Forum posts made by freakycactus

Topic The Rage Cage
Posted 29 Nov 2012 01:26

Dear body,

Why did you have to choose now to be ill? Your timing sucks! All I want is to have a nice few days in London, but you have to have a cold and get lightheaded whenever I do something like walk up and down stairs. Lugging a suitcase around is going to be fun, nevermind anything else!

I hate you!

Topic Mythbusting
Posted 29 Nov 2012 01:11

The myth that if I act like a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow, and have cravings for chocolate, then I MUST be on The Blobb.

It isn't true. Sometimes I act like a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow with cravings for chocolate just because I am a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow with cravings for chocolate. It really can be that simple. angry7

I hate that, because you're female any emotion has to be related to your hormones and time of the month *rolls eyes*

Topic Moving on.
Posted 29 Nov 2012 00:58

I agree with Blaze. It takes time, patience, support from family and friends and remembering that most men, most people, aren't violent. The process of trusting again is different for everyone and it's also tough.

If you meet someone, or get back in touch with this guy, and you want to get to know them but find yourself pulling away, tell them why. Someone who is worth getting to know will understand, be patient and will try to help you through it.

You'll probably find that you have certain triggers, you'll have a different reaction to some things people say or do, than others would. I know I do. You said the relationship was 8 years ago so you probably know of some already, learn what your triggers are and you'll learn to manage your reactions to some of them.

Just remember, it takes time and it can often be a frustrating process but you've already taken the most important step, you've recognised a problem and you've asked for help. That is a brave thing to do.

If you ever want to talk, let off steam or ask questions, you're welcome to message me any time.

Topic are the Evolutionary Psychologists right? Do women really prefer the dominant alpha-male asshole typ
Posted 28 Nov 2012 08:13

How insightful - criticise everyone and yet offer nothing. It's a great shame you joined on exactly the same day that Arthur left, I have a feeling you would have had a hell of a lot in common.

Ding, ding, ding! 10 points! =d>

Topic Do you have a problem with men who have had a vasectomy?
Posted 28 Nov 2012 02:43

Not at all. Unless he was promising you a baby and wasn't honest about it, I don't see a reason why it should be a problem.

Topic Going without...
Posted 28 Nov 2012 02:39

Depends on how you do it, as long as you're wet enough there shouldn't be a problem but that's true no matter how often you have sex.

Topic What's making you happy right at this moment???
Posted 27 Nov 2012 15:39

Thoughts of Thursday

Topic Jealousy
Posted 27 Nov 2012 15:39

I'll deal with you later


Topic Have you ever been on a date and
Posted 27 Nov 2012 12:30

No, I'm sure I would have if the right opportunity had come up, but it never did.

Topic where would you like to be kissed first except vagina when horny?
Posted 27 Nov 2012 11:56

On the lips on my face!

Topic are the Evolutionary Psychologists right? Do women really prefer the dominant alpha-male asshole typ
Posted 27 Nov 2012 11:53

I think this thread should turn into a whac-a-mole style win a point if you catch ArthurG77 checking in on this post after claiming he shan't visit it again fish

'I won't be checking back here'....the most regular lie told on Lush evil4

10 points if you're the first to post after he comes back and finds something else to add to the discussion

Topic Do girls ever edge? (get really close and slow down to build up)
Posted 27 Nov 2012 10:59

Ha! I'll say!

And you call yourself discreet!

Topic Jealousy
Posted 27 Nov 2012 10:56

I wasn't sure if I should put this under the "relationship" or BDSM forum. I was wondering if a sub can be jealous. Well... Not that they can't be but as in is it a bad trait? Would you have to work on sharing your Dom with others? At the moment I can't, I am very jealous. I have a feeling that I can't be the only one out there. But is it wrong of me to limit a Dom's power by telling them I am jealous, therefore I can't stand having an open relationship?

If they're a real dom, you won't be 'limiting their power', they would want to know that this is something you aren't happy with. I know I wouldn't be ok with it - I don't share.

The best type of relationship has a basis in openness, honesty and trust. You should be able to discuss something like this and set it as a limit, as something you won't do, and trust that it's a line he won't cross.

the sort of master who likes compromise and agreement

I like masters and doms who are willing to compromise and agree things with their sub / slave, it makes them seem more human and stuff, much more appealing than one who has their unbendable rules that must always be obeyed, no matter what :-"

Topic Do girls ever edge? (get really close and slow down to build up)
Posted 27 Nov 2012 10:41

Sometimes, I'm rarely patient enough to do it though.

Topic Disagree or Agree?
Posted 27 Nov 2012 06:49

I used to get really grumpy if I had go without sex for long, the sex with my fiancé at the time was bad, really bad (as opposed to the awesome sex I have now). The reason I was grumpy was because I was missing the intimacy the bad sex provided. Personally, I think intimacy is more important for maintaining a healthy relationship, doing something simple like holding hands, sending a text to let the other person know you're thinking of them, a kiss hello or goodbye. It lets the other person know that you care and feeling loved is incredibly important. Sex shouldn't be more important than intimacy but it should be part of it.

Sex is an important part of a relationship but it should never be the most important part of it, unless it's a fuck buddy situation.

I've had long distance relationships and they can work, as long as both people work hard at it.

Topic How to hold an orgasm
Posted 27 Nov 2012 05:31

Why last longer?? Just have it.
Reason being, the female of the species can carry on and orgasm again many times without much trouble.
That's my view anyway.

I mean unless you are trying to specifically coincide an orgasm with your partner. Then I guess you'd have to lay off slightly on what ever is getting you to the point of release, just like men it's a matter of lessening the direct stimulation I guess, change position, change activity.

Agreed, unless I'm told to hold an orgasm or delay one, I'm not going to, I'd rather cum over and over and over and over again.

Topic Ok, girls, one word. VIRGINS.
Posted 23 Nov 2012 01:59

Now I want a man who knows without being told how to read my responses to his touch, and who can pick up on the subtleties of my breathing, or the sound of my voice.

I agree with this completely

Topic words change your life
Posted 21 Nov 2012 14:11

'Don't over think it, just jump, I promise I'll catch you.'

Topic say in brief about your feelings when his cock first time touched your cunt
Posted 21 Nov 2012 10:22

say in brief about your feelings when his cock first time touched your cunt

Which one? The very first time? Or any time?

The very first time I was nervous, very nervous and wondering what the hell I was doing when I didn't want to be with him anymore, and how something that big would ever fit inside me.

Thank god things have got better since then!

Topic Do you have any facebook friends as lush friends?
Posted 16 Nov 2012 02:52

I have one lush friend who is on facebook, other than him I don't think anyone else on my facebook is on lush, but who knows, everyone has their dirty little secrets ;)

Topic Abandoning a story?
Posted 15 Nov 2012 07:08

I have spent more thime than that agonizing over one word , and I suspect I am not alone in that regard.

I've spent more time staring at the screen wondering what the hell should happen next.

Topic Age,does it matter?
Posted 14 Nov 2012 08:54

A few months ago I was lucky enough to meet an amazing man, we connect on every level and are head over heels in love with each other, he's everything I ever wanted. He's also 17 years older than me.

The age difference isn't important, everything else is.

Topic Are you a sucker for a man in uniform?
Posted 14 Nov 2012 02:10

How about a birthday suit?

I do enjoy a birthday suit but it's not the one I meant, sorry.

Topic Are you a sucker for a man in uniform?
Posted 13 Nov 2012 14:06

No, but a man in a suit makes me weak at the knees!

Topic The Rage Cage
Posted 09 Nov 2012 02:07

How can buying lingerie be so fucking complicated? It's an absolute joke! I do my measurements and your website tells me I'm a 30AA - seriously!? In shock I check the M&S site, I'm wearing one of theirs now and they tell me that I should be wearing a 34AA! What the fuck! I'm wearing a 32DD!!


Topic Would you swallow multiple loads?
Posted 09 Nov 2012 01:24


Oh, I must have been good!

Topic Do you like getting your butt squeezed or spanked by your partner?
Posted 09 Nov 2012 01:22

Love it, especially if I'm left with marks.

Topic Your total turn off word?
Posted 09 Nov 2012 01:22

Over the years I've had a few, bitch was one but I don't mind it anymore.

What would really turn me off now is him wanting me to take control, fortunately, he doesn't.

Topic What do YOU fantasize about when you masturbate?
Posted 09 Nov 2012 01:19

I think of my gorgeous boyfriend and the things we do together, I also think of things he and I haven't done yet but will.

Topic when did you masturbate last?
Posted 08 Nov 2012 02:49

Last night - quite a few times