Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic UK Country-wide Automatic Porn Ban
Posted 22 Jul 2013 14:21

So are we living in a dictatorship now,or a democracy,this is just the start people,what will be next. I agree child porn sould be banned,

It is!!

Yes, we need tighter controls and better relationships between internet providers, search engines, etc to make it as difficult as possible to upload, view and download the child abuse images. Of course we do. Of course the protection of children should be at the centre of this.

However, that is a separate issue to the one of children accessing images of adults.

it's all about education not censorship.

Swollen is exactly right, for the issue of children accessing adult sites, this is a matter of education, not censorship.

I get it. But how do you define rape-porn? Don't take this the wrong way PLEASE, but isn't our own Lushie reluctance section fairly borderline on this subject? At least, some of the stories can be.

I *completely* advocate the rape/child porn ban, but the ban on all porn disgusts me. *I also agree that it's wrong that children have access to porn.* It's the minority (those who decide to do the depraved, evil acts) who are ruining (yes, I said that) the pleasure that adult sites, porn and erotica alike can bring.

Surely the responsibility for protecting a child first lies with the parents? Surely it is their responsibility to ensure that there are child-safe locks/bans in place?

I do not like the government trying to tell me, an *adult* who pays taxes, works her ass off and is a functional member of society, what to do. I resent it.

Rape porn is something made by consenting adults to depict a sexual act that they, and others, enjoy and get off on.

Films and images of actual rape are totally different and should be, if not already, totally banned.

The two things are completely different and connecting them is wrong. I don't understand the interest in rape roleplay but I do accept that it is the opposite of actual rape - because those involved are consenting adults.

If we let them do this then it's the beginning of a slippery slope and soon they'll be telling us that it's illegal to have an image of someone being slapped during sex, or foreplay, despite the person being slapped being a consenting adult who actively wants it to happen, then nipple pinching, then hair pulling - where does it end?

And it all started because they were interested in 'protecting children'.

Like I said, protect children, please do. Children should be safe with adults, it is our duty to protect them. This blanket ban is not the way to do it.

Topic UK Country-wide Automatic Porn Ban
Posted 22 Jul 2013 13:43

From what I can tell, in order to ban access the way he wants would also block gambling sites, certain news stories, perhaps even discussions such as this - on non-erotic sites - which means it's totally unworkable. It's a knee-jerk reaction to make the Conservative party look like they're doing something helpful.

Also, Cameron is arguing that porn 'pollutes minds and causes crime' Huff Post Article

Cameron explicitly says that extreme porn can "pollute minds and cause crime". Cause crime? What about the thing that stands between the viewing of extreme porn and the commission of a crime - that is, the viewer? Does he not possess willpower and agency? "Media effects" theory lessens the moral responsibility of the criminal in favour of effectively saying "the media made him do it" - a weird argument for a supposedly conservative PM like Cameron to push.

If this goes through then it's a slippery slope to see what follows. At some point they need to accept that the majority of us are adults capable of taking responsibility for our actions, including looking at the sites they want to restrict.

The bad guys will find ways around these filters and kids wanting to look at porn will have a better idea of how to get around this stuff than their parents will. I am all for the protection of children but this isn't the way to do it. What happens if a parent wants to have access to these sites, how will they then ensure their children don't access 'those' sites? Probably the same way they do now.

They're also conflating child abuse with children accessing porn and to fix it they're going to put restrictions on everyone.

It's the same as most of the things this, and most, governments do, half arsed and just for show to please those Daily Wail readers.

Edited to add that porn is easy to target but the PM is ignoring page 3 and lads mags - surely it should be all or nothing?

Topic Watching guys jerk it...?
Posted 22 Jul 2013 12:30

I love to watch a guy wank, even better if I get to help out a little.

i slept at my friends place on the weekend and we put a hidden camera in her bedroom and we saw her brother jerk on my nightie when we were out. he had tissue but i saw a tiny bit on my nightie.

This just creeps me out, fair enough, if there's some attraction and there's been flirting and lots of suggestive conversations, otherwise, he's using someone's underwear as a masturbatory aid without consent, you may get off on it but did he know you would? And you've filmed him and watched it without his consent. Yes, he shouldn't have been in the room but that doesn't make it better.

Then again, this sounds like the beginning to a really bad porn film and like the perfect way to increase traffic to your profile page.

Topic Having feelings for your exes?
Posted 22 Jul 2013 12:03

I have, yes but, for now at least, that's done. I sometimes masturbate thinking about guys I've hooked up with.

Topic Is girls masturbating still considered taboo?
Posted 16 Jul 2013 15:06

EVERYTHING us females do that involves our own pleasure is taboo cussing

It's sad but this is so true.

Topic Would you meet someone off Lush for sex?
Posted 16 Jul 2013 15:04

Just one? Why be limited ;)

Topic What things baffle you about women?
Posted 16 Jul 2013 15:02

What baffles me about women. In short ... everything. Almost.
But mostly when I am asked to empathize with a problem BUT not help solve it.

Because I've given it enough thought and consideration and I pretty know what I need to do to sort it out. I don't need to go through it with you, I just need someone to understand what I'm going through and that's enough support for me to sort it on my own. You start trying to fix my issues and I'm adding a whole bunch of new issues to the list and nothing will get sorted any time soon.

And why, oh why, does everything need to be fixed? I'm not broken, stop viewing everything I tell you as a problem that needs to be fixed!

If your help and advice is needed to fix something then we'd ask you to help fix it!

Topic What things baffle you about women?
Posted 16 Jul 2013 13:36

I wear make up everyday for work, I work in a restaurant and it's all about presentation, we live in a world that tells us women look more professional when dressed in certain clothes and wearing make up. It's tough sometimes because during my time off from work I often have huge bags under my eyes, from the long working hours, that make me feel as though I look dead compared to when I'm all made up for work.

I have a few pairs of heels ad I only really wear them for nights out, otherwise, I'm in flip flops or my work shoes.

I put everything I might possible need for the day ahead in my bag (note that I say bag, not bags), the really important things are in specific pockets, that way I can't lose them. Or, certain things get put in my bra, it's called the bank for a reason ;)

When I'm looking nice maybe, just maybe, it's for me and not for you, and it would be nice to go to the gym and focus on exercising rather than catching some random bloke checking me out. Should I apologise for wanting a safe space where I don't need to worry about certain attention?

No, I don't like to ask guys out, I'm shy and it's difficult. I send out plenty of signals to men I'm interested in (taking off all my clothes and getting into their bed).

I've just broken up (for the second time) with someone who spent all their time trying to turn me into their idealised version of the person they wanted me to be. It's not just women who have their issues!

Topic The Rage Cage
Posted 16 Jul 2013 05:45

I am done being made to feel like I'm not good enough, like I have to change to fit into someone else's idealised version of me that I have no fucking interest in being.

I'm done with letting people make me feel like I'm not good enough and I'm going to listen to my instincts and go with what they're telling me to do.

I'm done with being treated like shit and being ignored and bullied into agreeing to things I'm not happy with, and I'm really fucking done with letting people ignore me when I say no.


And most of all, I'm done with you, I'm done with feeling scared and being stuck in a house with you blocking the door just having to say, 'one last thing'. I'm done with letting you bully me and sway me and manipulate me. I will never be alone with you again. Not because I think you might hurt me physically but because of how much you've hurt me emotionally, because you try and bully me and lay your shit on me every single time we speak, you have ever since we first fucking met.

And I am so fucking done with men for a while. This time I mean it when I say I'm going to take some time out to deal with my life and get things on track. I'm going to look after me for a while.

Topic Sexual Accidents
Posted 13 Jun 2013 15:04

Rolling off the bed, I didn't really realise it hadn't happened purposefully until after.

Moving over to someone to kiss their back and accidentally kicking them.

I'm sure there's plenty more but I can't think of them off the top of my head.

Posted 13 Jun 2013 03:11

Happy birthday, Gav!! Have a great day x

Topic What turns you off immediately?
Posted 03 Jun 2013 16:25

Pushy people. No means no.

Topic Übermensch Anyone?
Posted 01 May 2013 08:24

I can see why! He must think it's irrevocable if he then finds it acceptable to sell the slave on. Clearly signing a contract with him then gives him this 'right'? I'm still shaking my head and muttering under my breath about it. It's not often I'm at a loss for words but with this I really am. I just want to kick something, preferably that man in the groin, repeatedly!

Topic Übermensch Anyone?
Posted 01 May 2013 07:15

I watched the video and now I'm looking at the guy's website. I'm in shock and completely at a loss for words.

Topic When were you last spanked or caned by whome and why did you like it
Posted 01 May 2013 07:07

A few weeks ago by my boyfriend, which means that it's been far too long!

I enjoy being spanked for many reasons, part is the thrill, part is the vulnerability of it and most of it is because of my masochistic side - I enjoy the pain and I enjoy the marks the spankings leave.

Topic Do you ever get jealous when a guy on lush flirts with someone and you thought you had something heading?
Posted 30 Apr 2013 08:35

I certainly have been jealous in the past but as the others have said, you give yourself a reality check.

I've also had grief from others who have been jealous of my interactions with other men.

Topic going from online to Real life
Posted 08 Mar 2013 03:26

I have done it, I met my former Master through Lush, we got chatting and met very quickly after.

Good luck!

Topic how to deal with a nuisance caller?
Posted 04 Mar 2013 01:43

This might sound silly but has she asked him to leave her alone? No threats, no getting angry, just a calm and clear, 'I am not interested, stop contacting me.' If not, try it. Tell him there will be no more contact and if he continues to harass her then you will inform the police.

Block him on Skype, try to block his number through the phone company, if that doesn't work then have her save his number in her phone and in the settings forward his calls to voicemail. That way he isn't taking over her phone and she can call other people and doesn't have to worry whenever it rings. Keep all messages just in case you need them, otherwise, ignore him. If he continues to harass her and doesn't get the hint from being ignored, contact the police.

Topic Advice for first date with really cute girl please?
Posted 04 Mar 2013 01:36

Follow Trinket's advice and you'll be fine. Good luck!

Topic feeling rejected by my lover, this time to a video game: update: thank you to everyone who replied,
Posted 27 Feb 2013 01:27

I was with someone who loved me so much he had to spend every second of the day with me, but he didn't want to talk to me because he was engrossed in whatever game he was playing on the xbox - this went on for months, years probably. He saw me checking out Lush one day and told me to join, essentially so that I would sit quietly next to him, he didn't care that I was talking to other people, or what I was talking to them about. As long as I was sat quietly next to him, he was happy.

If I ever told him I needed a cuddle I was made to wait until he got to a convenient place to pause the game, I used to get excited from the conversations I was having on Lush and put his hand on me to feel how wet I was, more often than not his eyes wouldn't even leave the screen.

It sounds like your guy has a lot of issues but it's not up to you to fix them for him, especially when he's giving you what sounds like no support in return. It almost sounds as though he's using you to keep him entertained until the next game is released.

If you don't look after yourself, will he? It doesn't sound like he would. You need to look after yourself and put yourself first, only you can work out what's best for you. I left the guy I was with and I've never been happier, that doesn't mean it would be the right thing for you to do, but it might be worth considering.

Topic 1st Course of a 10 Course Degaustation Menu, this happens...
Posted 20 Feb 2013 13:45

Well, it was a Groupon special, the price was supposedly $200+ prior to the discount, which made it less than $40 per head.

Weevils don't eat pumpkins, so I knew it must have been a drop-in of some sort. If it were in the cup to begin with, it wouldn't have been floating on the top.

I know these things happen, I've bought oats / rice / flour / cereal before, which have been kept sealed, and seen those horrible skinny little things.

We carried on the meal after I'd complained. I was totally put off the rest, and although it was really good food, I couldn't enjoy it as hoped.

The owner said to me, "these things happen" and wasn't very apologetic.


He's going to end up on,au, for all the wrong reasons...

I'm a waitress and there are times people complain about stupid things, I still apologise, promise to inform the chef, and if necessary, I inform the manager to ensure their issue is dealt with. The idea that you had an insect in your food and their response was, 'these things happen', is disgusting.

Topic Glee
Posted 20 Feb 2013 13:02

You are so gay (p.c. version of course) , i love you bunny

Love you too!

Topic Glee
Posted 20 Feb 2013 12:50

I love Glee, I love it so much that I've been to see the live show, which was incredible. The voices of some of the cast are truly showstopping. The show covers some serious issues but mainly it's just good fun, when I first watched it I was expecting to hate it, I only put it on because I was stuck at work with nothing else to do. I've been hooked ever since!

Topic 1st Course of a 10 Course Degaustation Menu, this happens...
Posted 20 Feb 2013 02:53

I'd complain but more than likely continue the meal, but I'd be on high alert to see if I could see anything else crawling in my food. Something like that shouldn't happen but unfortunately, sometimes it does.

Topic How do you feel about cum leaking out of you during the day?
Posted 10 Feb 2013 07:54

I love it, it's a constant reminder of what happened that morning and it leaves me wanting more later

Topic Have you ever faked a orgasms and why.
Posted 10 Feb 2013 07:45

Yes, so that he'd get off me and leave me alone. Thankfully, this isn't an issue anymore.

Edited: It would start because it was worse to say no and deal with the fall out.

Topic What is the sparkle in an eye worth to you?
Posted 07 Feb 2013 07:36

People will do whatever they think they can get away with!
For some people , showing that they can push past any boundary is part of the thrill.
for other people , they do try to honor their commitments, but the need for a thrill is still there,
if they aren't getting the thrill, they will start to look for one
some can successfully divert the thrill into other areas
others can bury the need long enough

I took what loverboy said and changed it a little. It isn't about men and women, it's about people. Some will push their luck, some will cheat, some will do whatever it is they can get away with, and some won't even thinking about straying. I'm not sure how gender comes into it.

Topic A suit is to women what lingerie is to men
Posted 07 Feb 2013 07:08

That phrase fits me perfectly, there is nothing sexier to me than a man in a suit.

Topic The Gun Control Debate Thread.
Posted 05 Feb 2013 14:24

The 20 or so babies killed at Sandy Hook is part of this discussion. the value of those lives are somehow important to the Socialist , but the 55 Million US aborted babies (think human fetus turns into a human baby,,, most US States charge a murderer of a pregnant woman with two murders, that of the baby and the mother).

Are you also against vasectomies? Every sperm is a potential life, or the potential for a potential life