Topic The Zone
31 May 2012 01:05
Someone once called it my 'sub space' and I think that's a great way to think of it. My body all but stops responding to my thoughts and instead responds to the guy, his voice, his touch, or if we're apart, his words. Definitely more trance-like than a waking sleep.
Topic The Zone
30 May 2012 14:03
Hi all. Its Beck. Had a question about the zone. That trance like state that I, as a puppy/sub, get put into by my Owner/Mistress.
I sort of understand the need to be brought back down slowly so as to avoid a crash/depression but I wondered about the combination
of both word and touch. Like my Owner/Mistress will use either one. I wondered if it would be too dangerous for her to use both due to a
possible sensory overload? I also get that it can be very dangerous for a sub/pup to be left in that state for too long a time period. I think
I have gotten to the point where all she has to do is either lightly touch places and describe or even just describe when when talk over the phone/email
and I swear I can feel it. Like she branded me and I can feel the raised area. Anyways thanks in advance.
I think I know what you mean, I get into a state where my body becomes very responsive to words and touch. If I'm talking to someone online or over the phone, I can feel the things they are describing, in this state I just need to be told to cum and I do. Is this the sort of thing you mean?
If it is, then I don't have an answer to your question. I've been brought out of and bought myself out of that state in a few different ways, I've never thought of it to be dangerous to be brought out of it quickly, or for it to be dangerous to be left in it for too long
Topic Do women like wearing sports bras, regular bras, or no bra?
29 May 2012 15:22
Unless I'm doing something strenuous, I'll be wearing a regular bra. I will go braless sometimes but not very often, as Shylass says, there's a point where it becomes scaffolding and is necessary. I've only ever found one sports bra that works, it's squashes me down so much it's uncomfortable to wear it for too long, just long enough to do something healthy and active, then it comes off.
Topic The Lover Style Profile Test
29 May 2012 15:04
This describes part of me very well.
The Classic Lover
50% partner focus, 38% aggressiveness, 45% adventurousness
Based on the results of this test, it is highly likely that:
You prefer your romance and love to be traditional rather than daring or out-of-the-ordinary, you would rather be pursued than do the pursuing and, when it comes to physical love, you concentrate more on enjoying the experience rather than worrying about your performance.
This places you in the Lover Style of: The Classic Lover.
The Classic Lover is a wonderful Lover Style, and is the closest it comes to the classic images of the princess in the tower, or the romantic and chivalrous knight, or the hero/heroine from a Disney film. The Classic Lover is a treasure to find, though it can be difficult to do so because they sometimes tend to be shy and/or difficult to successfully court.
In terms of physical love, the Classic Lover again can be shy, and often needs more in terms of emotional security to feel comfortable than some of the other Types. Given the right setting, and the right lover, the Classic Lover can be a delight in bed.
Best Compatibility can probably be found with: The Romantic Lover (most of all) or the Devoted Lover, or the Liberated Lover.
Topic Orgasm During Sex?
26 May 2012 01:13
You're 18, there's plenty of time to see what the future brings.
For a long time I didn't cum during sex (other than anal), I'd get myself off afterwards while he laid next to me getting his breath back. In a four and a half year relationship I came during sex twice, once was after a particularly steamy chat with a friend on lush, so it didn't even have anything to do with my boyfriend! There were plenty of other orgasms but, like you, I wondered what was going on, especially as there were times when it would feel amazing and still nothing. Well, it turns out he just didn't do it for me. Since splitting up with him it's been a completely different story, now, instead of wondering if I will cum, I wonder how many times.
Relax, have fun and experiment, try different things with your boyfriend and see what happens.
Topic What's the longest time you went without sex?
24 May 2012 13:41
3 years and a month, I ended that dry spell 5 years ago. Since then the longest has been 14 weeks, I was practically dry humping every man who brushed past me - thank god that's over! I can't go that long again.
Topic Gals...hot or not?
22 May 2012 09:49
It depends on what else is happening, it wouldn't be a turn off but usually by that point I just want cuddles :)
Topic Do all women, have the caretaker trait, hard wired to their personality?
22 May 2012 08:35
As has already been said, it varies from person to person and it's certainly not true of all women. I always joke if I'm in mother hen mode and I frequently tell customers I'm turning into a grandmother, always trying to fatten people up.
In your case, unless we were already talking or you were a customer, I wouldn't just approach you to ask after your leg or to give you advice.
Topic Total honesty, please....How quiet are you??
18 May 2012 03:19
It depends on the circumstances, I can be incredibly loud, almost silent and everything in between. Some of my most intense orgasms have been almost silent, it's as though all my energy is going into cumming, there's none left to make a noise with. I've also lost my voice after cumming loudly so many times. I've surprised myself with how loud I've been sometimes. Generally, I don't know about loud but I'm not quiet.
Topic Favorite curse word
15 May 2012 00:55
Another one for fuck.
'For fuck's sake!'
'Go fuck yourself'
'Shut the fuck up'
'Are you fucking kidding me!!'
'You absolute, fucking arsehole!'
And the list goes on...
Topic How important is a man's height?
14 May 2012 03:01
I love a taller man, I'm 5' 4 and my preference is 6'+. It's not a hard and fast rule, I regularly bend it a little, and for the right person I'm sure it wouldn't be a deal breaker.
There is just something so lovely about having to stand on your tip toes for a kiss, or your having your head pressed against his chest as he holds you to him.
Topic Who do you attract?
11 May 2012 01:49
They seem to fall into two distinct groups, although there are always a few that don't fit in either group.
1 - Older, confident and dominant.
2 - Insecure guys who are attracted to my confidence.
Topic Spanking - Do you like being spanked?
10 May 2012 13:52
Like pushed up against the wall, face pressed against it, skirt pulled up and spanked hard while your pussy drools and then roughly fingered. Then bent over and fucked. With dirty talk to the max.
Yep, it can be a fun addition to any rough sex play. :)
Sounds like a great way to start a night.
Topic Sexual Insecurities - For Women
09 May 2012 03:44
Mine don't fit into one category. It's scary getting naked in front of someone new, but I'm aware enough to know that they're my insecurities and they won't see most of what I notice in the mirror. Then there's the worry about sexual skills, but for me it's not just about not being good enough in bed, it's not being good enough in general. They're equally big issues, so they're both my number one.
There's always the worry about them seeing my scars and asking about them, that's just a constant one in the background, that I choose to ignore.
It's funny how many insecurities you have when you sit down and think about it.
Topic Come introduce yourself and tell us a lil about you.
06 May 2012 09:46
It took me a long time to realise that I'm a sub (I really don't know how it took so long), so I'm still new to the whole thing. I think what attracted me most was the need to be owned, to know that I am serving them, pleasing them and my pleasure is for them.
Topic How many Lush users have you revealed your real identity to? How did it go?
02 May 2012 03:15
A few people know my full name, four found out before I set up a Lush only email address and of those four I'm still in touch with two. Of the other two, I no longer speak to one because we just stopped talking over time, and the other one... that's a long story. It didn't end well and it took months before they finally left me alone.
Since I switched to an email address without my surname and that uses a different username, rather than another one I use for everything, I have revealed my identity to some other friends, I even have one added on Facebook. I prefer that they know who I am because I chose to tell them, rather than because I sent them an email or showed them something I've put on Twitter. I have to be able to trust the people who know my name because by knowing it they can easily find me and I'd prefer to not have some guy from Lush randomly show up on my doorstep.
I also know the full name of a number of people I talk to on Lush. It's never been a big thing when names have been exchanged, it's usually their surname showing up on an email they've sent me, which means they need to be more careful.
As for who I've revealed my true identity to, I'm not too sure what that means, but there are a couple who I've shared a lot with, the same as I would with a non-Lush friend, and they've been lovely and kind and supportive. That's more important than whether they know my name or not.
Topic Favorite male body part?
26 Apr 2012 12:52
Big hands, strong arms. I don't know what it is, but they make me go all tingly.
Topic Wife is passed out
22 Apr 2012 11:25
even if you've discussed it previously, to my mind, if she is passed out, whether that's due to drink, drugs or is just in a deep sleep, then you are talking about non-consensual sex...
This is spot on, and no, I don't read incest stories.