Nah, I'm a philanthropist.

I could use some philanthropy.

(Just had to say it).

Seriously, I had $50,000 in student debt when I left graduate school. Fortunately I was able to work it off by working in public service.

If I hadn't been, and been born with two X chromosomes instead of an X and Y, I would worked my debt in other ways.

It seems to me that this parenting idea loops back - as an example - to the thoughtlessness of giving everyone participation trophies, encouraged by parents who don't want their kids to have hurt feelings. It's an example of limited vision by the parent for their child's long term emotional well-being.

While bad parenting is probably part of the issues, you can't always blame the parents. A casual acquaintance of mine was mother of a shooter. She was a very nice person. She and the father were divorced, but but all accounts it was friendly divorce. They got help for their son and he was diagnosed with Asperger's (similar to Autism, but he bright enough to be admitted to
a university. The local paper publish excerpts from his journal. He felt so rejected. This was not the normal rejection that most of us experience one time or another, but a sense of
complete isolation and frustration. He was treated like a nobody, mostly by women, but men too. Maybe his parents were not perfect, but they were better than most. (According to newpaper account, when the mom read a disturbing note on her son's FB account, she immediately called her ex and they both dropped what they during and hurried to their son -- all in vain. The police were also called.

I'm sorry I don't have a pic to show what I mean, but my local drug store rearranged the merchandise.

Condoms are now found under a sign marked "itch relief."

After my knee injury last year I've had a number of women hold doors for me. The limp seems to still cue this after the brace and crutches were discarded. I'd like to reward them with dinner and great sex, but alas that aint happening.


Yes holding the door open for someone with a knee brace , or holding a package, or child, is a basic courtesy. The other day I was at the cleaners and held open the door for a young woman with a child in her arms. However, she clearly was reluctant to receive help. What is this world coming to?

Yes, left my dildo on my bed in hotel. p


I read an article about by someone who used toc manage a hotel. By corporate policy, they had a "lost and found" mostly for jackets and the occasionally cell phone. However, vibrators/dildos were often left behind too. Many guests returned to get their jacket or phone . . . no one ever came back for a dildo.

What is a date? Haven't had one since I got married. HAHA. I agree with Black1 why does cost have to come in to it. As long as the couple are having a good time, it isn't the world's business how much or little they spent.


Cost is very important, if you have a car payment or rent to pay.

Adding up, movie, the price of dinner, drinks, concert tickets, parking, gas etc. How much would you guess was spent on your last five dates?

Also, how much of total did the guy pay?


Just to be clear, I'm asking about real dates not "date nights" for committed couples.

Also, I mean the last five dates, whether that was with five different people, three different people or just one.

That I have done the cost of going to college is so high even some scholarships can't cover the cost and working at a fast food place or working in a store doesn't even come close to paying the tuition unless you want to work your ass off all the time and that still won't cover the cost. So yes I did rent myself out while I was in college. The next question yes I would do it all over again if I had too. People can call it what they want to but it paid my way though college so I had time for studies instead of working all the time a worry about the cost. Next question is am I a shame of what I did no I'm not.

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I know this is "the ask the gals" but I wanted to comment on this. When I was in grad school, I was flat broke. When I finished I literally had $16 to my name.

At one point, I went to the blood bank and for an hour of my time and a pint of blood I got $10.

I thought, if I was a woman, I would have been mighty tempted to make more than $10 for an hour of my time (and not have to be pricked with a needle)!.

That I have done the cost of going to college is so high even some scholarships can't cover the cost and working at a fast food place or working in a store doesn't even come close to paying the tuition unless you want to work your ass off all the time and that still won't cover the cost. So yes I did rent myself out while I was in college. The next question yes I would do it all over again if I had too. People can call it what they want to but it paid my way though college so I had time for studies instead of working all the time a worry about the cost. Next question is am I a shame of what I did no I'm not.

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I know this is "the ask the gals" but I wanted to comment on this. When I was in grad school, I was flat broke. When I finished I literally had $16 to my name.

At one point, I went to the blood bank and for an hour of my time and a pint of blood I got $10.

I thought, if I was a woman, I would have been mighty tempted to make more than $10 for an hour of my time (and not have to be pricked with a needle)!.

I was going through an airport the other day. A middle aged man was several steps ahead of me. Ahead of him was a 20 something. As we got to the escalator for baggage claim, the young
woman stepped aside and let the middle aged man go ahead. I thought she was lost, but in a selfish hurry I went onto the escalator and she followed behind.

A few weeks later, I'm at the post office. Again, a middle aged man is several step behind a younger woman. She not only holds the door open for him (he is in fifties, not his eighties!) but holds
the door open for me as well, even though I am clearly "last" . I have to mail a certified letter, it takes a while as I haven't done so in several years. I feel guilty going ahead of the young woman.

What is going on?

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Even though I am a respected, long-term professional employee, I don’t get much in the way of perks. There is no corner office or cute secretary to keep my appointments straight. No office at all, just a cubicle. But once in a while, meaning every three or four years, I do get to attend a professional conference. This year’s conference was in San Diego. This meant besides listening looking...

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