that you want to and please do not EVER change, but if you allow the guys to just jump right into it, they are not usually bright enough to think they were just lucky and it was a one time deal, they believe, "MY GOD I am a stud, EVERY cunt on here will want me." Instead of believing that they were just a substitute for a dirty movie. Now, I am in no way blaming the Lovely Ladies of Lush, but that can open the door for them to believe it is acceptable.

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Fair question which unfortunately has no real answer other than that's how most men are. I believe most guys are here for a reason and it's not to make friends. My guess is men login generally cause they are already horny and wants a girl to talk dirty to him.

Plus a few of just us don't have any people skills. Girls like guys with skills.. nunchuck skills... computer hacking skills..


I really don't agree with the word "most", because I do believe the majority will not start a conversation in here with displaying their cock or the opening line, "Come on baby, suck my cock"
any more than they would do that the first time you meet them at Walmart. Not "most" but too many. Also, I taught my kids how to talk to people and act around others when they were very little. What they did with those lessons is up to them. Since girls like guys with "skills" I think more men should learn a few.

In essence I apologize for those of my gender that believe manners and civility have no place in cyber village, but I do believe that "most" men do not believe that way. I mean sure, we can be children, ego driven, horny pricks, but only after we get to know you .....


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I always like to chat with the lush ladies here before I even consider wanting to cyber with them.

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monkey wrangling skills for the win.



UHHHH Ma'aM, where do you want this monkey??




Ciao
There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.

Daddy has a lovely family - Daddy’s Little Family … https://www.lushstories.com/stories/flash-erotica/-daddys-little-family-.aspx

He is behind the curtain - Someone’s Watching ... https://www.lushstories.com/stories/masturbation/-someones-watching-.aspx

Some childhood memories return - Memories of Daddy … https://www.lushstories.com/stories/microfiction/-memories-of-daddy-.aspx

Just a ride in the country - Afternoon Distraction …
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She waits to keep a promise - Promises …
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I always like to chat with the lush ladies here before I even consider wanting to cyber with them.



AWESOME, see ladies I was right farmer_rogerak hit him up ......


Hey Rog, we'll compare list of names later *wink wink*



ciao
There are times she is kneeling out of obedience, reverence and respect. Those are the times it is okay to stand above her. But when she is kneeling because the weight of the world is just too heavy to bear … that is when You should be kneeling beside her.

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He is behind the curtain - Someone’s Watching ... https://www.lushstories.com/stories/masturbation/-someones-watching-.aspx

Some childhood memories return - Memories of Daddy … https://www.lushstories.com/stories/microfiction/-memories-of-daddy-.aspx

Just a ride in the country - Afternoon Distraction …
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/microfiction/-afternoon-distraction-.aspx

She waits to keep a promise - Promises …
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I prefer to chat & am not usually interested in cyber. I enjoy hearing about other peoples experiences & sexuality, even if expressed as fantasies. Some times a open conversation will excite me very intensely.
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I think there are more of us guys that are more than interested in chatting first and getting to know someone. Im sorry you seem to run into the guys that are just looking to cyber. Dont get me wrong, a good cyber is always fun, but its even better when you get to know someone a little bit first.
Advanced Wordsmith
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I hate when some one I don't no start off u want to suck my big cock I want to get to no the person first
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Why can't the younger men on lush engage in some chat before trying to cybersex a girl? The older guys mostly do. I already know the answer most will give, because they're immature and think only with their little head. Some older men are like this too I've found. But it would seem one lesson all guys could learn is, chat a girl up first, get to where she starts to like you and gives you the signal she's ready to get dirty, and then cyber at her signal. I get so tired of phrases like, "What are you wearing? Are you wet yet? Like my cock?" and things like that before any real connection. I know, one girl's rant, but if I had a magic wand for lush, this would be the one thing I'd wave it for. 'Nuff said! GAgirl over & out. lol


My guess is that the guys are missing the are of foreplay. It is so much better to get to know someone in a conversational sense before trying to excite them in a sexual sense. Much like life while stranger sex can be interesting, it is no where near as gratifying as friend based sex where you know how to play them like a virtuoso on a cathedral organ!
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Millennials are busy people. We ain't got time to piss about and get to know you. We just wanna see some titties, beat the shit outta our meat, and get the fuck on with our day. We got work to do, dammit.

Meanwhile, the baby boomers, with their nice little house in suburbia and their big ass car and a sweet pension coming in, have got all the time in the world to sweet talk you and butter you up while they're trying to get their old wrinkly cocks up.
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They assume you want to cyber and lack patience
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I mostly just stick to talking shit on the forums.


And very skilled at it I might add ;)


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Why can't girls not just try cybersex before engaging in some chat?


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Millennials are busy people. We ain't got time to piss about and get to know you. We just wanna see some titties, beat the shit outta our meat, and get the fuck on with our day. We got work to do, dammit.

Meanwhile, the baby boomers, with their nice little house in suburbia and their big ass car and a sweet pension coming in, have got all the time in the world to sweet talk you and butter you up while they're trying to get their old wrinkly cocks up.


Nominated for one of the week's best posts.

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Because most cant carry on a conversation. without using the word dude or duh.
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Because most cant carry on a conversation. without using the word dude or duh.


Duh... what are ya sayin' dude?

The best use of the word 'dude' in history goes to Lee Marvin as Liberty Valance. In fact, I wonder if he coined it for it's future usage. Sean Penn gets second best use of 'dude' for Fast Times at Ridgemont High.

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Quote by Buz
Nominated for one of the week's best posts.



It's an honour just to be nominated.
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Huh? Maybe they just wanna get off.
you hush girl!!!!!!lmao
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Lack of maturity, though honestly it can manifest at any age, and some young people aren't like that. I'm 23 and find the concept of jumping straight into it to be extremely odd.
Advanced Wordsmith
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A couple things. Some guys are clueless on how to converse with a woman. It doesn't matter their age.

I've heard from many women in this and other websites how a lot of guys will not try to have a decent conversation before the sex talk. I just shake my head, because it ends of making it more difficult for myself and others that want to engage in a conversation, a lighthearted chat to help pass the time and maybe become friends.

I think it is why a lot of women put on their profile for guys to stay away. I do know that there are women that are similar.

Anyway, I prefer to get to know someone before we get into sex, unless the little head has control that day biggrin :D :D
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Duh... what are ya sayin' dude?

The best use of the word 'dude' in history goes to Lee Marvin as Liberty Valance. In fact, I wonder if he coined it for it's future usage. Sean Penn gets second best use of 'dude' for Fast Times at Ridgemont High.



I beg to differ, as does this dude.

The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.