I constantly toy with the idea of my wife having sex with
another man. She knows its my fantasy, and sometimes while
we have sex, I whisper it to her in her ear and she just gets
WET! When I meet a male, I imagine what it would be like if
he was fucking my wife. I have even told my wife she should
hit on a guy down the street, she thinks about it, but says
nope, because she would be scared. But she always smiles at
him and hugs real close when he stops by. She even jokes with me that he is
going to visit her at night. This tells me that she does
get turned on by the idea! Is this a normal fantasy? I want
someone to seduce her, while I watch. How can I get her to
open up her legs to someone else? Help!
Wasn't this recently asked? My only advice: careful what you ask for.
Fantasy is one thing, but when you start bringing emotions into it you could end up with a result you never expected/wanted.
The idea of it might be enough of a turn on for her. She may not want anything more than that.
As they saying goes...Be careful of what you wish for as it may come true..
It is a powerful emotion to watch the one you love with another. Having experienced watching my wife with another man, it was very powerful. We make it that type of lifestyle work but the firm rules we have in place help make sure things don't get carried away.
The only advice I can give is to be absolutely sure this is something you both want....
I know several couples that have done this.
Interesting to note that none of them are currently together anymore (and most were relationships that were from 2-6 years long at the point it happened).
My thoughts are that it takes a special kind of couple to handle pushing this fantasy into reality.
But if you are just flirting with the idea, its best to have several more serious talks with her because she may not be looking for this to actually happen.. just as a fun fantasy idea to get you both hot when you are together!
As well with the couples I know who have brought others into their relationship/marriage, things are ok when the relationship is strong, but when things start to mellow (as many relationships do), or if you hit troubled waters, this will be the first thing you think of. The memory of this other man having sex with your wife may start to grate on you. And you might start to mistrust her when she is out and about.
Kind of like dipping your hand into the cookie jar, and before you know it you're the cookie monster!
Where does it end?
What limitations/boundaries will you have once you go down this path?
Just be sure you discuss them well before you begin!
Good luck!
Another point you should think about is how is the other man is going to react long term. Having sex is a emotionally powerful act and it is very possible that this guy down the street that you mentioned
may not be willing to except a one time encounter and probably won't be excited to have you watch the next time h wants your wife. Are you prepared to have him pursuing her? Is she? These are just some of the possible ways this could become a problem. Another is will he be discreet, or is he going to tell other guys that you wife may be in play?
I have toyed with this type of scenario before with past girlfriends. If you want to try it, its best to do it on vacation or some situation like that. If the women sees the same guy (or guys) over and over, then there is a chance that they will form an emotional attachment and that is a recipe for disaster.
Without going all the way, there are a few things that you can try to get your feet wet. When you're having sex, get your wife to tell you about some of her past sexual experiences in detail. If that gets you jealous, then its best not to go further.
Another thing that I like to do, is have your wife role play and pretend that she just got back from having sex with someone else. This can be very very hot, since she can get as dirty as she wants with her details.
These are good ways to test your own limits and let her know how much the idea turns you on. In general, women have problems with this type of thing because they fear that your opinion of them will change after. First, you have make sure that it won't, and second, she needs to be sure of that.
Good Luck
I am amazed in the 21st Century and on Lush that so many people are concerned about the after effect. I have been with many men and some have been observed by my loving husband and he as had experiences with a large number of woman, some view by me. If a partners wants to revisit the experience, I would think it would be a compliment to our open relationship and open mindedness.
If your really love your significant other, why would you not want your love to experience pleasure in every form and to observe them in their pleasure.
An opinion from this corner of the bed.
I believe that is a very normal fantasy sweets. and since you both get turned on by the idea, and you know she loves the idea, set it up. its probably that you're wife is nervous and shy, she probably doesnt want to come out and say to you, yes i want another man! kudos to her for thinking of your feelings. Id find a guy thats willing, secure a hotel room, take her to it and have him be there. she will probably be so surprised, she wont know what to do. i know someone that had another man walk into the room after they had already started fucking, she was so into the sex that all she could do was look surprised, things took their natural course from there, so you could try that too, that way your wife doesnt feel so much like she is being disloyal or a whore. just jump on it and i doubt either of you will regret it!!!! Kisses!
In theory, It would be amazing to witness. I would love to have another man fuck my wife. Like one said be careful of what you ask for. Jealosy is ugly and will end a relationship quickly. Once you go down that road, where does it end. You are going to want to have sex with another woman and rightfully so, but the more you push the envelop the more dangerous it will become for your relationship. If you can pull it off, then i wish to be a fly on your wall. Remember a man can disconnect his feelings while having sex and woman can not easily.
As a professional guy who has now been wit a few couples andwives...I am amazed how many men and women hve this fantasy.... I have found from my couple experiences with married couples...the ones that enjoyed it...did it while out of town....no last names or phone number exchanges.....just found aguy who was willing to fuck the wife in front of hubby!!! I LUV It....and they seemed to also!
R
Try and find a like minded couple and have a few drinks together and see if they are willing to swap partners.
It would be better for the both of you rather than just one of you to be involved.
In this way she has the benefit of another woman to discuss and confide with in regard to the sex she enjoys with you compared with the other guy.
You also enjoy the opportunity to watch your wife with another guy, with his partner watching with you. That can be a real turn on.
I have been there and done that and it has been a most enjoyable and fun experience.
Dancing-Doll has mentioned some of the pitfalls - discuss these together and make sure everything is in the open.
Lets know how you go.
there is a huge difference between fantasy and reality
fantasy.. hot steamy situation
reality..she might enjoy him more
so if she is IN to this and I am not saying she is
(bedroom talk is way different than daytime chat)
so my advice( NOT what I would do..as I don't believe in this but no judgment) is this......
talk to her out of bed about this
and gauge her reaction
if she is hell yeah
make sure to find a stranger not someone you know
if she is hesitant
leave it
your marriage is worth way more
than a fantasy
I recently went to the Caribbean for a week R&R. I stayed at a clothing optional resort and found what I expected. There were plenty of local guys who were more than happy to interact with the guests. Being single and horny I took advantage and will write about it eventually. The point of my post is that there were a number of obviously couples that were also taking advantage of the locals. It would start as a conversation (the wife was always wearing the most skimpy bikini available) and then usually drinks and then either soon or even the next day I would see them going to their room. The local guy would emerge a couple hours later. It was interesting to watch.
I do agree with somebodies comment about if u want to do this, do it on vacation. Now they know what it is like and they can decide about their future without ever seeing that particular guy again. I also agree it is dangerous ground except for couples that truly understand what an open marriage means.
As someone who, extensively, writes stories on the subject I suggest that you both need to sit down and think very carefully about entering into this.
Dancing Doll has already given you the benefit of her experience of couples she knows who have ventured into this. From my perspective of couples, wives and husbands I have talked with, the reality is rarely the same as the fantasy. The majority of the marriages may have survived but they take on a different perspective. Some couples have found that it has brought them closer together but mostly for others the intimacy is rarely the same and the bond between them is broken, even if they have stay together.
Maturity is the key and I don't mean maturity in years. Are you both mature enough to handle the emotional side of bringing in another person to invade that intimacy between you both? Do you both have a deep level of trust? And are you both strong enough to deal with the emotions of the third party.
It can make an exquisite fantasy but it can also bring pain and sorrow.
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
Screwloose and I are swingers....so we do this all the time. Often at parties with other couples, orgies or sometimes we have a guy visit who is bi..as Screwloose is and we both play with him. We are both into this and both enjoy watching each other have sex with other people. It does take a high level of trust. Sometimes Screwloose objects when I yell out advice across the room...lol
" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen
My wife has a boyfriend, for almost 2 years now. It is very intense, not for everyone. We have been married for over 15 years now, we love each other a lot, we have a strong relationship.
You already got some good advises from both views. Let me add my two cents.
It’s a man’s fantasy. In your case she knows it and its ok, than go ahead and start some serious communication. Lay some bricks, if the house is made of stone it may not fall. If not it will be stressed by every wind from every side and that's plenty enough trouble, but it may also fall. That's the end.
- Pick a stranger. That should at least take care of future indiscretions, cleanliness it's another beast. Since it was never done before, do it on a vacation trip or with someone that you would not meet again. At least the problem could be ending there. A good bet could be with a swinger couple willing to be with newbies as yourselves and with the understanding that only the man perform with your wife. Lots of swinger couples are willing to help and do that, even to just be semi undressed in a room with you guys. Do not do it with a newbie swinger couple, that says that can do things as you also say.
- Talk it out... before. Set in stone the rules and boundaries. Think of everything. Would you also like to see her down on him? Condoms? Where? How long? Kissing? How many times? Do not laugh. What if he leaves her exhausted with a smile on her face after he brought her to peak ecstasy 2 5 or 7 times. Also, you join in? Now you have to ask the guy too, what kind of closeness and interaction can he stand.. or you.. or her. Meet again? This are just a few.
Yeah, it’s so easy, hot, damn sexy and lustful to just think of your wife being naughty with another man. All of the above thinking and planning it kills the desire.
If however it didn’t... than review this (your) whole thread.
Have fun and be safe.
Choose n Practice Happiness
Life is simple; we are what we eat and what we read. Talk is superfluous.
In my 25 years of marriage, my wife steppe4d out five times. I loved it when she came back and gave me a cream pie and sloppy seconds.
I talked her into jumping the fence because it turned ME on - but - she doesn't ask permission nor keep me informed, seems the permission lasts forever.
