Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic Why the world has to go on
Posted 21 Dec 2012 09:42

No worries, the Doctor has your back

Topic Just in case
Posted 21 Dec 2012 09:30

Never fear, the Doctor saved the day!

Topic do you watch when guy scratches his crocth in public
Posted 21 Dec 2012 08:32

Of course I will watch, I find it funny if a guy sees that I watch and feels a little awkward, LOL. That's my type of humor I guess ;)
Not making me horny at ALL;
This one looks much better;

What she said.

Also, I came a little bit when I saw the picture of Daniel Craig

Topic Would you meet someone off Lush for sex?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 07:26

I've done it in the past, as long as you're careful I don't see any issue with it.

Topic Am I Just Crazy?
Posted 21 Dec 2012 02:39

I agree, C; DD and OMKN have said it best...

Time, distance and distraction are probably what's best for you right now...

I agree that less/no contact would make it easier for you to move on, get some perspective, because while you still have a close relationship with her, I don't think it will be easy to do that. It will just perpetuate the feelings of hope, loss, regret etc...

You'll always notice things that will remind you of her; songs on the radio, things that you see which you'd normally share with her, times of year.. all the usual stuff...

You need space now, to get your own feelings in order, perhaps even to grieve, process and let go.

Perhaps once you've been able to do that, you'll be able to pick up a relationship with her? Perhaps you won't want to or maybe she won't. I think though, without taking a break from it, you won't be able to get to that good place...

Go have fun, get your end away! It gets easier, the more you do to fill the gap.

Good luck! xxx

Mazza says it best.

Topic Definite no no's
Posted 21 Dec 2012 02:35

Same as above, guys going over and over and over the same spot, guys focusing too much on my clit - yes, it's sensitive and you will get a reaction but I'm more sensitive somewhere else, then there are the clit obsessed guys who can't find the damn thing and very enthusiastically attack the wrong spot that provides no pleasure. And, not forgetting about the guys who just lick very gently, so gently you're barely aware that they're doing anything. If guys aren't going to put in a decent effort, I'd much prefer they didn't bother.

The main problem is not recognising the signs when I'm enjoying something, you know the sort of thing I mean, crying out, hands grabbing at the sheets or his hair, back arching. I wonder if they'd notice me twiddling my thumbs in boredom?

Topic Having Cum on you breasts...
Posted 20 Dec 2012 08:02

I do

Topic Grimms' Fairy Tales turn 200
Posted 20 Dec 2012 08:01

The Twelve Dancing Princesses. I only remember reading it when I stayed at my grandparents, maybe that's part of why I liked it so much - it was a treat to read it.

Topic Happy Birthday Ravyn!
Posted 20 Dec 2012 02:15

Happy birthday! Have a fantastic day x

Topic The Christmas Lush Regret Amnesty
Posted 19 Dec 2012 09:39

I wonder if people confuse guilt with regret? (Maybe I am, here.)

Guilt is very negative, often misplaced and largely the result of something done intentionally. With regret, most often the only person you have to apologise to is yourself.

Regret shouldn't be paralysing but it should be motivating enough to make sure we do better in the future. It's ok to make a mistake, it's not ok to repeat it.

Surely a life with no regret would be like a life with no guilt: who would be impelled to repair any damage when you don't feel any of the consequences of your actions?

You're the guy telling us to unload our regrets so we can have a fresh start in 2013!

Topic Former FBI Behavior Analyst says the shooter "knew what he was doing" Don't blame ment
Posted 18 Dec 2012 15:32

The solution it identifying people who have such rage inside themselves. I don't know what you're talking abotu with volleyball and blame. The solution is fixing what is wrong within our society, not with fixing the symptoms... guns. It's like taking a cough drop for the flu.

Avoiding responsibility isn't evil. Some men avoid being responsible for fathering babies. They're not evil, dumb or misguided yes. Evil no. Evil is planning a massacre. Evil is choosing grade school children because you know they won't be able to defend themselves. Evil is killing your mother in her sleep. Evil is thinking that massacre is a viable option to anything going on inside your head.

Yes, I blame him. He knew what he was doing, it matters. Because there are others out there that would know what they're doing too. That's where the focus needs to be. Finding and interceding before it's too late. I'm assigning blame to him, damn right.

I've pinched this from the other thread about the same topic, I feel it bears repeating, especially when people keep trying to avoid the gun issue. I agree that the people are the problem but until a suitable way of finding them and dealing with them before it gets to this stage is found, limiting their choice of weaponry is key. I've highlighted certain sections.

New York Times
In Other Countries, Laws Are Strict and Work
Published: December 17, 2012

Like other shootings before it, the Newtown, Conn., tragedy has reawakened America to its national fixation with firearms. No country in the world has more guns per capita, with some 300 million civilian firearms now in circulation, or nearly one for every adult.

Experts from the Harvard School of Public Health, using data from 26 developed countries, have shown that wherever there are more firearms, there are more homicides. In the case of the United States, exponentially more: the American murder rate is roughly 15 times that of other wealthy countries, which have much tougher laws controlling private ownership of guns.

There’s another important difference between this country and the rest of the world. Other nations have suffered similar rampages, but they have reacted quickly to impose new and stricter gun laws.

Australia is an excellent example. In 1996, a “pathetic social misfit,” as a judge described the lone gunman, killed 35 people with a spray of bullets from semiautomatic weapons. Within weeks, the Australian government was working on gun reform laws that banned assault weapons and shotguns, tightened licensing and financed gun amnesty and buyback programs.

At the time, the prime minister, John Howard, said, “We do not want the American disease imported into Australia.” The laws have worked. The American Journal of Law and Economics reported in 2010 that firearm homicides in Australia dropped 59 percent between 1995 and 2006. In the 18 years before the 1996 laws, there were 13 gun massacres resulting in 102 deaths, according to Harvard researchers, with none in that category since.

Similarly, after 16 children and their teacher were killed by a gunman in Dunblane, Scotland, in 1996, the British government banned all private ownership of automatic weapons and virtually all handguns. Those changes gave Britain some of the toughest gun control laws in the developed world on top of already strict rules. Hours of exhaustive paperwork are required if anyone wants to own even a shotgun or rifle for hunting. The result has been a decline in murders involving firearms.

In Japan, which has very strict laws, only 11 people killed with guns in 2008, compared with 12,000 deaths by firearms that year in the United States — a huge disparity even accounting for the difference in population. As Mayor Michael Bloomberg stressed on Monday while ratcheting up his national antigun campaign, “We are the only industrialized country that has this problem. In the whole world, the only one.”

Topic I am truly lost, help me please.
Posted 18 Dec 2012 08:13

Hello guys and gals, here goes.

I've been with my current girlfriend for about 5 years, I'm 24 and shes 21, we've always had a really fun and healthy love and sex life and had no problems up to now, things are actually going really really great! She's just got a promotion at work which meant we had to move which made me working life a bit harder (i drive trains so often commute at unsociable hours) but the salary increase meant we couldn't say no!

Well anyways more to the point, last week she went out with her work colleagues for a Christmas party and I'd agreed to pick her up around 3am from the venue, but she later text me saying she would be staying at a friends and I could get her in the morning. When I picked her up she confessed to having drunkenly gotten a tattoo with a work friend, it is very small and discreet and on her ankle, I couldn't really tell what it was at first but when I asked she seemed a little odd and told me it was her friends idea. We got home and things got heated and I ended up going down on her, I noticed she tasted different but I put this down to her being partying all night, she was wetter than normal but it only made things better.

As the weeks progressed I've noticed she started wearing an anklet that matches her tattoo so out of curiosity I googled what it could mean, I wa thinking maybe it was a friendship thing or maybe something to show she loves me ( i dunno, totally confused) but it actually transpires that this 'design' means she's in an 'open relationship' and its almost a form of 'advertising' herself to other men? It also turns out it was an idea of a male colleague of hers.

What do I do?! How can I know if she knows? Surely she must? What do I do? I'm really confused at this discovery and its not mistaken, the designs are exactly the same! I want to marry this girl but is this her way of showing she has other intentions?

Help us :-( I loved how our life was shaping up, we bring in close to 100k a year and were getting settled in life..!!

His story has discrepancies, unless he meant, 'as the week has progressed', rather than, 'as the weeks progressed'. Even if its the former then he's got awfully suspicious very quickly.

Topic The Christmas Lush Regret Amnesty
Posted 18 Dec 2012 06:16

I could easily select all of them, there are too many things I sometimes wish I had done differently. The most important thing is learning from your mistakes, this is why I try not to beat myself up when I think about certain things.

Life goes on, we grow, change and, sometimes, we even mature. I appreciate the offer but I'm going to hang onto my regrets, they make me who I am and I'm happy with the person I've become.

Topic .
Posted 18 Dec 2012 06:06

I've tried it in the past and I have no interest in doing it again. I barely had any interest in it when I was doing it, but I'm a sub not a domme or a switch.

As someone else suggested, try the BDSM section.

Topic Abortion and the Death Penalty
Posted 16 Dec 2012 14:54

You're forgetting about the woman who has to carry the foetus, if she's been abused / raped / sexually assaulted why should she have to carry a foetus and give birth to a baby because you disagree with abortion? Surely her mental health and well being is important, or is it not as important as the foetus? Should she become an incubator for the unborn child and become a secondary citizen in her own body?

Also, innocent lives are lost through the death penalty. It's too easy for someone innocent to be put to death, so for me, its not worth the risk, and on top of that, it costs a fortune to do it.

If you want to argue about innocent lives being lost, then you should also argue against contraception and male masturbation, every sperm that is released without the chance to fertilise an egg is a potential innocent life wasted!

Topic At least 18 children and 9 others dead in Connecticut school shooting. Does this change your mind ab
Posted 16 Dec 2012 03:54

Its not the weapons that need to be regulated ,it is the people that misuse them. If someone wants to harm another they will find a way to do it . A stick ,a club ,a spear,a pipe bomb,a car ,maybe even beat them with a dead cat,who knows ? Until we the people can control the other people that have harm on their mind we will not be able to stop the attacks on innocent people.
There are no easy answers but I still hold with the fact that a gun will not shoot multipal people with out there being a person behind it .

I've taken this from the Americans Against the Tea Party Facebook page.

Topic has anyone said they love someone and not meant it !!!!
Posted 14 Dec 2012 08:17

I did with an ex, it was an awful feeling to realise that I was saying those words out of habit. I couldn't work out how to end the relationship and there were months of saying 'I love you' and desperately wishing he would go away.

Topic Royal Nurse Commits Suicide After Prank Radio Call
Posted 13 Dec 2012 01:33

The Royal's security should have vetted calls.....Princess Di's ex bodyguard Ken Wharf mentioned the switchboard would have been isolated under his watch and any member of the Royal family wanting to call would use a agreed number that the on duty bodyguard would have on themselves at all times.

The blame lies with the DJ's for making the stupid prank call and also the Royal Security.

I agree with you about the royal security. I remember reading about an actress in one of the soaps having to set up a password with her doctor because so many paparazzi were ringing pretending to be her, this way no sensitive information would get into the wrong hands. That was the level of interest in a soap star, everyone knows the interest in Kate is massive . It amazes me that something as basic as a password wasn't in place, nevermind any other security measures they could have put in place.

Topic Have you ever squirted?
Posted 10 Dec 2012 02:19


Topic The Rage Cage
Posted 10 Dec 2012 02:15

I'm tired, fed up and missing him. All I want to do is eat and eat and eat!


Topic Royal Nurse Commits Suicide After Prank Radio Call
Posted 09 Dec 2012 16:07

That she would rather be dead than be with them to seek comfort, help and peace? No. It is not anyone else's fault but her own.

I'm struggling to find the words to respond to this for the same reason as Little Bambi. I've known someone threaten suicide as a cry for help, only to be told by a medical professional that the only way he would be able to get the help he needed was by attempting suicide. Otherwise, the waiting lists would be so long he wouldn't get the help he needed in time.

You're assuming that this woman hadn't sought help, you're assuming that she was capable of dealing with her issues well enough to seek help, to ask for it.

The very idea that suicide is the 'easy way out', a 'selfish choice', is narrow minded and ignorant. It is the last option, people commit suicide when they can't think of any other way to make things better. They often believe that the world will be better without them, that their family and friends will be better without them. That thought process might not make sense to you, but someone who has suicidal thoughts often isn't thinking too clearly because they have serious issues that they need help dealing with.

It takes a hell of a lot for a person to ask for help, too many people can't find the words and too often they don't realise that there's something wrong; they're so used to feeling that way that they think there's something wrong with them for not dealing with things better.

Topic Would you sell yourself?
Posted 09 Dec 2012 08:40

Following this line of thought, are all men prostitutes in one way or another as well?

Topic Royal Nurse Commits Suicide After Prank Radio Call
Posted 08 Dec 2012 08:56

Funnily enough I was discussing this last night with a lush friend, it's tragic, but surely there would have to be an underlying mental health issue. I doubt this was the sole cause.

I agree that this wasn't the sole cause, but they were still out of line for making the call in the first place.

Topic Chatting
Posted 08 Dec 2012 06:48

Oh they are safe, I'd never share YOU! bunny

I wasn't worried about you sharing them, now I'm wondering just how many times I've made you cream your knickers!

Topic Chatting
Posted 08 Dec 2012 06:42

Of course!! They are safely saved under the file "WANK BANK"

And you told me I could safely send you naked pics!

Topic Chatting
Posted 08 Dec 2012 03:27

ohhhhhhh, (creams knickers) I do love when I get permission!!!

You must have been saving all the pictures I've sent you to be able to really do something. Otherwise, there's just the button you made me to play with.

Topic Chatting
Posted 07 Dec 2012 14:12

Oh behave you!! I will never!

and you keep up the peer pressure, i'll shop you too !! xxxx

Yes, but my ego isn't sensitive, I can take it evil4

Topic Chatting
Posted 07 Dec 2012 14:05

Oh he has drunken

Naughty, naughty Diamond!! bad bad girl!!!

This should be his AV for Valentine's Day!

Is it any wonder women can't stay away? Everyone knows that red is the colour for danger and women love a bad boy!

10 minutes of howling with laughter and that's the best I can come up with.

This is much, much funnier than the Borat mankini version!

Topic Chatting
Posted 07 Dec 2012 13:53

whoops, double post

Topic Chatting
Posted 07 Dec 2012 13:52

I'll think of something to say just as soon as I stop howling with laughter!

*wipes tears away* it'll be another few minutes