Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic what is the sexiest thing a Dom/sub has ever done/said to you?
Posted 24 Jan 2013 02:23

Getting me to the edge of an orgasm and telling me that I'm not allowed to cum yet, then continuing to hold me on edge.

His hand around my throat, it lets me know exactly who is in charge.

Bending me over, exposing my arse to him and giving me a good, hard spanking.

Although, nothing beats feeling his lips against my ear as he says my favourite word, 'Mine.'

Topic are you embarrassed about any features of your pussy?
Posted 23 Jan 2013 08:12

I get self conscious about it sometimes, I like how it feels and tastes, it's just if I ever look at it really closely with a mirror. I've never had any complaints, in fact, I usually receive plenty of comments, then again, these are from guys who want to fuck me or have fucked me, so they're opinions are biased!

Topic how many times have you fallen in love on lush
Posted 22 Jan 2013 10:00

More than I should have

Topic Missionary Sex
Posted 22 Jan 2013 08:03

It's my favourite. With my legs wrapped around him holding him deep inside me, his hands pinning mine to the bed above my head, his lips pressed against mine in a breathless kiss - what's not to love?

Topic A Sad Day A Hard Goodbye
Posted 22 Jan 2013 02:38

Ok, so educate me here. I'm not into this lifestyle, nor do I really understand it (or its appeal), so I really have to ask this question. Personally, I would not be a slave to anyone, nor would I feel the need to have that much control over another person. Sure, to belong to someone, submit to someone sexually, or be dominant towards them, I get all that, but I know this is on a whole other level.

So my question, why cant a "slave" be in this type of relationship yet still carry on an everyday relationship with the rest of their family (mum, dad, siblings, friends, even a job etc)?? Why would you make someone chose between you or their family or them feel the need to make that choice?? To me, this is how this reads. Maybe I got is ass backwards, but it sounds like an extremely selfish thing to do and over the top controlling (which I know is the point), but on the other hand, letting them go is extremely unselfish. No wonder I'm confused. Look, I'm not judging people on the lifestyles they chose to lead, I'm just trying to understand what the real deal is here. To me, if I love someone, yes, I expect them to be loyal to me as I am to them, but I would not make them feel like they need to ask for permission to do every little thing, and I have seen it in the chat rooms. "Can I masturbate Mistress?" I mean....

This post is probably going to piss a lot of people off because of my personal views, and if it does, I apologize, its not my intention. I simply would like to understand why this person had to make that choice. Thanks..

I don't know about the situation to be able to give you the answer, but from what I have seen of PM online and from his OP here, I suspect that he wasn't the one making her choose.

We don't know the details here and it's none of our business but generally, there's no reason why a slave would have to choose between their master and their family, if anything, the relationship with their master would improve other parts of their life, including family relationships.

As for why it happened here? I don't know, it's got nothing to do with me so I have no need to know, I'm just sorry for them that it happened and I wish them both luck for their futures.

Topic Crazy little things about you! <3
Posted 21 Jan 2013 04:24

I hate the sound of other people eating. Most of the time it's not so bad but if I think about it too much I find an excuse to leave

Topic Crazy little things about you! <3
Posted 21 Jan 2013 01:46

I take everything far too seriously, I find stupid things funny and can't stop laughing, I always laugh at my own jokes and despite being too open and too loud when I get to know someone, I'm really shy at first. Also, I still love to watch Count Duckula!

Topic How much does a woman's height matter to you?
Posted 20 Jan 2013 08:39

Giggles....You did! Big Hugs

Ok, if I met a man who was amazing and short, I wouldn't date him (even if I was single) because his height would get in the way.

I wouldn't let height be an issue with an amazing and short woman - as you well know

Topic How much does a woman's height matter to you?
Posted 20 Jan 2013 08:33

Well i'm 6ft1 and height makes no difference to me but short girls are more attracted to smaller fellas in my opinion and tall girls to tall fellas! This is my opinion!

I'm 5' 4 and I adore tall men, particularly if they're 6'+. I'd like to think that if I met someone amazing and short I wouldn't let their height get in the way, but the reality is that I went out with someone who was 5' 8 once and it drove me crazy. I can go as low as 5' 10 but no shorter

Topic Shaved balls
Posted 18 Jan 2013 16:16

Shaved balls just makes me think of stubble on my tongue while I lick and suck them.

Topic Ladies, do you think it is instinct that some of you submit?
Posted 18 Jan 2013 16:15

Do any of you ever find it instinctive to submit or have rougher sex with a dominant male? I sometimes think about what kinds of raw animal instincts lay below the surface of us all.

Like in nature a male lion will pounce on a female and have his way with her. The lioness can struggle all she wants but she isn't going anywhere. Do any of you ever like a guy to just take you and have his way with you? Do you think this is instinct that you get off on submitting or even fighting back (mutual here, not talking rape against someones will) for awhile before giving in to him?

Do you ever role play or simulate getting raped? I dunno, to me it seems like animal instincts play a role in our sex lives no matter how enlightened and civilized we think we are.

For me it's instinctive to submit to a man and to have rough sex because I'm a straight submissive. I struggle to fight back because it goes against my submissive nature. I love giving in to my instincts and going with what my body wants, satisfying him, serving him, pleasing him.

I don't expect my instincts to be the same as others, what about submissive men? Switches? People who prefer gentle, loving sex?

I enjoy some reluctance on occasion but I do not and will not role play rape scenarios, I've been through the real thing and I'm still dealing with it.

Topic Any regrets?
Posted 18 Jan 2013 12:14

I have had a lot of ups and downs, sexual and otherwise, since I was a virgin. Some really great and some were really, really bad. But each one made me the person I am today who I happen to like a lot. So with the possible exception of ending my marriage sooner, I wouldnt change a thing really.

Dont harp on the past, learn from it!!

I completely agree, other than a long term relationship that I sometimes wish I ended sooner, I wouldn't change a thing, everything I've been through - good and bad - had made me who I am.

Topic Is romance dead?
Posted 17 Jan 2013 17:04

It certainly isn't dead, for Valentine's Day my lovely boyfriend is taking me to his favourite restaurant, 3350 miles away in New York! I can't wait! Then there are all the other lovely little touches of romance that he adds to my day, wrapping his arms around me, holding my hand and kissing me on the cheek, on my neck, just because he feels like it. And it works the other way round too.

Without romance, life would be dull.

Topic How much does height matter to you ?
Posted 17 Jan 2013 08:28

I'm 5' 4 and I prefer 6'+ but I have dated guys shorter than that. For me it's almost like a fetish, there's something about a tall man towering over me that makes my knees go weak. I once had a basketball team walk past me and the shortest guy was at least a foot taller than me, I started drooling and had to wipe my mouth!

Topic very tight ladies
Posted 16 Jan 2013 02:30

I'm quite tight, I once had a nurse ask if I struggled having sex because my opening is so small! And yes, I have struggled at times but always with guys who skip the foreplay and go straight to the sex. Take your time, lots of foreplay, lots of teasing, keep talking and enjoy yourselves, laugh and giggle - it's fun!

Topic Body Hair on a guy
Posted 16 Jan 2013 02:27

Personally, I'm not that bothered. I go for the guy underneath the hair. If you're happy to get rid of some of your body hair then go for it, otherwise, who really cares?

Topic How do you liked to be spanked or to give them?
Posted 15 Jan 2013 08:37

I love to be spanked, it doesn't matter what with. I just like the feeling of being spanked. It's a big turn on. Even if I'm being punished it still turns me on though I know I've done wrong and do learn from what I did.


Topic When you suck a man's cock, is it because you are horny or do you just want to make him happy?
Posted 15 Jan 2013 08:32

Sometimes it's because I love it and all I can think about is having his cock in my mouth, especially if he's just been inside me, sometimes because I'm horny and I want it to lead to more and sometimes it's because he tells me to, which I love.

Topic Water Sports
Posted 06 Jan 2013 07:03

This is something that intrigues me and I would like to try if the opportunity arose

Topic Three Things That Guys Do That Turn You Off
Posted 06 Jan 2013 06:13

Arrogance - a little is ok, a lot isn't
Being submissive - I understand the need to submit but if a guy asks me to take control of him I lose all interest. I imagine it would be the same for him when I tell him I'm submissive and need a guy to take control of me.

Topic Oh God I'm bored but love my wife
Posted 31 Dec 2012 07:57

If you're hiding it from her then yes, it's wrong.

Try working out why you're not having sex. Do you listen to her, help her with things, talk to her about her day and tell her about yours, do you do things together, have quality time together, do you talk during the day when you're apart, have a date night?

Are you still attracted to her, is she still attracted to you? Is she stressed at work?

If you want to rekindle the romance in your marriage then you need to sit down with her and find out what's going on, there won't be a quick fix, but if you both love each other and want things to work then it'll be worth it.

Topic Best way for woman to cum (more often) while having intercourse
Posted 24 Dec 2012 06:44

Any position that provides more stimulation to my g-spot, then I just cum and cum and cum.

Topic Am I Just Crazy?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 15:49

Thanks to everyone for their responses. You've shown compassion and given me a lot to think about. A lot of you have brought up the "being friends" thing so I wanna give you my perspective on that.

We were good friends for a long time before we got together and helped each other through a lot of hard times, as friends. From the first time we met, we just clicked and that, no matter what else has happened, has been a constant. After we broke up, the relationship reverted, by default, back to that. Yes, I still have strong feelings for her but I don't spend time with her to try to persuade her to get back with me. Likewise, she doesn't hang out with me because she feels "guilty" about breaking my heart. We're genuinely friends and we would spend time together like that even if the relationship had never happened.

I understand people saying that I should put some distance between us and give myself time away from her. Indeed, I recognised that as a good idea very soon after the break-up. However, it has gotten to the point where we now spend time together as friends again (I'm finding this difficult to put into words). I don't even know how I would now go about creating that distance - we have classes together, we share mutual friends, we are part of each other's lives. Do I just cut her out of my life? Do I start avoiding her in hallways and ignoring her texts? Do I tell her, "Hey, I'm still insanely in love with you so we can't hang out any more."?

We just are close and I don't know how to change that. People often say you can't be friends with your ex but it's more like I'm exes with my friend (if that even makes sense) .

A little bit more information: We were together for nine months; not a terribly long relationship, I know, but my longest and it was, at one point, really going somewhere. We broke up after a miserable summer apart - something changed, we're not sure what, and she didn't feel the same about me physically (she felt awkward kissing me, holding hands, etc.). She felt it was unfair to me to carry on like that. So when I say "she broke up with me" it was more that her feelings had changed such that we both knew the relationship had to come to an end.

I know it sounds like I'm dismissing a lot of your comments but I'm not; I'm just trying to figure out how to actually best put them into action. There's part of me that really doesn't want to let her go and is even content to wait, however long it takes. I'm not unhappy about being alone, only about not being with her. I know that's not healthy but it's a very difficult internal battle for me.

Thanks again, really.

I can understand how difficult it is and I hadn't realised how much you're forced together through your everyday life.

Maybe you need to tell her that you're struggling with things as they are, if she's as good a friend as you say then she should understand. I guess you just have to treat her as one of the gang and avoid too much extra contact. It'll be difficult and awkward for a while but if it helps then surely it's worth it.

Topic where were you when you had your best Christmas sex?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 12:47

Christmas day 2012, at home, in bed with my current boyfriend.

Topic Why the world has to go on
Posted 21 Dec 2012 09:42

No worries, the Doctor has your back

Topic Just in case
Posted 21 Dec 2012 09:30

Never fear, the Doctor saved the day!

Topic do you watch when guy scratches his crocth in public
Posted 21 Dec 2012 08:32

Of course I will watch, I find it funny if a guy sees that I watch and feels a little awkward, LOL. That's my type of humor I guess ;)
Not making me horny at ALL;
This one looks much better;

What she said.

Also, I came a little bit when I saw the picture of Daniel Craig

Topic Would you meet someone off Lush for sex?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 07:26

I've done it in the past, as long as you're careful I don't see any issue with it.

Topic Am I Just Crazy?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 02:39

I agree, C; DD and OMKN have said it best...

Time, distance and distraction are probably what's best for you right now...

I agree that less/no contact would make it easier for you to move on, get some perspective, because while you still have a close relationship with her, I don't think it will be easy to do that. It will just perpetuate the feelings of hope, loss, regret etc...

You'll always notice things that will remind you of her; songs on the radio, things that you see which you'd normally share with her, times of year.. all the usual stuff...

You need space now, to get your own feelings in order, perhaps even to grieve, process and let go.

Perhaps once you've been able to do that, you'll be able to pick up a relationship with her? Perhaps you won't want to or maybe she won't. I think though, without taking a break from it, you won't be able to get to that good place...

Go have fun, get your end away! It gets easier, the more you do to fill the gap.

Good luck! xxx

Mazza says it best.

Topic Definite no no's
Posted 21 Dec 2012 02:35

Same as above, guys going over and over and over the same spot, guys focusing too much on my clit - yes, it's sensitive and you will get a reaction but I'm more sensitive somewhere else, then there are the clit obsessed guys who can't find the damn thing and very enthusiastically attack the wrong spot that provides no pleasure. And, not forgetting about the guys who just lick very gently, so gently you're barely aware that they're doing anything. If guys aren't going to put in a decent effort, I'd much prefer they didn't bother.

The main problem is not recognising the signs when I'm enjoying something, you know the sort of thing I mean, crying out, hands grabbing at the sheets or his hair, back arching. I wonder if they'd notice me twiddling my thumbs in boredom?